my sister and i were talking the other day about things we feel like we missed out on as teenagers. sex was definitely not one of the things we thought we missed out on. it was more just dating, prom, school activities--things like that. i can't even imagine having sex, let alone in my parent's house, as a teenager. at that point in your life, you have so much going for you. the rest of your life is a blank page, the consequences that sex may possibly bring--i don't think you can fully realize as a teenager. i guess i can't offer any real suggestions because i'm not a parent, but i was a teenager not that long ago. looking back, i'm glad i waited into my 20's for sex. i was much more prepared for the 'what ifs'. must be a complicated situation........looking back, i think the kids in our family would have been too busy to get that serious with someone--we all had part-time jobs (usually worked 30 hrs/wk), high school full time and kept up on homework and good grades. if you think about it--there are plenty of other things to keep you 'occupied'. just my two cents....