ok ok ok ... You win ... I don't know what I want ... and that's probably why I also know I just don't want to get married at least ... being dissapointing or dissapointed is hard enough to a plus have to take 1 to 2 years to divorce ... I want to be and stay in a position to say ... I'm done right now ... I'm not granted and the other one either ...
Eddited to add : is one need to be free ... both have to be set free