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The name Jehovah

by sweetums in

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i was wondering how many of you think that the name jehovah is actually correct?

to be honest with you, everytime i hear it i cringe.

i had that name shoved down my throat for the past 30 years by my witness mother-in-law.

sweetums

You are making perfect sense and that is my point! Plus, I think there is a reason for his name not being revealed...

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The name Jehovah

by sweetums in

jw
friends

i was wondering how many of you think that the name jehovah is actually correct?

to be honest with you, everytime i hear it i cringe.

i had that name shoved down my throat for the past 30 years by my witness mother-in-law.

I was wondering how many of you think that the name Jehovah is actually correct? To be honest with you, everytime I hear it I cringe. I had that name shoved down my throat for the past 30 years by my witness mother-in-law. Although, I can't say that that is her favorite word... actually, I think satan is her favorite word...lol

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My Grandpa Died Sunday

by noni1974 in

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my grandpa died sunday afternoon.i was there in the room with him.i had to watch as he struggled to take his last breaths.it was horrific to watch.this was the second time i have watched someone in my family die.he died of prostate cancer.it was a long and painful death.i'm glad he's not in pain anymore.. at the moment i'm feeling a little emotional and upset about what i saw and all of the jw bs i had to listen too.i'm also dreading the jw memorial which is next weekend.i am planning on going.i'm da ed so i don't expect anyone to come up and talk to me or express there sorrow to me.the thing is i feel like i should be comferted and people should tell me they are sorry i lost my grandfather.i lost someone who i had alot of respect for all of my life regaurdless of how close we were after i da ed.i think i'm going to be excluded at the dinner after.they are planning a reception type thing for after the service.

i'm glad i did get the chance to see him and talk to him before he got really sick.i had the chance to go to dinner with him and my parents and a couple of my aunts a few months ago.when he was leaveing he asked me pointedly for a hug.he said he was collecting them.i hugged him and said i loved him.that was the last time i saw him till i went to my aunts house where he was staying just before he went into hospice.the next time i saw him was 3 weeks ago when he entered hospice and wasn't expected to live the night out.then i saw him sunday i arrived about 20 to 30 minutes before he took his last breath.he was creamated this week and will be buried with my other family in our family plots soon.. anyway i'm just in need of some kind words of support at the moment.i though that jwd would give that to me even though i don't post here that much.it really sucks to feel alone at times like this..

sweetums

Noni, I am so very sorry for the loss of you grandfather. I can tell that you loved him very much. If it's any comfort to you, the one memory you can hold close to you heart and the one that I find so endearing is him asking you for a hug, him telling you he was collecting them. How sweet is that? He knew you loved him, rest assured... Peace to you and your family!

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Jehovah Witnesses and inheritance

by sweetums in

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friends

i am not a witness but i would like to ask you a question.

is it common practice for jw's to will all of their "worldly" possessions to witness relatives only?

are they encouraged to do so by the borg?

sweetums

Thank you all for being so nice. Please know this isn't about money because what my in-laws own doesn't amount to a hill of beans. It's the message it's sending. I want to forget the hurt look on my husband's face when he found out what his mother and father did. I can only imagine what it feels like to know in your parent's eyes that you don't exist.

We have lived next door to my in-laws for the past thirty years. They are both approaching eighty years of age. Several years ago hurricane Katrina came storming through our state. Do you think their "elder" son stayed to make sure they would be safe? No he evacuated to Texas and left them to fend for themselves. I'll give you one guess who was here for them, watching out for them, clearing their driveway of debris, searching for gas to run their generator etc..

I hate the hypocrisy of it all.

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Jehovah Witnesses and inheritance

by sweetums in

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friends

i am not a witness but i would like to ask you a question.

is it common practice for jw's to will all of their "worldly" possessions to witness relatives only?

are they encouraged to do so by the borg?

sweetums

Believe me bikerchic it did make me cranky! I thought, since when does Satan help you find out the truth? They drew up this will ten years ago and I just recently found out about it. I would have preferred that they were honest and above board and just tell us what their intentions were. That's all I ever wanted from them was honesty... I suppose that's too much to ask for.

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Jehovah Witnesses and inheritance

by sweetums in

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friends

i am not a witness but i would like to ask you a question.

is it common practice for jw's to will all of their "worldly" possessions to witness relatives only?

are they encouraged to do so by the borg?

sweetums

Thank you for your replies. You have confirmed what I already suspected. I found out quite by accident that my in-laws did so. My mother-in-law was not happy that I knew about it. Obviously she wanted to keep it a secret from the rest of her non-witness children. When I confronted her about it, the first thing she said to me was, "Satan must have helped you find this out"... (no actually, it was the clerk of court who to knowledge doesn't go by the alternate name of Satan).

I asked her why she would do such a thing and she replied that, "She didn't want to, but that she had to." Which leads me to guess that either they are encouraged to by the org. or else this was my father-in-laws decision and since he is the head of the family, she has to abide by his decisions... regardless of the fact that the man has advanced dementia and is on medicine for alzheimers.

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Jehovah Witnesses and inheritance

by sweetums in

jw
friends

i am not a witness but i would like to ask you a question.

is it common practice for jw's to will all of their "worldly" possessions to witness relatives only?

are they encouraged to do so by the borg?

sweetums

I am not a witness but I would like to ask you a question. Is it common practice for jw's to will all of their "worldly" possessions to witness relatives only? Are they encouraged to do so by the borg? I found out recently that my in-laws, who are jw's have done so and their sole beneficiary is their eldest son who happens to be an "elder". Just wondering if this is typical behavior. Thank you for your comments.

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Common Refrigerator at work - keeping what's ours

by Jim_TX in

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where my wife and i work, they have a refrigerator in the break room.

it's used for temporary storage of employee food items - for lunch, and in some cases for butter or other perishable items.. it's easier to take a tub of butter and leave it at work for spreading on toast, than it is to take a tub of butter in to work, use it, then take it home in the evenings.. well, we take a few things like the above mentioned tub of butter (not margarine), bottles of water, and sodas.

we usually put our initials on the top of the bottles (which is a pain - but necessary), and place them in a certain location in the refrigerator.. the water and sodas, go inside the door at the bottom, all grouped together.

sweetums

The only idea I can think of concerning the soda would be to break the seal and drink a couple of sips of it before you put it in the fridge and see they enjoy drinking after you. Maybe they wouldn't be quite as tempted.

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JWs and Love towards their families

by R.F. in

this is something that just popped in my mind suddenly.. but i was thinking about over the years the many comments of jws about loved ones.

for instance, one sister was speaking of her disgust with her children not accepting the "truth".

she gladly tells anyone of what she told them; that if they don't accept it before armageddon that it's too bad.

sweetums

My teenage son wonders why I feel the need to come to this website and it's hard to explain how having in-laws that are witnesses has impacted my life so negatively. I suppose you do have to live it to know what it feels like. My husband is one of three sons and he and one of his brothers are basically" the living dead" to their parents. The older brother is an elder and the sun rises and sets on him and his children...we have the "worldly children" and heaven above knows how much I hate that term. I am trying to understand the mentality that would reason that dying now before Armageddon would be a "good thing". How can anyone with a heart say something so cruel? To want to have the memory of the children that were given to you as a gift erased forever is unthinkable. What does that reduce you to? An automotron... someone just going through the motions? I beg to be different... I think, I feel, therefore I am... and I don't need someone to tell me how to do it! I so wish they would wake-up to what is real! I pray one day that they will.

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How Did Being Referred To As A Brother Or Sister Make You Feel?

by The wanderer in

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how did being referred to as a brother or sister make you feel?the term brother always reminded me of being in some militant or holy roller religion.

during my tenure as a jehovahs witness, i brought it to the elders attention to refer to .

me by using my first or last name when addressing me.

sweetums

Having never been one, I wouldn't know... but I do know what it feels like being referred to as a "goat" by my mil, who is one.