Almost
10 years ago, I lost two friends to cancer withing 3 months apart. Both had battled
cancer for 2 years, were married, in their 30s and had a young child.
The
wife of the first told us, at her husband's funeral, how she was interested in
another brother. Within 2 months or so, she was remarried.
The
wife of the second carried her husband’s name for another year at the hall, then
dated and remarried a year and a half later.
I understand that the grieving process starts way before someone
dies of a terminal disease. I easily understand how the wife of the first could
feel this way. What I don’t understand is the total lack of honor, respect. She
felt entitled to these feelings and got remarried with no consideration for the
grieving process of everyone around her, especially her son.
The wife of the second did it right. You could tell there was
something between her and her future husband. But everyone could also tell that
they wanted to make things proper and respectful. For that, I will always have respect
for them.