Posts by jamiebowers

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Why can't I just have one day with out seeing a JW ......seriously

by troubled mind in

today i went early to my dad's house to help my disabled sister with medical paperwork .

at 10am the cleaning lady shows up .

she was a jw recruit of my mom's yrs ago, and use to be like a sister to us a really long time ago .

jamiebowers

My answer would've been:

My standing is that I'm the daughter of your employer. If you cannot respect me as such, I would be happy to find a replacement for you and relieve you of your uncertainities.

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New Mentality

by EmptyInside in

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no,i am not talking about being "mentally diseased",lol.

it's just wonderful to allow myself to have my own thoughts and opinions.. i'm still around family and some acquaintances who are witnesses.

and i cringe every time i hear a phrase or belief ,that now i realize is totally wacky.. for example: relatives talking about a newly reinstated man's unbelieving wife.

jamiebowers

I hope the wife of that newly reinstated man shows him and his jw buddies where he can stick his headship!

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Ex wants to bring kids to church

by jws in

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my ex just texted me that my 9-year old daughter said that "daddy doesn't believe in god and that if there is a god, he hates kids".. i personally don't think that i ever said anything about not believing in god.

just that i don't know and if he does exist, the bible couldn't be his book.

as for hating kids, i have no idea where she got it.

jamiebowers

I think you should consult an attornet frst and a therapist second. Good luck!

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So why did the organisation cause you anxiety or depression?

by TimothyT in

in regards to my other post regarding attending counselling as a jw, i was wondering what it was about being a jw that caused you to be anxious, stressed or depressed?.

for me, i knew that the person i wanted to be was constantly being supressed by the wt.

there was a battle going on in my head between who i wanted to be and who they wanted me to be.

jamiebowers

For me it was the tacit approval of domestic violence withn the congregation. Even when my life was in danger, the Watchtower's answer was be a better wife and wait on Jehovah.

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I've lurked a long time: JW's produce some of the most paranoid humans

by Unlearn in

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i'll keep this brief for now.. long time lurker (4 years or so).. born-in, elder, used on district level (last talk i gave before i left was the baptisimal talk), and lots of hard time put in...before i finally made the move to split.

it's a long stoy, much like many of yours...but with it's own little interesting twists.

more details in the future, perhaps.. as i said, ive lurked here for a while.. its funny: for a long time i'd only come on late at night.

jamiebowers

Welcome! I've been out for more than 20 years, been on this board for four years and have never met a single person in a congregation that I'd attended.

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Frog Fur

by LoneWolf in

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folks ---.

um.

had a tradidigy here yesterday.. morning started off bad.

jamiebowers

I can't believe you're really a lone wolf with your sense of humor. It seems to me you're probably surounded by friends and admirers, (and I 'aint talking about field mice and frogs, neither), LOL!

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are we winners or loosers..

by myohorengekyo in

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i felt id walked away from this j.w thing.. for me i simply left...not a problem....hard for many here to-understand but i felt if my little world rejected me, so what!.

but that article in the independent, filled me with such anger, i raged and decided i need to be active, against this organisation.. it was wrong to simply have walked away.

....not sure what my next step will be..

jamiebowers

But that article in the Independent, filled me with such anger, i raged and decided i need to be active, against this organisation.

It was wrong to simply have walked away. ....not sure what my next step will be.

For me, working against the organization means helping those who are ex or exiting jws in their transition into the real world. The more people who make that transition, the less people go back. It makes shunning less of a weapon for the Watchtower.

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Did You Ever Make the Pilgrimage?

by Quendi in

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how many of you have ever visited one of the branch offices or world headquarters of jehovah's witnesses?

i was an active witness for nearly thirty years and was associated with the cult for more than thirty-five before finally walking away for good last year.

during all those years i never made a trip to brooklyn bethel.

jamiebowers

I visited Bethel on a bus tour in the early 80's. I couldn't tell you about the Watchtower's printing process five minutes after the tour, because I was so struck by the sour demeanor of the workers. They all seemed so sad, stressed, and tired. One in particular was a young man who was completely bald. I noticed him right off, because he had penetrating blue eyes. I remember actually shivering, because he stared at me with such hatred. At the time I thought maybe he was self-conscoius of being bald. Now I wonder if it was because he was so unhappy in his servitude.

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