Posts by bernadette

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First & Last, One-time post

by journey-on in

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i have been lurking for quite some time now on jwd.

my story is pretty much just like everyone else's, "only the names have been changed".

in reading your posts, i have both laughed and cried till tears ran down my cheeks.

bernadette

Hi journey-on

i really like paralipmenon's point

So my question would be, why let it be easy on her? Why give her an easy affirmation by shunning you? Why not call as often as you want? Invite her over for supper? Show up to help out? Make shunning you more of an effort than not and she might take the path of less resistance.

If they like being a JW, that is their own prerogative. You may have to accept that, but you don't have to accept their shunning.

You can actively show your love by not giving up on her.

Together with your philosopy regarding the Self it may prove to be an irrisitable combination. I'm certainly going to give it a try - the text for today is from luke11:13 for instance. JW's do have some truth one can use to get people thinking in a more enabling way

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LOVE, ALTRUISM & EVOLUTION

by Dansk in

i'm an evolutionist.

one cannot argue that evolution isn't a fact.

however, i'd be interested in the better informed amongst us here explaining in simple terms how the feeling of love evolved.

bernadette

There is a feelgood, wellbeing aspect to being loving and altruistic imo that perpetuates those qualities - both for the giver and receiver - a sort of cycle

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My first look at an 'apostate' site

by ThomasCovenant in

several years ago when i first started looking at tinternet i was still reticent to look at anything that may be taken as 'apostate'.

so typing in 'jehovahs witnesses' was not for me just yet.

however one little belief of theirs had always troubled me.

bernadette

The paedophile issue worried me. Soon after I typed in undeserved kindness on the internet. That was an eye opener.

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Is it wise to wake someone sleepwalking into the Watchtower trap?

by Gill in

is there a time not to speak out?.

is there a time when it might be better not to say something and put doubts into someone's mind?.

we, as a family are 'faded' for well over five years now.

bernadette

I think its wise for people to have both sides of the picture before committing themselves to anything. So my suggestion is to perhaps annonomously put info through their letterbox re websites such as freeminds to enable them to make an informed choice.

Some teenagers I know were getting involved - they'd go to the meetings every sunday - with a very dedicated sis and her teenager. Mum and dad were busy with work and thought it would keep their teenagers out of trouble if they got some religion. None in the family were having a study yet. I simply gave their grandma freeminds address and left it up to her. A young teenage cousin looked up the info on freeminds and shared with the 2 who were going to meetings. I understand they had quite 'interesting discussions'. The 2 teenagers decided to stop going.

My nonjw sister is helping another family she knows wherein the wife has decided to get baptized. I don't know how that one will turn out. Dad doesn't want to know but isn't opposed. How sad that situation will be if the wife goes ahead and gets baptized.

bernadette

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We are here for Adoption!

by new boy in

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i was taking to grace (mouthy) on the phone today in canada.....what a sweetheart she truly is.. we have decided to put ourselfs out for adoption.

since i have lost family members because of being a jehovah's witness for 52 years and since many here have lost wifes, husbands, children, sisters, brothers, mothers, fathers, and of course friends.. we have decided to put ourselfs out for adoption...............grace told me today she would be happy to be your grandmother to all that would like to have a grandmother..........i would love to be a father to anyone who would like to have a father.........that no longer has one.. we have this to offer to all...........the most important thing a parent, grand parent or friend can offer their child, grandchild or friend........and that is, unconditional love to all.......you are all perfect.the love that real family members may have is conditional.......but true love never is.

we are here for you all.............and anyone else here on this board that would like to be a grandparent parent, father,mother, sister, brother or friend ............. please let all here know now.. as the italians say "familia"...........we are family!........we are here for adoption.

bernadette

Hi grandma, hi bruv - I'm here too for adopting - hubby needs prayers too - lots.

love bernadette

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An explanation: Life*****sucks: And--

by onacruse in

first of all, i'd like to sincerely thank all of you who responded to (and called me, and p/m'd me) about my recent thread (read: blind raging rant).. i've had more time to think about why i reacted, and felt, the way i did, and i've talked to my closest friends, and i chose to start this separate thread because what i felt has more to do with jw/exjw/christian upbringing than the particular circumstances in which my rage was induced.. simply: my rage was because a raw nerve had been touched, a nerve that i thought i had long since healed---the feeling that nothing i do is ever good enough!!.

i remember that feeling as a jw: now a publisher, but, that's not good enough...you must put in more time.

now a vacation pioneer, but, that's not good enough...you must now become a regular pioneer.

bernadette

If you don't mind my asking: Is there someone close to you who can help you with this?

I come here a lot - and read a lot. My daughter is fading too. My non witness brother is very understanding and supportive. But other than that I have to admit life sucks

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What kind of hobbies would you like to try?

by Lady Lee in

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we were deprived of so much as jws.

service and meeting had to come first which meant putting a lot of interests on the side - waiting for the new world when of course we would be too busy trying to convert the resurrected.

i've tried many different things.

bernadette

My husband and I would really really like to do a sprint triathlon tog - and then maybe .........

A few in our cong and roundabout had been training before I started fading. I have access to all the facilities nearby - its just a question of putting my mind to it and getting the fitness in. That would be such fun.

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An explanation: Life*****sucks: And--

by onacruse in

first of all, i'd like to sincerely thank all of you who responded to (and called me, and p/m'd me) about my recent thread (read: blind raging rant).. i've had more time to think about why i reacted, and felt, the way i did, and i've talked to my closest friends, and i chose to start this separate thread because what i felt has more to do with jw/exjw/christian upbringing than the particular circumstances in which my rage was induced.. simply: my rage was because a raw nerve had been touched, a nerve that i thought i had long since healed---the feeling that nothing i do is ever good enough!!.

i remember that feeling as a jw: now a publisher, but, that's not good enough...you must put in more time.

now a vacation pioneer, but, that's not good enough...you must now become a regular pioneer.

bernadette

Can identify with your topic Onacruse.

In my situation - my hubby a very zealous elder - it seems to me that vibes and feelings of not measuring up and no being good enough are coming directly from him - but really they are there from my and his indoctrination. - so simple but so easy to forget. Need to keep reminding myself otherwise can see a huge wedge developing between us. Don't want to lose him to the wts.

thanks for drawing attention to this aspect.

bernadette

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