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  I'm just curious

  by RAF in

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  i'm just curious to get the point ... what did you find the most satisfying in your relationship (i mean serious relationship which is supposed to last) with your other half after 5 to 10 years:.

  a listing would be nice in the preferential order like.

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  RAF

  you're new here Sweetstuff (face!!!), Welcome since I don't remember welcoming you !

  Your answers (but 4 and 5) actually makes me think of my relationship with my son ... complicity (And I guess I really need that).
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  Some pictures from a recent trip

  by Bumble Bee in

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  i recently visited an old growth forest.

  something i've always wanted to do.

  this was a 120 acre tract of forest never touched by man.

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  RAF

  I love the pictures of the trees and little rivers (it looks peacefull ) ... hummm ... thanks ...
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  I'm new here

  by mind my own in

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  i'm so glad to be a member, i have been reading this site for a while now and finally joined.

  i just love reading all your comments, how enlightening!

  this site has been a source of great comfort for me in the past few months.

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  RAF

  an other interesting nickname !!! Welcome

  and read you soon I hope
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  Mother Teresa doubted God's existence during her last years

  by Gregor in

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  her personal diarys and letters have revealed she doubted gods reality and this in turn caused her to ask herself "is jesus true?

  " she no longer prayed right up until her death.

  in my opinion this in no way detracts from her being a wonderful, self sacrificing woman.

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  RAF

  if you have to deal with painall year long I guess there's room to wonder ... BUT SHE'VE BEEN HELPED !!!
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  Israel Kamakawiwo'Ole.......big.....beautiful Hawaian music

  by HappyDad in

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  i got on a dean koontz kick and have recently finished the 15th book by him since january.

  in the one i just finished........he recommended the music by the late israel kamakawiwo'ole.

  he said that it was very soothing and put him in the writing mood.

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  RAF

  I love this song too ... First time I've heard it was at the end of the movie "Meet Joe Black"
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  Need Your Opinion and Why...

  by brunnhilde in

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  backstory: i just moved out of the house my soon-to-be-ex and i own together.

  he's staying until the house sells.

  in the meantime, i'm paying half the mortgage and half the utilities.

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  RAF

  The most important is to sell the house quick at the better price ... everything else is about his privacy (a right) ... and about your part of ownership (still have access to the house and use it if needed meanwhile). Since he didn't say anything like "you don't have the right to get into the house" well I just think that he just don't want some people to meet and maybe in very intimate situation (which is understandable) not sure you want to see that too (not that it would hurt you - but just because well if you can avoid it it's better for everyone) - what if it was the reverse situation?

  but I can understand that at first (because of your free for now investement) it sounded a bit out of place to ask you that ... but if you really think about it ... well ... everything is ok.
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  This is outrageous

  by Mincan in

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  has anyone found that the longer you are away from the witlesses the worse their mindf*** on your mind becomes.. i'm acting in such ways that i never even acted as a dub.

  it's like in everyway bad they might affect someone, it becomes exacerbated upon departure.

  i never used to be so afraid to try new things, even wholesome things, while i was a dub, no more than usual, now i get paralyzed by fear to do the simplist things, like seeing people or getting my life started.. i'm slowing doing these things anyway, but i'm so shocked at how difficult it is.

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  RAF

  When I first left, I was so cynical and feeling like such a cocky smart ass everything seemed within my grasp. Now I ponder ... now I find the difficulty.

  since I've left (and been left) quiet young I've been on cynical mode from the begining (= cold blooded = ready to pay full price - for any mistake) but more I grow up and more I pay attention, maybe it's related to maturity ... There are some mistakes or situations I don't want to get into once or more than once or too much.

  scare is like pain - they are red light flashs which tell us pay attention of this. Still if we don't know about what it is all about we need to wondering/enquiring/questionning more than if we think that we already know ... anyway its always good to think twice and then it's all about what you want or don't want / can bear or can't bear, but if the goal is valuable well ... why not give it a try even with risks (unless it'll can kill you physically or morally).
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  I'm just curious

  by RAF in

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  2. relationships

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  i'm just curious to get the point ... what did you find the most satisfying in your relationship (i mean serious relationship which is supposed to last) with your other half after 5 to 10 years:.

  a listing would be nice in the preferential order like.

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  RAF

  thank ex-nj-jw

  I'll put all that into "harmony" even trust somehow ...

  but you putting communication makes me thinking that the kind of harmony I'm would really want (since we are not in a paradise ... LOL) is more about understanding which can in any case always lead to harmony whatever happens, whatever we differ on ... you know something like that. so finally it's more about deepunderstanding - to be able to skip from a trouble to joy (right then juste because we want it).
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  Was I too harsh?

  by avishai in

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  i have a site wherein i have mentioned that i am having an apostofest at the burning man festival.. i recieved this letter re: the apostafest..... angry-at-the-society ex-jw's, .

  to which i replied:.

  i assume both!!!

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  RAF

  nothing's wrong with this answer ... and the end of it is very cool in fact.
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  I SAW DUBS YESTERDAY!!!

  by IP_SEC in

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  for the first time here in louisiana since being here for almost a year and a half.

  lol.

  sure i see khs every once in a while but never dubs out preaching.

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  RAF

  I have my whole sermon planned out

  Seems like you will have to wait ... for the

  I've read somewhere else that you are from Lafayette (nice place BTW - not really down town but all around and maybe it have change now it was kind of empty when I went there in 1996)

  Is the "MOUTON" hotel still there? (next to the Greyhond bus stop) Are the original/former owners still alive? They were so nice (showing there olds cars and very old furnitures (some from France), it still happen that I do think about them ... Also the cajun food that we've eat in the restaurant right next to it was faboulous.