He may be risking things now but he could have the mindset that if you get married and things settle down - he could get involved again. If that were to happen think of all the things that you would want out of a marriage but could not have.
dawgfan
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Impossible situation! Can it ever work?
by smily inwell, things have moved on...my jw man has been agonizing over whether he should be seeing me or not?!
if i was a jw it would all be different?!
is that not like saying if i was not "black,american,german,white ect" surely this is racism of some kind?
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An Observation of the dubs
by KW13 inone thing i've noticed with dubs is that anything that could possibly (no matter how small the link is) be related to the watchtower society, religion or even their own personal beliefs and thoughts - they are suddenly on the defense.. .
today me, my aunt and my mum were at the kitchen table talking about mind control and about how anyone could be made to kill, take their own life, hurt others, believe something e.t.c and mum was disagreeing with that, saying people have a choice.
then suddenly after standing up, when the conversation was nearly over she said "well i dont think i am being controlled" or something like that.
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dawgfan
In the past I may have been argumentative to my wife about some aspects of JWs. I stopped being that way but still today if I discuss anything religious and quote scripture (even using the NWT for her benefit) when the subject has nothing at all to do with JWs she gets all defensive and accusatory towards me about it.
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Well its over....
by kerj2leev inafter 13years of marriage, today it finally came to an end!.
it felt very strange as i entered into the court room, my attorney on the right and hers on the left.
we were the first group of 15 or 16 case to be heard today.
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dawgfan
Yes, there is no congratulations at all in that story. I hope you get all the comfort and support you need. Reading all the recollections about the past in your story made me very sad. I have a pending divorce and I know I will feel the same way when that day comes.
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To: JWs who are dating non-JWs. What are you thinking?
by Lady Lee inwe have a few ubm (unbelieving mates) here on jwd.
new ones join up and post here hoping to find out what is going on, what are all these crazy rules?
why has my mate gone back to the wts?..
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dawgfan
Great post Lady Lee. I only wish that I had the courage to seek and believe your advice 4 years ago.
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In love with a witnesss....
by city girl inhello, i'm new here...but i've been reading the forum for some time, but this is the first time i've posted.
i am stuck.
i am a non witness and have been seriously dating a witness for about a year now.
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dawgfan
"I feel that the only way our relationship can work is that if I convert."
--I'm sure he's a great guy but think through all the consequences that you will put yourself through by joining a cult. Its not worth it.
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Marage in trouble,
by Heavy Hearted inhi have a problem and am in need of help.
long story short my wife was one when we met, then she quit to be with me, now she has recently started to witnessing again.
and our marage has suffered extreamly because of it.
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dawgfan
It sounds like so far you are doing the right things. Follow your heart. I agree also that an
ultimatum may not be best decision because that would drive a bigger wedge between you and her.
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I was baptised tonight!
by ness21 inyay!
i was brought up as a j/w and my mum stopped going when i was a teenager.
i tried to get back into it as an adult but spent more time in the bible studies arguing, so i kind of realised after a few years it was going nowhere.. spent years just studying on my own cos i couldnt find a christian organisation i felt i agreed with and stayed clear of church cos of so called.
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dawgfan
Congrats!
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WooHooooo!! 1 year clean......
by crazyblondeb inone year clean from meth/ice!!
i wanted all of you to know what a role you have played in my life.
i can't even start to tell you what it means to me!!
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dawgfan
Good Job
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Marage in trouble,
by Heavy Hearted inhi have a problem and am in need of help.
long story short my wife was one when we met, then she quit to be with me, now she has recently started to witnessing again.
and our marage has suffered extreamly because of it.
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dawgfan
You said that you were raised Catholic. I don't know what your (or her family's) religious preferences are now but one place to get the Catholic point of view is Jeff Schwehm's website. He is a Catholic convert from JW. He occassionally posts here. www.catholicxjw.com I don't know your current situation but I thought that I'd post that for you if it would be of any help.
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Marage in trouble,
by Heavy Hearted inhi have a problem and am in need of help.
long story short my wife was one when we met, then she quit to be with me, now she has recently started to witnessing again.
and our marage has suffered extreamly because of it.
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dawgfan
If she grew up as a JW or has family that are JWs, then in order to keep the marriage intact and if you love her and want to get her out, you might have to exercise patience (bite your tongue sometimes when you really don’t want to) and take the approach to plant small seeds of doubt here and there (without offending her, family, or the WTS). If its all she ever knew, then you can’t take just assume that you can refute everything all at once and she’ll take it all in. Also, assuming that her family is JW, how did they treat her while she was out. And always consider her feelings about how they would treat her if she ever did leave for good.