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  What do you do when you know you child is getting thier feelings hurt?

  by Heather in

  1. social
  2. family

  we just recently moved and my oldest son (9) is adjusting well, so far.

  there are lots of kids on the street and they are always outside playing soccer and basketball.

  i've noticed that he is having trouble with a couple of the boys....they are all very close in age...9 10 and 11.

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  Heather- Mr. Flipper here. Raised three kids, son is 22, well adjusted I'm told. Two adult daughters 20 and 19, both married. I tend to agree with Eclipse and Nvrgnbk on this. You are doing a great job in supporting your son emotionally. If these mean kids are on your property doing this or on the street I would like Eclipse says call attention to their bad behavior, make them see their lack of social grace to your son. Nothing ever comes from burying ignorant behavior under the carpet. If you do that you teach your son to be run over by people, no matter what they do to him. You raise a wuss. You create a co-dependent type person , not a strong person. Teach your son like nvrgnbk says to tell the boys who treat him wrong to "stop it or I won't play with you." Nobody deserves to be treated that way. And as a mom you can get to know some of these boys or invite others over to screen who would be a good influence or friend to your son. Just the protective dad in me coming out.Good luck, Peace out Mr. Flipper
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  Well this totally sucks...

  by bluesbreaker59 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my girlfriend that i brag to everyone about, and treat like a queen, is leaving me.

  i actually got df'd over her, and have been with her for over 5 months.

  we were so close, i just totally never, ever saw this coming.

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  Bluesbreaker, Mr. Flipper here. Been there , had that done to me buddy. It's never easy.Before I met Mrs. Flipper, I dated some ladies who were as they say, missing a sensitivity chip, emotionally. They led me to believe they loved me, I was the one, even calling me soul mate, blah, blah, blah, but weren't being honest or revealing what was deep within them. I even had two ex-girlfriends say to me when I'd try to draw them out," Well we have to keep some kind of mystery about us, we can't let you know everything, has to be intrigue". I found out the mystery was they either fell for another guy, or went back to a sugar daddy ex-boyfriend. I'm saying this to you to let you know it's her, your ex girlfriend, not you, that has the issues. Don't beat yourself up over it. She has her reasons, someday she'll be honest and let you know, but if not, you know that you're a good guy and that is what counts. Pick yourself up by your bootstraps buddy, because you will find someone out there who will appreciate the good man you are. I found a jewel of a woman in Mrs. Flipper, after first kissing several frog princesses. Hang in there, Peace to you, Mr. Flipper. It will work out, remember.
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  Did you avoid becoming a elder in order to take care of your family?

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was raised in the witnesses from the 1960's on and my dad was an elder who invariably was taking care of congregation problems with publishers, constantly.

  how many of us remember wives and children sitting at the back of the halls waiting for an after meeting elders meeting to finish, only to get more frustrated as an hour or so would go by?

  for those of us raised in this it was always congregation business first, family second.

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  Blondie- It's good you're not an elder, you'd scare the hell out of the other elders with you're wisdom anyway. The bright light would blind them. I'm sure you're family was glad to have you with them, instead. I'm happy you did get to read at the book study though. Did the elders make you wear a helmet on your head?? Probably not, you weren't "teaching".LOL. Alligator Wisdom- It certainly is political. If you don't brown nose and kiss up to the right elders, you won't even get noticed anyway. I had a newly appointed elder tell me that once. Personally, I never kissed up to any of them. Too independent. It's good of you to welcome others with a friendly motive, unlike some elders who do it to be noticed, for power trips. Darth Fader- Correct for sure. I pioneeered 3 years and was a ministerial servant for 6 years before the kids came. But felt so much better about giving them quality time and helping them develop social skills, rather than be giving myself to people in the cong. who probably would'nt appreciate it anyway. More rewarding with your kids. Thanks, ya'll, Peace out, Mr. Flipper
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  JWs and Love towards their families

  by R.F. in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this is something that just popped in my mind suddenly.. but i was thinking about over the years the many comments of jws about loved ones.

  for instance, one sister was speaking of her disgust with her children not accepting the "truth".

  she gladly tells anyone of what she told them; that if they don't accept it before armageddon that it's too bad.

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  R.F.- What a good subject to talk about! I faded 4 years ago, and in the process I've seen my two witness daughters get married. I wasn't allowed to walk the first daughter down the aisle, but Mrs. Flipper and I attended wedding and reception anyway, staying kind and dignified still giving my daughter and her husband a monetary gift. Second witness daughter got married in May. We went to that too, although because she's more adamant against me not going to meetings, we didn't go to the reception at her request, believe it or not. She thought I would expound my "worldly " views to others. I told her" I'm more respectful than that". But Mrs. Flipper and I got her and husband a nice card and the same monetary gift we gave the first more respectful daughter. I feel if anything maybe I'll teach my daughter that in spite of our differences, it is always good to be humane, civil, decent, and caring. Perhaps it will show her I don't hold a grudge, nor should she. That remains to be seen, but at least Mrs. Flipper and I can rest easy, knowing we did the right thing, Peace out R.F., good luck to you, Mr. Flipper
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  Are ex-JW still gullible or serpent-like?

  by BEROEAN in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just wondering if ex-jws find it hard to trust others since their bad experience or are they still gullble souls?

  just wondering because some of the stories i read about past experiences are off the charts!

  some of you, your childhoods, your parents are seriously jacked up!

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  Oh, boy, something is fishy here, guys. (Maybe I'm a little slow on the uptake) This guy has a lot of anger, and seems to get some satisfaction from stirring it up in others. I had a friend who did this stirring up thing with anyone she could including her closest friends. She had been through a lot of terrrible medical and personal stuff and was bitter and resentful of those whose lives were easier. There's not much anyone can do except keep your distance - professional help is what's in order, maybe meds. Although this whole thread is interesting for us, it's probably not productive to get pissed at him. On the other hand, it's good to get all perspectives - it's good to know who's out there. mrs. flipper
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  Took to hospital again by ambulance home now tg

  by hambeak in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  had chest pain again monday the 11th thought it was a heart attack again.

  i told the docs the meds aren't working.

  now after extensive tests, i am told i have mold spores in my lungs.

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  Yikes, Hambeak, you rest up and heal up - good thing they found the mold spores so it can be treated. Those ambulance guys are jerks -in no way qualified for that kind of work. Take care. flipper
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  FOR THOSE UNFORTUNATE ENOUGH TO BE GOING TO THE ASSEMBLY, HERE'S SOME TIPS:

  by Mary in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  yes, there are several of us that either have to go to the crap-assed assembly this year, or simply because we plan on taking notes and posting them here.

  knowing how bloody boring the entire thing is, i've made some tips up on how you can keep awake during the 2007 borefest:are you really going to the assembly this year?

  are you ready to fall asleep by 10:05am when the opening song and prayer are over?

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  Oh you guys are so good! I'd read the whole thing again if I did'nt have to run and pee after the first read. flipper
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  JW Jargon

  by Scully in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i mentioned in an earlier post that i had a visit the other day from a former friend, a jw woman, who wanted to invite me to the district convention on the weekend.

  i almost got the impression from her casual dress that it was a social visit, until she whipped out the tract.

  one thing that i noticed was her trying to soft pedal the jw jargon that is practically second nature to jws.. she talked about how one of her kids was "gone" for a few years, but had recently "come back to us" and that she was happy to have her child's company again.

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  My favorite is "fleshly"....say that fast 5 times. For some reason it brings to mind those old paintings of naked women who are definitely not anorexic. flipper
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  Another news story today on abuse settlements...

  by flipper in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  a friend of mr f heard a story on kfbk sacramento radio news a little after 8 this am...3 people in woodland ca received their settlement money, and 7,000 others have come forward with accusations.

  i can't find it anywhere - does anyone know about this?

  danny?

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  It was a radio interview with Bill Bowen - it is on the silentlambs webpage. flipper
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  The Natural Beauty of Your Neighborhood

  by compound complex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  dear friends,.

  one of my greatest enjoyments is a daily walk.

  i see things in far greater detail than when i am driving by.

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  Hi, CoCo.....We live in the woods about 7 miles out of town so it's very nice. Saturday we drove a little less than an hour to higher country - a place called Grouse Ridge. Hiked in on a trail along several lakes and up to the top of Fall Creek Mountain where you can see all the nearby lakes and distant mountain ranges....I think the elevation's around 7,000 ft. We were all in pretty good spirits after that. flipper