It is my understanding that jws can comfortably attend a family gathering with da'd and df'd relatives if it is held in a public venue such as a social hall or eatery. Whether the party is large or small, the jws can sit at a different table than you, and your parents can sit at their own little table for two.
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I have a problem any suggestions would be appreciated
by nugget inthis year will be my parents 50th wedding anniversary.
my mum is a jw my father is not.
my husband and i hade been df'd and i have 3 sisters.
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A Popular Question Raised by people who were never JW.
by Momma-Tossed-Me ini talk to a lot of people about the watchtower because it comes up in conversation all of the time.. money eventually becomes a topic as it is a very wealthy corporation.. so the question is always raised and it is a good one, "who controls it?".
people want to know "who has the power of the purse strings?
" and quite frankly so do i.. there is someone behind the scenes who knows so much that the wtbts could never fire him or her.
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jamiebowers
What I don't understand is how they can live like they do and feel ok about it. They are living on the donated money of people living extremely poor lives without higher education. But maybe they think that it is a blessing from Jehovah? Who knows how they sleep at night.
Like all successful scammers, they sleep in very comfortable beds.
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In love with a JW...
by CuriousUK inapologies if this has been discussed before, or is in the wrong forum, but i could really do with some advice.
two years ago i met the love of my life; someone i regard as my soulmate.
he is an active jw and i am a practising church of england person.
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jamiebowers
Here is an experience of a man becoming a jw in order to marry the so-called love of his life...I'll let his story speak for itself:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/experiences/222940/1/My-Experience
I also got baptized in order to marry a jw man who seemed so sweet and caring. We weren't married a month before he started hitting me. Eventually this evolved into kicking, strangulation, him driving into oncoming traffic...anything to terrorize me. As a jw woman or child, you are strongly discouraged from involving the police in cases of domestic violence and even child molestatiom...I can cite cases to you if you can't find them with Google. But my jw husband was so crazy that his doctors had him forcibly committed to mental wards twice throughout our six and a half year marriage. Despite the rulings of doctors and judges that he was a real threat to my life, the elders insisted I either stay in the marriage or stalk him long enough to determine whether he would commit adultery or murder. You see, there is no remarriage in the Watchtower cult unless adultery is proven; therefore giving the abuser continued control over his victim. I made a false confesson of adultery, divorced him and was disfellowshipped for my trouble. As a result, with the exception of a few requests for family medcal history, I've been shunned by my jw mom for almost 25 years. My brother shunned me for 18 years, but we reaquainted after he too left the cult.
Is this really the type of thing in which you want to be involved? Run, don't walk, my dear. If he wants out of the cult, he needs to take those steps himself. If he does leave, require him to get specialized therapy. Even then, if I were you, I'd also have him sign a pre-nup regarding finances and custody of any future children. Instead of thinking about what you would have to do to be with him, start thinking about the things he should be doing to be with you.
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http://www.jwbrothers.org - Who is behind this site
by donny ini checked out http://www.jwbrothers.org this morning and i went to the video section and looked at the video entitled "garbage island".
while the video points out the issue of plastic garbage in the ocean, i was shocked at all of all the "fucks" and "shits" used throughout the piece.
are jw's behind this site?
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jamiebowers
"True religion in no way practices secretiveness. Worshipers of the true God have been instructed not to hide their identity or to obscure their purpose as Jehovah's Witnesses" (Watchtower, 6/1/97, p. 6. par. 2).
Oh, this quote is rich, considering the authors of borg literature are anonymous and very little background information is known about the governing body!
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My Experience
by wezz ingood day to everyone.
after reading and benefiting from the numerous experiences posted here, i thought it would be proper for me to share my story too.
i was born and brought up as an anglican church member.
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jamiebowers
I see it's been 24 hours since your first and only post...hopefully that's good news,and you two are reconciling. Whether or not that is the case, please get an attorney asap. He or she will help you consider your options about staying in the marriage or divorce by educating you on child custody and support. The sooner you get on this, the more chance you have of gaining joint custody. Doing so is vital for the future of your children regarding the blood issue, education, and extra curricular activities.
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What March 12th means to me
by discreetslave inmarch 12, 1998 i becam a bethelite.
march 12, 2001 i left bethel.. march 12, 2011 i started a personal bible reading project that was supposed to strengthen my faith as a jw before the memorial.
instead this was the beginning of my awakening..
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jamiebowers
I "liked" this post on Facebook, and I'm oing the same here on JWN....LIKE
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Never having received a birthday greeting from your parents.
by Holey_Cheeses*King_of_the juice. inmy wife turned fifty five the other day and i pen this from her perspective.. "happy birthday".
a harmless, yet meaningful expression of recognition from one's parents that they appreciate having brought you into the world.
for many it is a special day to be remembered, and to acknowledge that you are remembered.. in all her years of life my wife has never been given a birthday greeting from her parents.
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jamiebowers
I feel like I missed a lot of things growing up JW, but all the expected/mandatory gift recieving/giving I could happily do without.
Birthdays are so much more than that! Most important is that a person is told how special it is that he or she is on this planet. And particularly for small children, celebrating other people's birthdays teaches them that everyone deserves a special day. Example: I have two granddaughters that are about four months apart in age. When the older one turned three last week, the slightly younger girl was a little upset that there were no gifts for her. But we explained that she would have her own gifts at her birthday party, and she was fine. Al four of the grandkids are pretty good about sharing their books, games, movies and toys, but they're very aware of what belongs to whom, because most of the hings they have are from Santa or their birthdays.
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Music That Moves You
by Joe Grundy ini love music - of many different genres and from different times.. .
i love to play guitar, not to any great standard and purely for my own pleasure, and there are many pieces that really move me.
'don't think twice' by bob dylan from my early teens is one that has stayed with me for 40 years.. .
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jamiebowers
You're welcome Granny!
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Music That Moves You
by Joe Grundy ini love music - of many different genres and from different times.. .
i love to play guitar, not to any great standard and purely for my own pleasure, and there are many pieces that really move me.
'don't think twice' by bob dylan from my early teens is one that has stayed with me for 40 years.. .
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jamiebowers
Is this it, Granny>
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My son is having a birthday party today
by mrsjones5 inone of his friends can't come because his mother is a jw.
i told my boy he shouldn't have said to the mother what kind of party it was.
he's just having a few friends over for food and video gaming, something his friend has done before at other "worldly" kids' house along with my son.. there will be no beheadings at this party..
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jamiebowers
Happy Birthday Josie's son!