Posts by ex-nj-jw

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guilt feelings sometimes

by amara in

i was raised as a jw from the age of 4, my father was an elder for 18 years, was a auxillary pioneer for years, been there done all that and decided to leave at age 30, i have chosen a pagan path and am very happy but sometimes i feel guilty for no reason, does anyone else ever have this problem?

if you do, how do you handle it?

ex-nj-jw

Hey amara, Welcome as I am also new to the forum!!! My dad was also an elder and I know what it's like. Please stop referring to your self as pagan or living the pagan life, stop using the JW lingo and just try to be a normal person.

I've been out for 24 years now, never felt guilt just an overwhelming hatred toward that cult. Don't beat yourself up, just try to move on, the anger part I'm still battling.

Also, I've been on this site almost every day and it's a good way to interact with other people in the same or sometimes worse situation.

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Quick Birthday Question...

by esw1966 in

so, it was my daughter's birthday on the 2nd of february.. she is being raised jw and i sent her an email birthday card.. i get this note as a response: (mind you, it may be from her mother).

hey dad, .

i'm sorry i havent written you.

ex-nj-jw

That's a hard one!!!

She is old enough to know how to play both you and mom, and speaking from someone who was raised as a JW's most of my early life was a double life. I did as the JW's while in their presence and when I wasn't I did what I wanted to do.

So I think you should give her the cash if that's what you want, but make it clear to her that this is a birthday present not just a hand out. You can give her money anytime without meaning but that this particular gift is for her birthday. Let her decide if she want's to accept it or not.

Good luck

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Quick Birthday Question...

by esw1966 in

so, it was my daughter's birthday on the 2nd of february.. she is being raised jw and i sent her an email birthday card.. i get this note as a response: (mind you, it may be from her mother).

hey dad, .

i'm sorry i havent written you.

ex-nj-jw

That's a hard one!!!

She is old enough to know how to play both you and mom, and speaking from someone who was raised as a JW's most of my early life was a double life. I did as the JW's while in their presence and when I wasn't I did what I wanted to do.

So I think you should give her the cash if that's what you want, but make it clear to her that this is a birthday present not just a hand out. You can give her money anytime without meaning but that this particular gift is for her birthday. Let her decide if she want's to accept it or not.

Good luck

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Can't stop hating....

by ex-nj-jw in

my parents became jw's in the early 60's just before i was born.

i was raised as a jw but hated everything about it from a very early age.

going door to door was the worst growing up.

ex-nj-jw

My parents became JW's in the early 60's just before I was born. I was raised as a JW but hated everything about it from a very early age. Going door to door was the worst growing up. Very embarrasing as a teenager. There was so much emphasis on no sex that I became curious at a very early age.

Had numerous boyfriends most "worldly", some JW's (all the JW's by the way ratted me out, themselves included). Anyway, I walked away from this religion the day I turned 18 and never looked back, my parents and two of my brothers are still active witnesses and because I wasn't df'd they still talk to me (although my relationship with mom is horrible). My parents still try to give me that "the end is near" BS so I don't speak with them often.

I can't get rid of the deep seated hatred I feel for this cult and its teachings!!! It's been 24 years, you think I'd be over it already!!! Anyone here feel the same?? How do I move on??

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When is it 'going too far'?

by nekone041 in

i'm new to the forum (in fact, i just joined about 10 minutes before starting this post), and am a new jw (i began learning and attending meetings since about november of '06).

i have a question involving my girlfriend and i, and i'm hoping to find a moral answer.

my girlfriend and i fell in love two summers ago, and we're still pretty young (we're turning 17 this year).

ex-nj-jw

nekeone,

Please do not allow this organization to sexually repress you!!! Your life (sexual life) will be greatly inhibited by this orgainzation if you allow it. Make these decisions based on your own consious and do not allow others to determine what is best for you!!!!

Keep in mind that this organization will run (or ruin) your entire life, from educational opportunities to how you raise your children. Don't worry so much about sinning, check your decision to be a JW now while you still have some brain cells in tact!!!

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Instances of JWs causing serious harm?

by greendawn in

jw
friends

can you recall instances where the wts seriously damaged the emotional health or generally the life of other individuals or you?

what i can recall are two young jws at the congo who had strict elder fathers and ended up suffering severe depression due to the many restrictions in their lives.

growing up as a jw in a repressive and unloving environment is not easy.

ex-nj-jw

Personally, I've dealt with depression and anxiety all my life. As a little girl I was afraid to go to the bathroom by myself because I thought the demons would get me, would not sleep by myself until I was a teenager. Always felt I was being watched by someone or something!!!!

Now that I'm in my 40's, I still battle depression and some anxiety. I don not in the least bit miss this cult, or have any doubts about my feelings. Just had an awful childhood to say the least.

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POLL: Would You Ever Consider Going Back To The Organization?

by minimus in

jw
friends

yes, no or maybe....and why?

ex-nj-jw

NO! NEVER! ABSOULTLY NOT! NO WAY! ETC.... (get the point)

Served my time, got out with most of my brain in tact, and minimal loss of self esteem!!! Why risk it again.

Besides those meetings and songs were BORING to say the least and the chairs were the most uncomfortable!!! We won't even talk about the embarassment of "door-to-door"!!!

What about you minimus???

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Daughter of an ex witness and a re-instated witness.....

by LotusB in

my parents divorced when i was 12. their divorce was so messy and upsetting that it threw my mother for a loop that none of the elders came to her aide.

she has been distant and negetive towards jw's for almost ten years since.

my father was re-instated after an almost 20 year apsence and is now happily attending meetings with his new family.

ex-nj-jw

Hey Lotus,

I'm also new to this site so welcome!!! It may be that you were so young when your mom stopped going to the KH, that you don't remember or didn't have the chance to see for yourself the negative parts of this organization.

Please go slowly and don't make changes in your life based on the WT. Go with your heart and PLEASE don't cut your mom, boyfriend, or close friends out of your life. You WILL need them one day when the JW's kick you to the curb. Hang in there!!!

ex-nj-jw

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we're not getting on the boat

by BlackSwan of Memphis in

well our furnace was acting up monday night.

it wasn't staying on, which when it's positively freezing out, is not good.. my husband called a few different people and finally asked me if i would be ok if he called my brother?

see, my brother is a) a heating and cooling guy and b) the heating and cooling guy who put in our furnace a few years back.

ex-nj-jw

Okay, since I'm new to this site, I'm gonna ask this question without the fear of being laughed at!!!!

What is a dub????

ex-nj-jw

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Arrogant JWs are seriously irritating!

by Gill in

every so often, i can get seriously irritated with jehovah's witnesses!

especially my daft as a brush parents.. one of my children has just moved in with his girlfriend.

they're a lovely couple, both adults and happy with eachother.

ex-nj-jw

Hey Gill,

I'm new here, but have been out of the "truth" for 24 years, THANK GOD. My parents still try to give me that "the end is near crap" and won't leave me alone either. I simply tell my mother "I don't want to hear that crap", move on!!!