I think you are handling this very well. Your wife will come around, you are letting her make her own decision, that's smart. The elders probably know you are smart enough to make up your own mind, and there would be little they could do to change your mind and they would have to DF you if they forced the issue. They don't want to have to do that, so consider yourself lucky.
LisaRose
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The serious conversation with the wife about the cult- part 2
by OnTheWayOut inthe book study overseer hasn't asked why i won't come to the bookstudy, he gets .
be the month i stopped going to the k.h.
not going this week than it was about missing other meetings.. i told her that i would not be going to the meetings at all anymore.
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My wife "Rowan" needs of your support too.
by Gerard inmy wife 'rowan' was born and raised a jw, her father being an elder -a very gentle loving person, but an elder.. some years ago, she was betrayed by a close friend, subjected to a jc and was disfellowshiped & shunned.
the proceeding was completely void of mercy and love, it was much like a violation, a rape.
finding herself df'd was of course terrifying, but the most disapointing outcome was that her father sided with the elders.. eventually she discovered through select books, articles and this board about the fear-driven mind control ways of her religion.
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LisaRose
I have found meditation and journaling to be very helpfull in bringing out painfull emotions and memories and dealing with them. The JW Brainwashing teaches you to ignore your feelings so they just get buried. It takes time to work through this. Also they made me afraid to use meditation (unless you were meditating on the Bible!). Don't be afraid it's very helpfull.
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Some things that make mundane things better...like...[list yours]
by UnConfused in... having a big sink tub in the basement to wash the dog .
... an under the cabinet radio in the kitchen to easily turn on .
... having a mudroom .
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LisaRose
Automatic ice and water in the refer door.
Memory foam mattress pad, sooo comfortable.
Garage door opener.
Gas grill, no briquettes.
Netflix
A really, really good library. All the latest best sellers, plenty of other recently released books, happy librarians, self-check out.
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LisaRose
There was an elder that I used to hate, He was a bitter, smug, know-it-all. His wife used to sit there like a scared little mouse and never said a word. It turned out he was totally abusing her. The kids made her leave him as they feared for her life as she was elderly and in poor health. He then killed himself.
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Dreaming of a White Christmas - And how!
by LisaRose ini was wishing for a white christmas - here in the front range of colorado, it's not unusual, but we are lucky to get a few inches.
be carefull what you wish for.
we survived the "blizzard of 06" but snowed in, probably for a few days.
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LisaRose
I was wishing for a white Christmas - Here in the front range of colorado, it's not unusual, but we are lucky to get a few inches. Be carefull what you wish for. We survived the "Blizzard of 06" but snowed in, probably for a few days. 2 feet plus and still snowing
Trying to attach a picture of my backyard.
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Dreaming of a White Christmas - And how!
by LisaRose ini wanted a white christmas this year.
here in the front range of colorado, snow is not unusual but not guaranteed this time of year.
we are lucky to get a few inches.
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LisaRose
I wanted a White Christmas this year. Here in the front range of Colorado, snow is not unusual but not guaranteed this time of year. We are lucky to get a few inches. I guess you should be careful what you wish for. This is our backyard. We survived the "Blizzard of 06", but are snowed in, probably for a couple of days. Hope you can see this picture - I've never tried to insert one before
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Get Your Barf Bags Ready.....
by Sunspot inthis was just posted on an aol jw board:.
jehovah and jesus are really reaching out for those sighing and groaning over the detestable things happening in the earth.. .
thought you might want to hear some interesting news.. .
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LisaRose
My friend said to me "Hey I got a tract from your JW buddies, went right into the trash", I said "Mine too!". 50% my a...
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Do elders 'frighten' you?
by gypsytart ini put 'frighten' in quote marks because i'm not sure that's exactly the word i'm looking for.
i've been away from the borg for 10 years now, and it doesn't bother me these days when i'm called on by jws - most of whom i know as i'm living in the same area still.
i can quite happily stand up for myself to them - although i have to be a little careful what i say as i was a fader and never df'd.
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LisaRose
I'm not scared of 'em, but they kind of creep me out. ick.
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Suicide is a VERY bad thing.....
by lonelysheep inthat is the conclusion i've come to.
up until then, and because of my own depressed feelings, i have felt differently.
this changed for me last night, though.
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LisaRose
(((((HUG))))) my heart goes out to you. I had a daugter that was suicidal for 5 years, she attempted twice. Fortunately she got help and overcame this problem. No matter how bleak things may seem, where there is life, there is hope. Problems can be overcome, things get better. Never, never never give up.
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Merry Christmas to All on this Forum
by love2Bworldly injust wanted to wish everyone a merry christmas!
hope someday all who post here feel comfortable celebrating fun pagan holidays.
it's nice to be together with family and friends on holidays.. .
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LisaRose
Not only am I celebrating, I dressed as Mrs. Claus (with my Hubbie as the fat man himself) on Saturday at the co-op of business where I have my antique shop. We had a great time, I took pictures and handed out candy canes. I think you can safely say I have gotten over my fear of Xmas.