I know exactly what you mean! My mom constantly searched my things, nothing was personal nothing was private!
I was lucky in that I left home when I was 18. I couldn't take it any longer. I was a mother with a 2 day old newborn son and I packed up and left home!
I can't understand how JW's stay at home with mommy and daddy treating them like they are 12 when they are 20+ and should surely be on their own!
I told my 19 year old son, who just started his sophmore year of college that if he wasn't in school full time and living on campus that he would have to get his own place. He laughed and said "mom, you'd put me out"? I said Hell Yeah, and you'd thank me for it later!
I think that anyone that is out of high school and is working full time needs to be independant and self sufficient. Not that as a parent I wouldn't be there to help my child. That is not even the issue. The issue is that a parent will always be a parent. And when you have an adult child living at home it's hard not to try to parent them.
When you try to "parent" an adult it creates problems! Get out, be a man or woman! This is when parents become their children's friends! From birth to age 20 (or until you are on your own) I am NOT your friend, I'm your parent!
Does that make sense?
nj (of the I don't want no grown A$$ man or woman living at home with me class)