Posts by bluebell

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I can hardly contain myself! :-)

by R.F. in

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since my mental departure from the organization, i'm still trying to wrap my mind around the entire concept of freedom.

now that i don't have so many restraints as a result of being in the org, such as mental, and time restraints, i can't help but be happy!

there is so much that i want to accomplish in life now and i know that now it's possible.

bluebell

Yeah it's great, I remember when I made the decision to never go to another meeting. It felt SO good, I felt like a huge weight had been lifted, I was floaty light!

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Well my grandpa just died...

by bluesbreaker59 in

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so, i get the call today from my aunt, who still speaks to me, and she fills me in, and tells me the visitation is friday (i'm not going), and the funeral is saturday.

my dad told her that he wants me to "sit with the family".

i never went to pay my last respects to him or talk to him, because he was an elder forever, and i was told he wouldn't speak to me, so i never went and never sent a card, nothing.

More FEARmongering.....

by R.F. in

i've missed meetings consistently for about 2 months now.

my ex-fiancee just left a energy-filled voicemail.

she said........... "please come back to the meetings!

bluebell

They have to guilt trip you as they do not have critical thinking and cannot back up alot of their beliefs from the bible alone.

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a while back, someone mentioned that since the word lurker has a sinister connotation, another term should be coined for those who come to the board but don't participate.. i suggest non-active participant or nap.

i came to this forum for seven years before i joined, so i know how difficult it can be to take that first step.. snowbird.

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bluebell

I understand where you are coming from but I don't think it will catch on! It never bothered me, being a lurker, but then again i didn't lurk for long.

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Interesting conversation with someone in the borg

by veen in

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so i was working with this dude, a carpenter.

he mentions that the dc is coming up next weekend and asks if i'm going to attend.

i tell him no, because i don't believe any of it and he's totally shocked.

bluebell

That is so wrong. What always stuns me is that at one time i'd have thought his actions commendable!

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Why is the attendance numbers taken twice during the meetings?

by JH in

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the watchtower wants to know just about everything and the attendance at meetings is one of them.. do they count how many people are at the hall a second time, just to know if anyone slipped out un noticed ?.

bluebell

ok i understand now, yes they are just concerned about numbers, not people

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Why is the attendance numbers taken twice during the meetings?

by JH in

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the watchtower wants to know just about everything and the attendance at meetings is one of them.. do they count how many people are at the hall a second time, just to know if anyone slipped out un noticed ?.

bluebell

they are not taken twice in one meeting but once in each.

One count for TMS and then another for SM (i actually forgot it was called service meeting, had to rack my brain for a few seconds, so proud, it is becoming a distant memory :) yay)

One count for the Public Talk and then another count for the WT.

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Am I being dumb?

by bluebell in

i really and truly believe that my father did not abuse either of my two younger sisters, just me.

my one sister was abused by my brother, which makes me think he was abused so as to act like that.. i left the jw's after finding he could get responsibilities again and because i realised that i would always be viewed as bad association no matter how hard i tried because i just didn't fit in.. i never wanted to take it any further than the congregation because i did not want to rip my family apart.. but if i had a child i would not let him alone with them.. can someone just abuse one victim (maybe two if my bro was abused as i think he was)?

or do they always abuse more?.

bluebell

I really and truly believe that my father did not abuse either of my two younger sisters, just me. My one sister was abused by my brother, which makes me think he was abused so as to act like that.

I left the JW's after finding he could get responsibilities again and because I realised that I would always be viewed as bad association no matter how hard I tried because I just didn't fit in.

I never wanted to take it any further than the congregation because I did not want to rip my family apart.

BUT if I had a child I would not let him alone with them.

Can someone just abuse one victim (maybe two if my bro was abused as I think he was)? Or do they always abuse more?

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Open Discussions About The Paranormal

by The wanderer in

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open discussions about the paranormalseveral times threads would feature a particular discussion about the paranormal.. in the past, discussions featured ghosts, unidentified flying objects, ouija boards, .

and other similar topics which correlate to the paranormal.

some individuals are put off with the subjecton several occasions, it could not be helped but to notice that individuals who .

bluebell

i must admit to being very sceptical about the paranormal, so i just choose not to share in those threads.

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Let me introduce myself - slimboyfat

by slimboyfat in

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i was simultaneously compelled and repelled by narkissoss suggestion that it may be healthy to present a story of how we became witnesses that we can now own as former or disillusioned witnesses.

if we can now own it wouldnt it necessarily be a betrayal?

whose story is it, mine or a former self or just wishful thinking?

bluebell

you made me laugh:

I follow the rather disastrous social practice of being very kind about people behind their back, and telling them exactly what I think of them to their face