Posts by megsmomma

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Should I wait to be questioned by the elders? or take my leave in advance?

by Thinking of Leaving in

hi everyone, i recently joined this forum as i'm close to being df.

i am suppose to meet with a judical committee soon but was thinking that i don't want to go through those personal questions that i'm sure the elders would ask.

does anyone know, is it better to just tell the elders before, say like on the phone, that i want to be df and not go through the committee?

megsmomma

If you do it.... please tape it and share I am glad I didn't do it though, after reading what others went through.

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JW Discussion Forum Poll

by zarco in

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as some of you know i am an active jw in search of the truth and i see many good and bad things in the organization i am interested in knowing the following from forum.

which of the following statements best describe your belief -.

1 - the wtbts is jehovahs channel and i believe what it teaches me (i had to ask:).

I believe that the Bible is God's word and that is how his words are communicated to us. I believe what you take from it is part of having a personal relationship with Jehovah.....and it can be different for each person.

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Which one are you ?

by moomanchu in

we all know those cute little computer symbols called "emoticons," where:.

> :) means a smile and.

> :( is a frown.. > sometimes these are represented by .

megsmomma

(/I/) I am a flat a$$ My hubby says I have a tiny heiny. Would that be the appropo signage?

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My Bethel Experience Part 12

by new boy in

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they say love is what makes the world go around.............and at bethel, us "new boys" would say..... "if god created anything better then sex...............he kept it for himself!".

how would we know?...............most of us never had it........didn't make any difference...........we talked about it...........fantasied about it...........dreamt about it..........i' m sure because we could't have it.

that is why we gloryried it so much..... hay!

megsmomma

Yay.....another chapter!! Though way too short!!

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I had a bad night saturday...

by megsmomma in

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i have an 8 yr old living with her jw dad and step mom.

my worst fear is that they won't let us talk.

i call her every couple days and i hadn't talked to her for a couple weeks.

megsmomma

Actually, my head has been spinning over this the past few minutes.

My daughter need braces. Her dad cannot afford it.(Works for his J-dub family with crappy insurance) My husband has great insurance and we would be (more than) willing to pay for them as long as we can get her on our insurance. That may be the way in for this to happen. I don't want to "take her" from them....I just want to know they can't "take her" from me.

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For anyone struggling to free themselves or loved ones from the Watchtower.

by nicolaou in

i just wanted to share an encouraging thought with anyone who is struggling to fade away from the watchtower.

six years ago, when i first started posting here, i was a ministerial servant with doubts.

my wife was an active sister and my 11 and 12 year old sons were enrolled in the theocratic ministry school and going out in field service every week along with their 7 year old sister.. there has been a lot of stress and tears along the way, my wife and i often wondered what our future would bring, but i can honestly say that we have made it.

megsmomma

Thanks for that. I know that is why I keep reading the boards. I love knowing that so many that are deep in find their way out. Also, having all the posters here giving encouragment and support with the day to day struggles of dealing with the reprocusions is a huge help to me as well.

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I had a bad night saturday...

by megsmomma in

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i have an 8 yr old living with her jw dad and step mom.

my worst fear is that they won't let us talk.

i call her every couple days and i hadn't talked to her for a couple weeks.

megsmomma

JWDaughter.....Those are some really good points. I would like to know I have some say in her life....and not worry about them being able to "wisk her away" at any moment. I will look into getting some joint custody, so I no longer have to worry about that. Thank you so much!

Man....that would change my prospective!! I can't believe I never thought about that!!

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to join or not

by dontknow in

i've had in the past studied a little about the bible with jws but have yet decided to be baptised.. i've just read lavenders' moving letter to her son and her love and well being for him is very obvious.

i do like the bible teachings very much and to this day i'm very interested in the end of the system of things which will very soon come to fruition; i'm a very strong believer, however i must stipulate to all, in retrospect i'm not sinless.

one of the posters says that jw's ask you to do a liitle bible study with them, attend one of their meetings and when you get baptised you have to do exactly what you are instructed or else.

megsmomma

JW's act as if they are the only religion to show true love. However, if you look (not so deep) into it, they really don't follow this. When you first associate with them, they do show ALL KINDS OF LOVE....but after being around them for a while, you can see how conditional it is.

People are not only removed for wrongdoing, but, a huge new trend is people being removed for not agreeing with what the society dictates....no matter what the BIBLE says. People in that position lose their friends and families, just like they did commit a serious sin.

Please be careful and keep researching things about this religion. The people themselves are often kind and trying to please Jehovah, but, they are being mislead to think that Jehovah works through the Bethel headquartes. Why would God go through the trouble of perserving the Bible if he was planning to have a group of men to tell everyone what to think and do?

I agree that you can learn a-lot of good things by studying with them, but...there is a whole lot of their own doctrine that you must follow to be a part of them too, and that is not backed by Jehovah's word.

Welcome to the boards....you will find lots of love here too.....as well as many other religions that don't put all kinds of manmade "rules" that you need to follow for acceptance.

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I had a bad night saturday...

by megsmomma in

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i have an 8 yr old living with her jw dad and step mom.

my worst fear is that they won't let us talk.

i call her every couple days and i hadn't talked to her for a couple weeks.

megsmomma

Vanilla....I am so glad you got your son back. I know it must still be hard when they have to go to get brainwashed on the weekends. I guess we have the same job of balancing things out. I try to do that with my daughter. Thanks for the encouragment.

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What a woman REALLY means!!

by crazyblondeb in

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i will be very honest and say, "i currently do all of these things"!!

) fine: this is the word women use to end an argument when they are.

right and you need to shut up.. .

megsmomma

I sent this tomy hubby.....here is his response! He is too funny!

Men: Is everything ok?
1.) FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are
right and you need to shut up.

OR - FINE: Something IS bothering you and you want us to figure it out... :)) Men: Are you sure? Women: Yes, stop asking, I just am not liking my hair right now and it is bugging me... Men: If you make an appointment, I will watch the kids, just tell me when... Women: Your the best honey!
Men: How long 'til we leave?
2.) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour.
Five Minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more
minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
OR - Five Minutes: When it is something that she really is excited about going and doing, then you better be ready in five minutes too. :) Men: Really, ok, I'll be ready.. (thinking you have 30) Women: Why aren't you ready? I am starving and can't wait to get to Red Lobster! Men: Uhhh, sorry babe, I will hurry, uhhh, 2 minutes, is that ok? Women: Fine, just hurry! ---(Using the women's version to #1 FINE) :)) Men: What are you thinking about?
3.) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something,
and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing
usually end in fine. OR - Nothing: You really mean nothing, because your in your own little world and enjoying it... :)) Men: Are you sure, cause we can talk? Women: Babe, really, NOTHING, everything is good. Men: Ok, if you need to talk I am here... Women: (Loud Sigh) --- (this is the women's second use of loud sigh, meaning, just leave me alone! I am being lazy and don't want to think, it isn't all about you... :))))
Men: Is it alright to swing by _______ after work?
4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It! OR - Go Ahead: A chance to relax and not have to cook dinner, cause you will expect it on his way home. He will bring it too! :) Men: Thanks babe! Call me if you need me. Women : I will, talk to you later. ----(this is a new women saying, I will means - Oh yeah I will call you, because your bringing home Taco Bell!!) :))

5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement
often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an
idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing
with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)
OR - Loud Sigh: See referenced in number 3 above... :)
6.) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women
can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard
before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake. I have nothing for this one... You never forget these things, so I agree with this one... :))))

7.) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question or faint. Just
say "you're welcome".
Does this happen? I will follow this advice when it does... :)
8.) Whatever: Is a women's way of saying F--- YOU! Ok, this one is Universal, you don't own it... :)

Men: Do you want me to do the laundry? 9.) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement,
meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several
times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man
asking, "What's wrong", for the woman's response refer to # 3.
OR - Don't worry about it, I got it : This also means, you can't do it nearly as good as I can, so I will do it. This also is a sign a superiority for women, feeds the ego... :))) Men: Really, I will do it for you, I know how hard you work and don't mind doing it. Women: (A smile and hug) Thanks hun, but I got it... ---(another new one! Version of the "loud sigh", but in a pathetic way... meaning - she thinks you are an idiot and wonders how you can even function without her.) :))))