Posts by brunnhilde

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For those who didn't go to uni....

by brinjen in

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especially those who didn't go on account of the borg (the vast majority).

do you regret this decision?

if you did go what would you have studied?

brunnhilde

I would have loved to have gone. It certainly would have cost me a lot less then if I'd attended with the scholarships and grants I'd have been eligible for. I wanted to go desperately but I knew better than to even think about it. I'm 36, nearly 37 now and have almost finished my first year. My current major is in the Humanities (focus on Sociology with a lesser emphasis on English Lit) and I hope one day to teach at the university level, but for me its less about what I'll do with it as much as it is for the love of learning. As I told an old dub friend who wrote me because she was "worried about me" for the first time in my life I feel like I'm where I belong, where I always should have been and I'm happier than I've ever been. She wrote back that if "being happy was what really mattered to me, than I was doing well." I wrote back that I was glad she understood. SNICKER. Dubs don't have a flipping clue about what life really is, they're so brainwashed, of course that's no surprise to any of us here.

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What happened to you, to not to "feel the love" from the "friends"?

by swirlgirl in

thinking back at the start of me questioning that perhaps the "friends" were not really true friends at all, were some experiences i will relate below: please share those that you have experienced.. after i had carpel tunnel surgery and was in a cast.....not one of the "friends" asked me about it?

at first i thought they wanted to be "polite" and not draw attention to the fact of the cast...but thinking more about it afterwards...it was just plain unloving and uncaring.

while i was still in the cast....the cong.

brunnhilde

Geez, got a few hours? Time and time again "get togethers" were arranged but no one bothered to let us know. Family clans would only spend time with each other making sure they and their kids got plenty of socializing but not worrying about anyone else, especially those with "unbelieving mates" or single moms with kids. And all you have to do is read through some threads on here to hear about people in need or pain being completely ignored by their BOE until they hear you might have done something wrong. Then they're on your doorstep pounding your door down! They only care when theres some gossip or scuttlebutt to pass around at the next meeting. Can ya "feel the love"?

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Voting on hall decoration?

by stapler99 in

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i was just wondering what people's experiences with how the congregation decided how to decorate their hall, colour schemes and so on.

was the decision made by the boe without much consultation?

were many in the congregation upset at the choice?.

brunnhilde

I remember doing this when I was much younger, like in the early 80's, but the last few times our cong remodeled it was completely in the hands of the "decorator" hired by the BOE under the auspices of the finance committee. They got to have complete say over what the remodel would look like as far as lay out and everything. I remember another congregation near ours that completely bucked the committee and built their hall out of brick. The bigwigs from Bethel were furious; it wasn't another cookie cutter hall. Looking back its amazing to me how homogenous everything with the dubs are - like a great freaking huge Stepford factory!

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Most X-JW's turn to paganism

by White Dove in

that's what a witch at a pagan shop told me.

brunnhilde

I know exactly what you mean, White Dove. I know the dubs are nothing but a load of shite, but at the same time the years of programming that all other religion is false makes it impossible for me to trust other churches or religions. I find that the only thing that even remotely appeals to me is something much more nature based. I asked a Southern Baptist that came and spoke to my religions class what he thought about people who searched and honestly desired finding God but never could and was told they were too proud to ask for God to find them. So yeah, I'm kinda on the whole "pagan is good" soapbox.

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The start of the weekend....

by RichieRich in

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so, i'm heading to the beach for the weekend with some friends, but we decided that we needed to go to the pool to get pre-tanned.. we had a blast, and it was a perfect example of the normal non-illicit activities that witnesses would rather die than engage in.. what better way to start the weekend off then, with some smiles and some in your faceness.. me and my buddy marty.

me and allie, my friend's little sister.. .

allie "tattooing" me.

brunnhilde

Your post just made me smile, Richie! RollerDave has it right. I remember the dubs talking about what joy "really" was and thinking, God that sounds BORING! Geez, those effers can flipping suck the fun out of everything! Go forth and enjoy! Life is GOOD!

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Packing ?

by rwagoner in

just curious if any other xjw's carry concealed weapons on a regular basis ?

because of my work (job that pays the bills) and my business (will pay the bills somday) i got into the habit shortly after leaving the dubs.

now i am a solid supporter of a law abiding, qualified citizen's right to legally carry.

brunnhilde

I'm just curious - do you guys find you need to use your guns often? Do you live in spooky neighborhoods?

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Why they won't try again...

by besty in

i have spoken to two jw's today's who are well acquainted with my non-conformist stand and absence from the meetings.

much difference in their readjustment approach <emotional v logical> but they shared this in common: .

they both explicitly refused my invitation to pursue the conversation to another session - both said they saw no basis for 'getting anywhere' and didn't see the point of endless conversations...i accept that but also think... .

brunnhilde

That's it exactly. They aren't interested in intellectual conversations. They know they have the "troof" and aren't interested in "wasting" valuable time they could be using to suck some less resistant person in to the cult. Besides, they're taught to do just that. If you're a sheep, you'll be called, if you're not, tough luck, it's not on them, they tried. (what a load of tripe!)

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The Day Has Arrived

by concerned x in

two months ago i stepped down as an elder in the cong, it was a tremdous relief although a shock to the cong.

two and a half days ago i sent in a letter of explaination concerning why i wanted to step down and why i will be absent from the kh.

it only took two and a half days for the accusation of apostasy to be made against me.

brunnhilde

Welcome. May your healing be swift and your escape sure and safe.

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Could You Still Love Her If She Were A Man?

by The wanderer in

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could you still love her if she were a man?years, before i was a twinkle in my fathers eye he met an attractive young .

woman at a sock hop.

a sock hop is a dance for those not familiar with the .

brunnhilde

What about if your partner/spouse isn't interested in a sex change but wants to dress like a woman? True, you might love the person, but this isn't something you bargain for when you first get married. After a while, even though you might understand and empathize, it can be completely overwhelming and undermining to your relationship. Some people make it, some people don't. I understand and support people's need to show externally who they feel they are internally, but it definitely comes with a price not just for the person but for the people in their life.

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inactive a year

by changeling in

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this month marks a year since i reported fs.

i can't remember the last time i felt this proud of an accomplishment.

i have come a long way in my de-programing.

brunnhilde

Isn't it great to be free!!! I'm a little over a year out myself (Independence day was Memorial of 2006) and every day I'm away I'm happier and more content and I feel like I'm REAL, like I'm honestly myself for the first time ever! No apologies or groveling or forcing down doubts and misery! I love what you said in your points, btw.