I used to be very judgemental but now I have the opposite problem..I just dont give much of a damn about what anyone says or does.
In my opinion, judgementalism is a direct result of lack of understanding. Having been through hell and back in my life I can pretty much relate to most people in one way or another so instead of being quick to judge I think of a time in my life when I did the same thing they are doing.
Like a couple weekends ago when a friend and co worker sat me down and told me he was gay. Rather than giving him the 'OMG you bastard how could you lie so much!' response that he had gotten from others (since he pretended to be straight and borderline homophobic around all of us), we ended up talking for a while about how hard it is to put on an act for the whole world while trying to keep the reality of who you are a secret. I could totally relate after growing up a jw and telling more than my share of lies to keep it a secret, so it was not possible for me to judge him for blatantly lying to me for the past couple of years about himself.
If someone does happen to do something I disagree with or wouldnt do, at the very least I try to think 'what would I do in under the same circumstances'. if I cant say in all honestly that I wouldnt do the same thing then how can I judge. I always try to think of the whole picture.
Besides I'm just too lazy to judge, its an exhausting hobby.
flower, of the 'just dont give a $h!t class'
