Posts by 4digitcode

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have you found it difficult?

by 4digitcode in

jw
friends

to make friends since you're out of the organization?

maybe these things take time.

it's hard to establish new friendships when ones i had for years floated away in an instant.

wow ninja that's very honest of you. i applaud your honesty.

deacon i feel you even though i like hanging out and stuff, i feel like for different reasons we are in the same boat.

V--very good advice thanks.
free- i may be coming to that apostafest the 1st of december. Thanks all for your replies.

I feel it is hard to make friends because i never had to MAKE friends. they were right there at the hall, in service, etc....

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have you found it difficult?

by 4digitcode in

jw
friends

to make friends since you're out of the organization?

maybe these things take time.

it's hard to establish new friendships when ones i had for years floated away in an instant.

4digitcode

to make friends since you're out of the organization?

maybe these things take time. It's hard to establish new friendships when ones i had for years floated away in an instant.

'worldly' people have the friendships they've had for years, from childhood, from college, etc.I feel like a weird person not having any real friends anymore. i'm friendly and have acquaintances but no real friendships.it's lonely at times.

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Do Jehovah's Witnesses REALLY Love Others?

by minimus in

jw
friends

think about it---witnesses proclaim that their identifying mark is love.

they are the "most loving organization in the world".

they personify christ and are the only "true christians".

4digitcode

to summer:

are you studying or something with the witnesses and that's why you feel the love bombing?? if you are, stop before they get a hold of your mind!!

i think jehovah's witnesses disdain sinners and what they consider bad association but they absolutely hate apostates!

They don't understand the meaning of unconditional love. If any of my old friends came out i would seriously guard myself until i see they truly don't think that way anymore.

I feel like witnesses give with the right hand and take away with the left.
They may give you an appearance of love but at the first mistake you're totally discarded. ANd when you're df'ed it's out of sight and out of mind.

Have you guys ever noticed how sometimes they even try to get you to say 'apostate' stuff so they truly have a good reason to not talk to you? i had these friends i tried to call once in a while. One of them always did that. He was always fishing for it randomly saying 'have you been on the internet? or Who are you talking to?' ....what a loser! bless him.

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Mr. Flipper & Mrs. Flippers 1st Wedding Anniversary Today !!!

by flipper in

jw
friends

hello my friends .

well, i just wanted to share our special day with you guys too , because you folks have become close like family to us !

for mrs. flipper and myself being in our late 40's, early 50's, with all the challenges we had over the years before we met, being with the wrong people who took advantage of our kindness when we were both in other relationships , we truly do feel it is a miracle that her and i finally found each other later in life and found real happiness in a marriage.

4digitcode

congratulations!!

9

I found an old friend who is an Ex-JW!

by reneeisorym in

my mom is disfellowshipped ... she works as a bank teller.

one of my old friends from high school who went to my congregation went by my mom's window and they talked for a while.

somehow she had her mom call my mom and they even offered to let mom and me visit their vacation home.

4digitcode

i found a friend from my past.
talkin to him right now.
He's one of my really good friend snow.
so good for you.

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IS YOUR FEAR LESSENING?

by Dansk in

jw
friends

many here are afraid to come out into the open with their identity because they still have friends and family in.

however, it is noticeable that there are many newbies here and more and more exposes on watchtower.

do you, therefore, feel less intimidated or afraid now?.

4digitcode

you're totally right dansk.

The first few weeks were horrible. I used to be scared i would die unexpectedly and end up in hell.....i know witnesses shouldn't believe in hell but i was so shaken by all the stuff i read on the internet, i didn't know what was real anymore.

i'm sorry about your daughter, it's awful that the society has that kind of power.

we have to be happy now that we're out, we owe it to ourselves. we were unhappy in it for too long!! and who knows maybe we're giving a good witness to the people still in ;)

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If You Were Single, Would You Ever Date A Married or Separated Person?

by minimus in

jw
friends

lately, i've seen more than a few unhappy couples go their own way and do their own thing.

one guy i know regularly dates women only on friday nights but comes home to his wife the rest of the time.

my impression is she doesn't want to know what he's doing------just as long as he comes home to her.. i know a state senator's wife who has 2 kids and she's miserable with her politician/lawyer husband but in public they look like the perfect couple.

4digitcode

I've had 2 boyfriends separated for a few years. There was nothing going on with the wife anymore and no sign of reconciliation. The divorce process was just a very slow one in the country where i was living.

Even though i'm not the biggest fan of marriage, i still feel it's wrong to date someone who's married.
But hey i'm not trying to disrespect anyone. I'm only 22 years old and haven't lived enough to experience such things. I just know in the end a lot of people get hurt and feel bad about themselves.

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How did you break away?

by zennin in

jw
friends

7 months ago i came to a foreign country on a working holiday visa for, you know, a 'wonderful experience'- i had plans to pioneer and a kind of determination to use this time to prove to myself, and to jehovah, that i can be loyal to him no matter what.... have i failed?

i don't think so, but even as i type this i think it is too early for me to answer or even ask that question.. all i know is that during the past 7 months i have done more research and more deep thinking and meditation than i have done in my whole life.

i have met wonderful wonderful people- many of them witnesses who have helped me out immensely and shown me a lot of kindness, and many of them non-witnesses- just ordinary people with their own moral foundations and personal philosophies.

4digitcode

don't worry about those millions of people. Don't you know the good news is preached in 19836480 lands in 16598429 languages.

Ans also god is waiting for EVERYONE to be saved.
Good news, innit?

But on a serious note,
i was disfellowshipped but my best advice to you would be fade fade fade. Many here have done it, i'm sure they can give you great tips.

you had the strength within yourself to do research and challenge a belief system you had your whole life. Now you'll take steps to break away from its grip. And everyone will be here to support you!
welcome!!!

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What's better? To live a lie or tell your spouse the religion is lies?

by truthseeker in

jw
friends

a close friend of mine who is still an active dub believes it is ok for a spouse to leave their partner if they found out that they did not believe the society had the truth.

in other words, if a loyal jw spouse found a copy of coc in their partner's possession, it's perfectly justified for that spouse to walk out on the marriage.

so i said to him, did jesus allow for divorce not only for fornication, but for possessing coc or simply no longer believing the society has the truth?