Yeah, I was surprised to get a hug last year from my uber strict JW sister-in-law, who shuns her own children, at my brothers memorial service. It seems that no matter how much much they have been conditioned to shun, there is a part of them that doesn't want to.
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Disfellowshipped at a funeral
by Yogapants inrecently at a funeral for an active jw, death was sudden and tragic.
was surprised that that one of the disfellowshipped children of the deceased was comforted by the jw's at the funeral.
i would say the majority hugged and said a few short words to the disfellowshipped child on the recieving line to comfort the family.
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Something interesting!
by John Aquila ini was invited to a small get-together by a long time friend.
we both served as elders for years.
he is in his late 70s.
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LisaRose
It makes sense to me that older people would have more problems with changes in the organization than younger people. I am only slightly younger than this group, I find making changes is harder than it used to be, when you like something you dont want to give it up, you want things to stay the same.
They have had more time with the organization as it used to be, now they are expected to junk all that and accept this shiny new organization, It must be very distressing. The religion they believed in doesn't really exist anymore. It's kind of sad though because the fact that the religion has morphed into this slick new marketing engine proves it was never the truth in the first place. But that is probably not something they could get their head around.
I feel bad for them.
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The Effects of Sexual Abstinence Before Marriage
by cofty invery interesting article on the psychology of sexual abstinence and the effects it can have on sex life after marriage.
it focusses on an evangelical group for single men called "the river" but the attitudes will be familiar to born-in jws.. ___________________________.
..respondents had been told, since they were young, that women were nonsexual.
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LisaRose
The rigid, outdated biblical stance on sex outside of marriage is a prescription for sexual problems. Masturbation is forbidden, which create problems as it forces young people to marry quickly for sexual relief, often before they are mature and can make a rational choices, and without fully getting to know their partner. Also, many young women who do not masturbate do not know what turns them on, so will struggle reaching sexual climax, and their inexperienced partner often will not figure it out either.
If two people are sexually incompatible, they will not find out until after marriage, at which points they are stuck, trapped in an unfulfilling marriage. Prudish attitudes about sex keep people from enjoying their sexuality and finding a suitable partner. A fulfilling, vibrant sex life is possible for everyone, but not if they are taught that sex is dirty unless it is between two married people.
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Hello everyone! I am new here and want to tell you about myself - my bio
by Hollywood20 ingrew up in east la in a bad neighborhood to a black mother and white father.
i never knew my father because he died in a car accident when i was a few weeks old.
my mother converted as a jw soon after when two sisters came to her door and offered her comfort, which was something she needed.
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I hope your mother appreciates the sacrifice you made for her. I am sorry you had to give up your dream, that is really, truly sad. If I had my life to live over I would have left the religion when I was 18 and not looked back, you have to live your own life. -
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2015 Jehovah's Witnesses Annual Meeting Lett warning about apostates CLIP
by Watchtower-Free inhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ja4z2-sf4ky.
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LisaRose
Ugh, that was painful to watch. The word apostate isn't even in the bible, so how could anyone have warned of them? And "wolves in sheep's clothing" are people who pretend to be believers but who are not. Apostates, otherwise known as people who left their former religion, are open about what they believe.
The only wolf in this scenario is rubber Lips Lett and his partners in crime.
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Why Do You No Longer Believe in God?
by Tenacious ini know this question has popped up from time to time but i really would like to know how you guys, those that no longer believe, came to that conclusion?
was it the wts and all its crap?
was it something you read?
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LisaRose
Reasons Santa must be God:
He delivers presents to children all over the earth in one night, so obviously he is all powerful.
Millions believe in their hearts that he exists.
He has a white beard, so obviously he is old, so he must be very wise, therefore God.
I cannot accept a world without Santa, I know in my heart he must exist.
The poem that starts "twas the night before Christmas" speaks of him, it's been around a long time, many have read it, proving his existence
He has a magic sleigh and flying reindeer, and thousands of elves working for him, therefore God
And the number one thing that proves Santa must exist:
No one can prove he doesn't .
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Almost Hooked
by Yawritergrl inback at the end of last year my now ex got what he thought was a printed form letter from a woman at a kh down the street from us.
i insisted it was handwritten.
a few days go by and i decided to write this woman back.
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LisaRose
Her "friendship" was conditional on you continuing to study with her and progress in the religion. She would eventually have dumped you as a friend if you did not progress to meeting attendance and baptism, and you could never get baptized as a practicing gay person. It's hard to lose someone you are friends with, but it's probably best for you to move on. -
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I'm Catholic and madly in love with a Jehovah Witness...
by Luge62 inwe are madly in love with each other and she is in the process of being divorced.
let me make one thing clear i'm not the reason for the divorce.
she attempted to reconcile with him but to no avail.
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LisaRose
In my experience, as a former member for thirty years, the long term outlook is not good. Being in a religion like this, her thoughts and emotions have been manipulated. She may be in love with you, but eventually the guilt over the relationship will get to her. If she does stay with you, her religion will be a factor in your relationship.
If you get married, she will feel obligated to raise your children in the religion. They discourage higher education, have strict requirements for attendance and door to door work. They do not allow blood transfusions, voting, holidays or association with non believers. They believe they are the only true religion, all other people will he destroyed at Armageddon, which will he soon.
I get that you love her and you think you can make this work out, but you should know what you are up againet. It's a cult, and they also are highly critical of other Christian religions, especially Catholicism.
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Why Do You No Longer Believe in God?
by Tenacious ini know this question has popped up from time to time but i really would like to know how you guys, those that no longer believe, came to that conclusion?
was it the wts and all its crap?
was it something you read?
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LisaRose
Then again, science has found that strawberries and bananas DNA have similar characteristics to our own DNA
So what relevance does that have in the God/no God Debate?
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heartbroken and not sure what to do...
by Khaleesi ini don't know what to do.... i married last year and things have been very rocky.
we dated for 4 years and did have normal issues but always had a lingering doubt something was just not right in our relationship-behavior to be more specific, he is not a jw, but i am.
yes i know i married outside the "lord" but after my first marriage to a jw ended in divorce for physical abuse, i was glad i didn't married another jw.
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I was just wondering how you are doing, marriage problems can be overwhelming, so I hope you are doing OK.