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  Passive-aggressive...Is it to be avoided?

  by onacruse in

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  hs, in view of a recent post you made, and also (much more importantly) because i want to continue to learn about myself, i would appreciate your (and, of course, anyone else's) observations about the following (bolds added):.

  dear cecil:.

  i hear this term used frequently, usually with reference to a coworker, child, parent, etc, who is being a pain in the ass.

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  I thought it was: passive aggressive = pushing buttons.
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  What's The *Dumbest* Thing About Jehovah's Witnesses?

  by minimus in

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  anything come to mind??

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  Wow! This is hard. The dumbest? THE dumbest? OK, give me a sec...

  Hmmmm, well... ooops....didn't mean to be offensive to anyone....
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  My wife is thinking AT LAST!!!!!

  by tooktheredpill in

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  hey guys!.

  i can't wait to tell you something that happened last night.

  in order to understarnd it, let me give you some details about me first: i'm still an elder, with my wife and the whole family and friends inside the borg.

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  That is AWESOME!!! Congratulations buddy!
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  Wow, I feel like an impulsive ass...

  by Mincan in

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  okay, so i'm talking to my friend on the phone, and i mention to her that i'm going to be asking my pyshiatrist for dexedrine next time i see him.

  (i think i mentioned this intention other times, anyway, dexedrine is a brand name for the isolated d-isomer of amphetamine, dextroamphetamine, and it is marketed to treat adhd.

  it was actually the first such stimulant to be marketed for this purpose, before ritalin and all the others.

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  Well, I think it's cool that you're giving up pot. But then that's from a non-pot-smoker so what else am I going to say.
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  Finally a prayer I can agree with

  by Bumble Bee in

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  ROFL-LMAO!!!

  That's hilarious.
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  how to help a loved one

  by FlyAway2 in

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  i come here today to ask for any thoughts on how i can help my girlfriend, an ex-witness.

  coming from a background of being raised in the "truth" from day one, and also suffering numerous bouts of abuse from an elder in her congregation as a small child, she seems to have now reached a point where she's simply dead inside.. i thought (foolishly, perhaps) that i could help her recover, "worldly" as i am, and not having been raised in such a religion, i believed i could help her learn that the outside world is not what she was raised to believe it to be; that there are good people out there, and a loving god as well.

  not one based on fear and hate.. unfortunately, as we've progressed through our relationship, i'm beginning to see the effects of the brainwashing used by the witness organization take its toll.

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  I just want to help her.

  And if she refuses help?
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  "Letter to God"

  by ButtLight in

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  a while back i started a thread about the two twin brothers, who were dfed for being gay.

  (the group nemesis).

  they came out with a single from their album called letter to god.

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  That's a beautiful song.
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  how to help a loved one

  by FlyAway2 in

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  i come here today to ask for any thoughts on how i can help my girlfriend, an ex-witness.

  coming from a background of being raised in the "truth" from day one, and also suffering numerous bouts of abuse from an elder in her congregation as a small child, she seems to have now reached a point where she's simply dead inside.. i thought (foolishly, perhaps) that i could help her recover, "worldly" as i am, and not having been raised in such a religion, i believed i could help her learn that the outside world is not what she was raised to believe it to be; that there are good people out there, and a loving god as well.

  not one based on fear and hate.. unfortunately, as we've progressed through our relationship, i'm beginning to see the effects of the brainwashing used by the witness organization take its toll.

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  I know it's bad because I ask what she wants to do in life, her hopes, her dreams, and she says "cease existing".

  She needs to deal with THAT before you can hope to have anything. If I were you, I'd sit down at a time that's calm for both of you and tell her that you want to talk about something serious. Start out by telling her how much you love her and then let her know that "cease existing" as a goal is something she should get help for. If she agrees, you may have something here. If she doesn't, I think you're in for a rough rode ahead.

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  I just read your latest entry. I guess I don't understand why her watching a religious program is making you so upset. Forgive me if I'm being rude, but it sounds like you want to control her. That doesn't ever work. If she knows that watching those programs pushes your buttons then there you have it. Why would you want to be with someone who pushes your buttons. On the other hand, if she is just confused about her spirituality, then are you ready for that ride? You can't tell her what to do or make her believe this or that. Her journey may bring her back into the cult and then back out again. There's no way to say. If you aren't ready for that or no you don't want that, then you need to have the frankest talk you can and make a decision.
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  I Got The Job

  by Abandoned in

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  i go in monday at 10:00 am to work out the details and total number of hours and such.

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  Thanks for the suggestion worldtraveler.

  Well a Snoozy hug sounds coozy. Ummm, I mean, cozy. ((((((((((Snoozy))))))))))

  Yeah, I remember writing that ibme. I'm not really sure what I believe at the moment. I think it goes somewhere between awe for the aspects of life that amaze me and disappointment that there's so much abuse, hate, and destruction. So, I guess I belive the god currently in charge has some serious issues, but someday the real guy will come back and explain why he had to leave us for awhile.

  Thanks for the well wishes Mary.
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  Sexual Harassment

  by reneeisorym in

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  i've had something happen to me at work and i just need some opinions .... i work at a store where i am the only female employee.

  we were short handed these past two weeks because someone quit and the new guy doesn't start until monday so they got a guy from another store to come fill in.

  i hardly know this guy except for him talking to me about business related things.

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  One comment would be hard to prosecute as sexual harassment, although I agree that was completely out of line. You probably could get him in trouble if you wanted to, but it might be a good idea to just let him know that you were offended and would appreciate him not make those kinds of comments in the future. Document that and be ready to move on to the next level if he doesn't honor your request.

  You could go right to the boss too and since he's from another location, you might be able to cause him a bit of trouble. I guess you need to weight whether the guy is really trying to harass or if he's just a bit of a moron.

  edit: Oh, you already made the report. Well, trust your instincts and your decision. He was out of line. Good for you for having the guts.