Posts by sparrow

okay, i'm not really sure where to start here, and i apologize in advance if this is all over the place.. i basically have come here for your help and advice.

my husband and i got married may of this year, so it has only been 2 months!

he was raised a jw (only by his mother, his dad has never been in the "truth").

Apart from everything else said here I think jgnat has the best point - "we talked about everything". You guys got married for a reason and you need to learn to trust each other and talk about what you are feeling. If he has doubts - research them together. If there is something else stopping him going - talk about it. If you don't want to go - talk about it. You can't push things under the carpet. Eventually they won't fit.

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Dating/relationships and ex-dubbyness

by devinsmom in

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ok, so i allways thought that dating someone who used to be a witless would be cool , since you would both kinda know what the other had been through in his/her life.

so my question is: how many of you date/have dated ex-witnesses, why or why not and does the relationship benifit from it...and just your ideas about it in general.. .

sparrow

I think it's a standard relationship question and it really depends on the people involved. It is definitely a plus to have something in common - likes, dislikes, experiences (which takes in the gammit of growing up a JW). This is what a lot of the time gets people past the "first date". At the same time differences is what can also make it a great relationship.

Personally I wished I could speak to my wife a lot about what I grew up with and after 3 years I am actually starting to (especially now she has met a lot of ex-JWs) What attracted me to her in the first place had nothing to do with "the truth","witnesses" and all that crap. We just clicked. And I am glad we did...

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Watchtower deliberately lying?

by AllAlongTheWatchtower in

i remember a topic a couple months ago, something about whether the gb actually believed in what they taught.

other topics have been similar lately, and today i noticed the topic about google 'proving' that the wts deliberately lies.

but is it deliberate?

sparrow

On a serious note - from my experience - people are capable of anything. There was a time I thought "no way someone is capable of doing that to a person or people".

Once bitten, twice shy as they say. I wouldn't be surprised...

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Mary Lou and Joyce shunned me - so I shunned them back.

by AK - Jeff in

i used to carry a 'no shunning' policy.

i would not tolerate those who acted toward me like they did not know me after 30 years as a jw.

i would force them to speak - or embarrass the living hell out of them if they didn't.

sparrow

I was shunned at my mum's (mom for you americans) sisters's funeral not long after I was discoed. I wasn't asking for big hugs, nothing has changed type gear but for god sake - someone is dead - show some decency. First time I felt defiant to be honest. I wasn't close to my aunt, I was there for my mother.

It gives me great comfort to know 99% of the people at the funeral don't have anything to do with her now and me - the DF'd son - is still her favourite (yes she still goes but married a non-jw)

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Watchtower deliberately lying?

by AllAlongTheWatchtower in

i remember a topic a couple months ago, something about whether the gb actually believed in what they taught.

other topics have been similar lately, and today i noticed the topic about google 'proving' that the wts deliberately lies.

but is it deliberate?

sparrow

Stick around empty words - I'm picking the smallest ones to read and reply tonight. I have 3 - no 2 more posts before I hit the hunchg (that's hun-je phoenetically)

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UPDATE ON DANSK

by Physio in

jw
friends

it's been a long time since i posted here but i often read your messages when ian (dansk) logs on.

as most of you will know, ian will be going back into hospital on monday for an allogeneic stem cell transplant and will be away from the forum for a good few weeks (hopefully he'll be back home within 4-6 weeks).

last time he was in hospital many of you sent messages to his ward and i know they cheered him up immensely.

sparrow

Hi Claire,

Just sent a greeting through the site - that's cool. I wish you and Ian the best in this time.

-Leon

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Watchtower deliberately lying?

by AllAlongTheWatchtower in

i remember a topic a couple months ago, something about whether the gb actually believed in what they taught.

other topics have been similar lately, and today i noticed the topic about google 'proving' that the wts deliberately lies.

but is it deliberate?

sparrow

I believe in not reading the post from emptywords (sorry emptywords). Too long, it's late, I'm on my second bottle of wine and it's a f@#^ing 45 min talk...

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How Google Proves The Watchtower is Deliberately Lying

by metatron in

jw
friends

at one time, doing deep research took a lot of time.

you might have to visit a particular library in a .

particular city.

sparrow

I feel your pain Danny - Oz aint that cool in summer I can tell you. I just bought a house and did my own roof (to save a bit of money) and I wondered what the hell I was thinking when I went tiling...