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  regrets

  by IP_SEC in

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  i only have one regret in life.

  i didnt have a child.

  to have some little munchkin to teach about everything and see what they become?

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  erandir

  So you think you're too old to find the right woman? Don't sweat it. A man's thirties is a prime time for finding women and getting married. Can I speak for any women here that wouldn't find a good man attractive in his thirties (past the immature, childish teens and twenties) with a good job and a house and the desire to have kids?

  I hope I'm not delusional here, but my wife is attracted to me for these reasons (among other things ). We've been married for 10 years now, and it keeps getting better and better. Now we're at the stage where we want to start a family...past the have-fun-by-ourselves stage now into the let's-see-how-much-fun-we-can-have-raising-a-child stage. Well...actually, technically, we're at the let's-have-a-lot-of-fun-trying-to-make-a-baby stage.

  Good luck, man. Have confidence in yourself, and that in itself will help attract Mrs. Right.
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  Dilemma - What can I offer my wife if she leaves the witnesses?

  by truthseeker in

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  this week, my wife called me an "opposing husband" - because i stopped believing that jehovah chose the watchtower society as his sole channel on earth.. .

  my wife knows about the society, it's flip-flop on doctrines, child sex abuse scandals, including the un, but none of that matters.. .

  she doesn't read the litertaure, not even the bible.. .

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  erandir

  truthseeker,

  The situation you are in sounds very familiar to mine in many ways. I'm the "opposing husband" (self-titled...she doesn't call me that) and have pointed out many things to her about the witness religion. She is much more reasonable, and she has been making some progress seeing my point of view and actually agreeing to it. It's taken a year or more...plus all the help and advice I could compile from JWD.

  She's sticking it out for the good friends she has who know her doubts and how she feels about the hyposcrisy in the WT system. Who knows if they would be good friends if she faded out. I feel in this case, they still would be. Also, she still believes in God and is doing that "waiting on Jehovah" thing while tolerating what she can. She is about 1400 miles from her family and old friends, so she doesn't want to throw away the social network she has right now. She does have a few friends at her work, and we have her family come up and stay for a couple months at a time, but it's not enough for her. She's a little depressed and has another medical issue, so I don't want to push things anymore.

  We have a couple very well-balanced elders on our side. So far, we've been left alone. She still wants to go to the book study, but as for the TMS/Service meetings and the Sunday meetings, she rarely attends those.

  I feel I'm finally at a good place with her. She doesn't ask me to go to the meetings. Our religious conversations don't explode into arguments. And I have hope that eventually, she'll see the cult for what it is and decide to leave.

  It's been a long process, but I think time is on our side. The WT Society will bury itself given enough time.

  So my advice is to give it time and patience...don't push too hard or too often. Small acorns grow mighty oaks. (Like my corny "illustration" here?)

  I'll be paying close attention to your situation as it parallels my own. So keep us posted, and good luck!

  Erandir
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  What are you reading?

  by Hortensia in

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  it's rather quiet on the jwd forum tonight - probably you are all out partying, eh?

  i'm wondering what's in the pile of books by your chair or bed?

  i have a couple of mysteries, robert barnard's newest one and a really old arthur upfield.

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  erandir

  I threw away all my Tolkien books because I was being a good li'l dub at the time. I regret that. I had a nice collection...even a high quality edition of the LOTR. I'd be reading one of those for the 8th or 9th time by now.

  Thankfully I still have my Chronicles of Narnia set.

  I'd like to start reading the Harry Potter series. So far, I've only seen the movies minus the most recent 2.

  I just finished reading the Popol Vuh, or at least the translation that I bought during our recent trip to the Yucatan.

  I'm reading the latest Discover magazine, and the wife is reading Vol. 1 of the collected mysteries of Sherlock Holmes.

  Soon however, I'll be reading my Psychology textbook.

  Happy reading,

  Erandir

  PS--I have to say it again, smellsgood, but you have one fine avatar there.
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  Comments You Will Not Hear at the 8-19-07 WT Study (CONQUERING EVIL)

  by V in

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  "keep conquering the evil with the good".

  that man of god, nehemiah, not only withstood opposition from ungodly people but also conquered evil with good.

  would nehemiah 'let himself be conquered by evil'?.

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  erandir

  Of course, they refrain from using physical weapons

  Why "of course" when the WTS has already used an OT example where weapons were acceptable?

  Because the OT is nullified by the NT, yet the OT is still applicable. Oh ..and there are 2nd and 3rd meanings and fulfillments of OT scripture.

  hmmm

  My head is still spinning from how the WT picks and chooses OT examples and yet not all OT examples of "faithful" ones applies to today. No multiple wives, for example. Yet all scripture is inspired and beneficial...except for the parts that aren't.
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  Comments You Will Not Hear at the 8-19-07 WT Study (CONQUERING EVIL)

  by V in

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  "keep conquering the evil with the good".

  that man of god, nehemiah, not only withstood opposition from ungodly people but also conquered evil with good.

  would nehemiah 'let himself be conquered by evil'?.

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  erandir

  Sure, the average witness can ignore the UN thing, the pedophile settlements, the false prophecies, the internet, BUT...

  It'll be hard for the R&F to ignore the upcoming Sept OKM article about the unsanctioned small group study. However, they'll instead just misinterpret it as being a "protection" of the loving GB against bad thoughts. Isn't that called cognizant dissodence (can't spell that right now)?

  Yes, the true apostates are the FDS if anyone should wear that label.

  And I look forward to next week's article about sinning against holy spirit. I think if that is possible, then the true sin against the holy spirit was buying in to the WT's version of the truth and denouncing all others...even going against my gut feeling...my true conscience...to do so. And in spite of feeling the doubts all those years, I still kept up the faith. It's like being hooked on a drug. You know it's bad, but you do it anyway.

  Thanks again for the study!
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  Should I go to non-JW cousins wedding?

  by sass_my_frass in

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  ... my current dilemma.

  this week i got in the mail two birthday cards from non-jw aunt and grandma who are apparently delighted that there's a niece and granddaughter out there to whom they can send birthday cards.

  also got an invite to my cousins wedding.

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  erandir

  To go is obviously what you should do, imho.
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  First Reason I am Agnostic and Not Athiest

  by fedorE in

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  because of what i can see with my eyes and this is what i saw:.

  i saw an ugly man, his son, his girlfriend and another man.

  the ugly man sent his son to a party and told him to bring back meat.

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  erandir

  One's seeming reflex to look for answers doesn't necessarily mean that one has some inner sense or instinct inside that points to some deity. It could very well be a function of some survival instinct, or it could be a result of some unknown evolutionary process. This search for answers to life's puzzling questions is no more proof of a god's existence than the witnesses belief that our inner desire not to die is evidence that we were meant to live forever.

  I'm not an athiest because I lack the evidence to officially rule out God(s). I do not wish to cling to superstition any longer, however. My path is leading me toward rational thought being the way to go through life rather than lazily accepting some belief system that gives me a false level of comfort. I am leaning toward thinking that if there is a diety, this diety wants us to use our brains and senses and realize that the universe is governed by very certain physical laws which are ours to discover and not by magic and blind faith.

  I guess I'm more of a panthiest than anything....an agnostic panthiest. Or agnostically panthiestic. Or panthiestish?
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  Name your Top Ten or However Many you can Favorite Comedy Movies

  by flipper in

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  started one thread serious, so thought i'd go light and easy on this one.

  so what say yee to this?

  here are mr. flippers, about in this order, but not necessarily.

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  erandir

  Ok ok...I give in...

  No...I can't decide...

  My top favorite comedy movies are:

  Kung Pow! Enter the Fist

  Monty Python and the Holy Grail

  Spaceballs

  Caveman

  The Gods Must Be Crazy

  Galaxy Quest

  Life of Brian

  Waking Ned Devine

  Clue the Movie

  Groundhog Day

  Meet the Parents

  and The Ten Commandments with Charleton Heston (we sooooo make fun of that movie at my parents' house, so that makes it a comedy for us)

  And all those Jack Lemmon movies I mentioned above.

  Shrek 1 and 2

  All the Peter Seller comedies
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  What to do if your children are being bullied

  by Paralipomenon in

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  gird them in god's armor, surely it will help!~.

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  erandir

  btw...I always noticed the "brothers" frowned on sarcasm at my hall...so I do it any chance I can now!

  Thanks, Ipsec

  Editted to add: I think they frowned on most anything which required a bit of intelligence to use and understand. (Now I'm just being mean at their expense.)
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  What to do if your children are being bullied

  by Paralipomenon in

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  gird them in god's armor, surely it will help!~.

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  erandir

  Wow...yeah, that will solve all the kids' problems and prevent any future bullying...especially when word gets around school what kind of pjs mommy makes her kids wear.

  Yet another example of irresponsible parenting.