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  Advice needed.......

  by fifi40 in

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  i recently wrote a thread about my son who is being brought up in the jw religion by his dad, his dad and i share custody, so 4 or 5 nights of the week he stays with us............tonight i was taking him over to his dads (tuesday night meeting routine) and he was telling me about a school trip he is due to go on at then end of term..............he said his dad had filled in the medical consent form but had put no to the blood transfusion question...................i have been away for a couple of days and i usually get these forms first and i fill them in according to my beliefs not the governing body's...........anyway i said to him that if the school refused to allow him on the trip because of his dad saying no to blood i would do another form for him.............to which he replied that he wouldnt want me to and that his dad had said he would take him to alton towers (the theme park his year are going to) if the school declined to take him........ so where do i stand with this, does anyone know..............if my son required blood (he is a minor, 14) would my wishes over rule his fathers, would my wishes over rule my own son's (he is not baptised)???.

  i also spoke with him about several other things, briefly summarised as.

  1. just because you are taught something from birth does not mean it is right.. 2. i want him to check out things for himself thoroughly before he commits himself to the jws and i spoke to him about the consequences of getting baptised in relation to me and to any future thought changes he might make in the future.. 3. i told him jesus was not baptised until he was 30ish and that getting baptised in your late teens is probably not always the best idea.

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  Oh and dont forget we dont pay for medical insurance over here, unless we opt to privately, thanks to the National Health Service.
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  Advice needed.......

  by fifi40 in

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  i recently wrote a thread about my son who is being brought up in the jw religion by his dad, his dad and i share custody, so 4 or 5 nights of the week he stays with us............tonight i was taking him over to his dads (tuesday night meeting routine) and he was telling me about a school trip he is due to go on at then end of term..............he said his dad had filled in the medical consent form but had put no to the blood transfusion question...................i have been away for a couple of days and i usually get these forms first and i fill them in according to my beliefs not the governing body's...........anyway i said to him that if the school refused to allow him on the trip because of his dad saying no to blood i would do another form for him.............to which he replied that he wouldnt want me to and that his dad had said he would take him to alton towers (the theme park his year are going to) if the school declined to take him........ so where do i stand with this, does anyone know..............if my son required blood (he is a minor, 14) would my wishes over rule his fathers, would my wishes over rule my own son's (he is not baptised)???.

  i also spoke with him about several other things, briefly summarised as.

  1. just because you are taught something from birth does not mean it is right.. 2. i want him to check out things for himself thoroughly before he commits himself to the jws and i spoke to him about the consequences of getting baptised in relation to me and to any future thought changes he might make in the future.. 3. i told him jesus was not baptised until he was 30ish and that getting baptised in your late teens is probably not always the best idea.

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  Hi Misanthropic.....................50/50 it never went to Court or anything like that it was just agreed mutually between his dad and myself.

  Fi
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  Advice needed.......

  by fifi40 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i recently wrote a thread about my son who is being brought up in the jw religion by his dad, his dad and i share custody, so 4 or 5 nights of the week he stays with us............tonight i was taking him over to his dads (tuesday night meeting routine) and he was telling me about a school trip he is due to go on at then end of term..............he said his dad had filled in the medical consent form but had put no to the blood transfusion question...................i have been away for a couple of days and i usually get these forms first and i fill them in according to my beliefs not the governing body's...........anyway i said to him that if the school refused to allow him on the trip because of his dad saying no to blood i would do another form for him.............to which he replied that he wouldnt want me to and that his dad had said he would take him to alton towers (the theme park his year are going to) if the school declined to take him........ so where do i stand with this, does anyone know..............if my son required blood (he is a minor, 14) would my wishes over rule his fathers, would my wishes over rule my own son's (he is not baptised)???.

  i also spoke with him about several other things, briefly summarised as.

  1. just because you are taught something from birth does not mean it is right.. 2. i want him to check out things for himself thoroughly before he commits himself to the jws and i spoke to him about the consequences of getting baptised in relation to me and to any future thought changes he might make in the future.. 3. i told him jesus was not baptised until he was 30ish and that getting baptised in your late teens is probably not always the best idea.

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  I recently wrote a thread about my son who is being brought up in the JW religion by his dad, his dad and I share custody, so 4 or 5 nights of the week he stays with us............tonight I was taking him over to his dads (Tuesday night meeting routine) and he was telling me about a school trip he is due to go on at then end of term..............he said his dad had filled in the medical consent form but had put NO to the blood transfusion question...................I have been away for a couple of days and I usually get these forms first and I fill them in according to my beliefs not the governing body's...........anyway I said to him that if the school refused to allow him on the trip because of his dad saying No to blood I would do another form for him.............to which he replied that he wouldnt want me to and that his dad had said he would take him to Alton Towers (the theme park his year are going to) if the school declined to take him.......

  So where do I stand with this, does anyone know..............if my son required blood (he is a minor, 14) would my wishes over rule his fathers, would my wishes over rule my own son's (he is not baptised)???

  I also spoke with him about several other things, briefly summarised as

  1. Just because you are taught something from birth does not mean it is right.

  2. I want him to check out things for himself thoroughly before he commits himself to the JWs and I spoke to him about the consequences of getting baptised in relation to me and to any future thought changes he might make in the future.

  3. I told him Jesus was not baptised until he was 30ish and that getting baptised in your late teens is probably not always the best idea. He asked me why so many do then? To which I answered that there is a lot of pressure from the platform and parents.

  I think you will be getting the picture...............

  So in light of this it is likely I am going to be 'invited' to speak to his 'devout' JW father tonight (about the things I said to Alex), when he brings him back..........any advice on what tack I should take......

  Thank you in advance for your help

  Fifi
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  Is God A Mafioso?

  by nvrgnbk in

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  don yahweh: the "king" of the universeor consider the christian radio preacher, whom i heard the other day as he exclaimed that the bible says that, on the judgment day, all will bend down before jesus christ, some willingly because of love of his appearance.

  others will be brought to their knees by an iron rod that will break their legs.

  so the preacher pleaded, "submit willingly or have your legs broken.

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  "Just when I thought I was out.....................they dragged me back in"............aaaggghhhhh
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  What Do You Think of Lying?

  by Sarah Smiles in

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  how many people trust elders?.

  today an elder said,"elders lie because human imperfection!".

  i said,"so your excuse is human imperfections for elders to lie, yet they disfellowship people on human imperfections all the time.".

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  I dont like lying or liars...............maybe sometimes we have to keep our mouths shut to spare another persons feelings.............but dont lie if it is going to cause upset and harm in the long run
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  Do DF'd or DA'd people...

  by Trippin2962 in

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  get to talk to each other?

  if two df'd people saw each other on the street and both knew the other was df'd or da'd would they speak to each other?.

  they're already out of the borg at this point.

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  Ermmmmmmmm....................yes, well I certainly do...............one of my best male buddys is a d/fed JW.............I met him not long after I split from first hubby and my d/fship and he was a great help and support to me during those first years..............I usually meet up with him about once a week at the pub, he has a wicked sense of humour and gets on great with hubby no.2.

  And when I was first d/fed I actually went and saw 2 friends from a previous congregation who had been d/fed..............I dont believe in being told what to do by a bunch of loon's who have just chucked you out..........

  Fi
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  A Prayer for the Stressed

  by fifi40 in

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  grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change.

  the courage to change the things i cannot accept.

  and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those i have killed today, because they got on my nerves.. and also help me to be caerful of the toe's i tread on today, as they maybe connected to the feet i have to kiss tomorrow.. help me to always give 100% at work.

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  Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change

  The courage to change the things I cannot accept

  And the wisdom to hide the bodies of those I have killed today, because they got on my nerves.

  And also help me to be caerful of the toe's I tread on today, as they maybe connected to the feet I have to kiss tomorrow.

  Help me to always give 100% at work

  12% on Mondays

  23% on Tuesdays

  40% on Wednesdays

  20% on Thursdays and

  5% on Friday.

  And help me to remember.................When I am having a bad day and it seems that people are trying to wind me up

  It takes 42 muscles to frown

  28 to smile

  And only four to reach out and smack someone in the mouth

  Amen
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  my favourite poem...what's yours?

  by ninja in

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  2. friends

  http://www.sharebigfile.com/file/183727/a-poem-mp3.html ...hope it works...if not can someone help me get it hosted?....cheers btw its by lascelles abercrombie

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  Although that does not appear to be the right link?????
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  my favourite poem...what's yours?

  by ninja in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://www.sharebigfile.com/file/183727/a-poem-mp3.html ...hope it works...if not can someone help me get it hosted?....cheers btw its by lascelles abercrombie

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  Ninja must I do everything

  http://www.sharebigfile.com/file/183727/a-poem-mp3.html
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  Women and Men....Can they be 'just good friends'........

  by fifi40 in

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  2. friends

  i regularly talk to a poster on this board via the pm system...............mainly because i like his mind.......today he suggested in reply to something i had said that basically men and women dont do friendship.........he asked the question 'why do people even bother with each other if they dont fancy each others intimacy?

  '...............not that he was suggesting this about us.........but i am just wondering what you lot think.. it has been my experience to have some wonderful men friends...........i love mens company and their conversation..........now i am wondering if all those 'mates' were/are after something else............well not really........i am pretty sure at least some of them arent.. so whats your view/experience.........can men and women just be good friends.. oh and to my friend who i pm.........this is not a criticism of you.........i am interested in what others experiences are..........and i will give you a big kiss (on the cheek) one day when i see ya to make up for it.......... fi.

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  I'd not thought of that Misanthropic.................I have 3 brothers and a sister..........hmmmmmm