welcome SS..
and yes, I have a hard time trusting also. I did not have sisters lined up at my door when I was in... that despite being told..."oh, you are an elder, pioneer, MTS grad now...the sisters will be swarming...." Not so much... unless you count the bipolar sister I almost married, the desperate sister who had just gotten out of the mental hospital, or the huge sister who was just wanting a man..any man.
Eighteen months away from the Organization, I found it has nothing to do with them being "worldly" versus "JW sisters." There are good women and devious women (and men) in both groups. However, because of my nearly lifelong experience (raised as a dub and as an adult..nearly 35 years), I have huge trust issues with people in general. It had a detrimental effect on dating.
I tried internet (eHarmony) dating.... met a few nice gals ..went on a few dates.....nothing worked out though. Met one nice gal that I remain friends with but do not think we are compatible as more than that. Those dates did help me to crack the JW mindset a bit, though I feel bad for the first two gals that were the poor guinea pigs......
and that so-called "assurance"? Look where that "guarantee" came from....the Governing Body? That's like a guarantee from Bernie Madoff on your investments....just sayi'...
I have met some nice people on this board...to think that many of us used to be your so-called JW "brother" or "sister" and now you will find them to be decent people without that JW qualifier...and I have met some crazies too..... JW-ism had nothing to do with it.
Snakes ()
ps...just seen that purps posted.....she is one of the decent people I have met from the board...