Maddie, my heart goes out to you. This is a most sad time. The loss of core level beliefs compares to losing a loved one. Ah but time does heal.
In the first 6mo after our last meeting, we had elders, family members and dubs come around about once a week. We never refused any visit. They would get around to the JW topic only after small talk and then we would just say, 'thank you so much for your concern, we appriciate you kindness'. That was it, not difficult. A few times an elder would be more direct or ask if we still considered ourselves JW. I would say, 'why do you ask' and if pushed 'my relationship with Jehovah is as strong as ever' or heres a good one 'I make it a matter of prayer'
I am not a expert in the area but I don't think they will DF just for not going to meetings. Only if you are 'causing divisions in the congergation' by speaking to one after another of your research and the 'truth about the Troof' would they have reason to form a judicial committee.
We have been able to maintain our relationships with family and even some JW friends. No one shuns us. Yes, when we run into a JW at Costco or resturants they are often cool but most still say 'hello' and not much else.
After a few months they give up and then you wonder if they ever cared at all. We have not had any 'visits' now for over a year.
I hope our experience is of some help. Good Luck