Posts by mentalclearness

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Is it SABOTAGE or HONESTY

by BCberean in

i think i just lost another man because of the 'sex within the confines of marriage' issue.. my sister said i should wait til i have them hooked before i make it clear where i stand.. doesn't seem quite honest to me......but....i'm wondering if i'm somehow sabotaging the relationship.. .

mentalclearness

I think their are some "straight edge" christian groups who also have those same viewpoints..although i think there are some loopholes..LOL!!

I think very very few men will wait till marraige to have sex...maybe you could wait till you really feel inlove with the guy...give him at least some hope for goodness sake!!!

and i personally think there is nothing wrong with "making love" not just having sex with someone who you love...it's a really beautiful thing where he and you can express yourselves in a more intimate way..it brings you closer together..maybe you should kind of rethink how you think about sex..it's about the intimacy...it's not just this physical primitive thing...

if he cares for you you can both go at a slow pace...but i wouldn't say such a cut and dry statement as you're waiting till marraige..you might change your mind as you get closer to him....

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has any1 been left with other issues(alchohol,drugs etc)as a result of life

by xnmad in

i,m not making xcuses for the way ive lived my life, but have sunk myself into "the pleasures of this world"quite wholeheartedly.

mostly to escape my own demons, ironicaly due to serving god!just wondered if any of u guys went completely off the rails when u left n indulged in "unwholesome activies" like me.or maybe its jus me that ended up completely f**d up?

mentalclearness

the first time i became inactive was at 19..and basically i was living by myself and far from family so i did a little experimenting with everything...i had already smoked pot and done acid as an adolescent but of course it escalated to cocaine...and i mean everyone around me was doing it..plus i felt alot of guilt..i basically had a life of going out and partying till 5,6 in th morning..the thing that actually saved me is that i met someone and they didn't do drugs, so i promised not to do them and since then I haven't..I also got pregnant and that changed my life completely...but i can see how you can get trapped in that lifestyle...have you gotten any help? AA?? NA???

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how many times were you disciplined???

by mentalclearness in

well i grew up in the organization..and i had several committee meetings..i was privately reproved at 17 (for pot) at 22 i was publicly reproved (for sex) and privately reproved again at 31 for sex again.... .

so who holds the record for the most discipline while still in the organization????

i know many cases (mostly friends) who were df'ed came back and then df'ed again...i even know someone who was df'ed three times......

mentalclearness

i forgot...the first time i had to talk to the elders was for smoking cigarettes...nothing happened..but tey did relate it with spiritism...apparently smoking is a way to communicate with satan or something...

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how many times were you disciplined???

by mentalclearness in

well i grew up in the organization..and i had several committee meetings..i was privately reproved at 17 (for pot) at 22 i was publicly reproved (for sex) and privately reproved again at 31 for sex again.... .

so who holds the record for the most discipline while still in the organization????

i know many cases (mostly friends) who were df'ed came back and then df'ed again...i even know someone who was df'ed three times......

mentalclearness

well i grew up in the organization..and I had several committee meetings..I was privately reproved at 17 (for pot) at 22 I was publicly reproved (for sex) and privately reproved again at 31 for sex again....

so who holds the record for the most discipline while still in the organization???? I know many cases (mostly friends) who were df'ed came back and then df'ed again...I even know someone who was df'ed three times......

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Email from my Mom defending WTS, Point/counter point/ Point

by Burger Time in

a little back story; i have been having a lot of debates with my mom about society stuff.

anyways i directed her to the watchtower documents and the molestation charges.

she then sent me an email here is what she wrote, the orginal email was just a link to the site and i said something to the effect of, jehovah makes public the records that were supposed to be hidden!

mentalclearness

I thought your response was incredibly eloquent and logical (she must be kicking herself for encouraging you to read)...I'm kind of surprised that as a mother herself your mom isn't more empathetic towards the victims...turning around the snowplow story was genius. I'll be checking to see how she responds next..

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so I told her that I'm in love with her....

by jaredg in

but she didn't reciprocate.

she held me tight and kissed me softly.

her body language says that she loves me and she's told me she cares for me very much, but she didn't say those magic words.

mentalclearness

i had this happened a little while ago to me..so i can give you the other perspective...i was dating this guy who told me he loved me after three months of dating...while i had strong feelings for him, i didn't feel like i was in love with him.. and i didn't want to say something i didn't feel...so i didn't answer back..but then i explained to him later on how i felt, that i was apprehensive about falling in love again..it's kind of a scary thing when you've been really hurt before....and especially if their are children involved it's complicated..because you're not just looking for a partner but for someone that will get along with your kids and be a good model for them..we continued to go out for a while, but the relationship fizzled out because it didn't progress....i would say wait a while, don't say i love you anymore (it might scare, or pressure her) and let things flow at it's own pace..if you see no progress then cut your losses...every situation is different but trust your instincts..if something doesn't seem to be right..it's probably not..in my case, with this guy..the circumstances were wrong..and i couldn't visualize myself with him in the future..we had a great time together in the moment..but there was no future there, so eventually i cut it off.

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ok so i have a bit of a dilemna, advise needed.

by free2think in

jw
friends

i was just on facebook, and somone sent me a pm saying they knew me from school.

so anyway i sent a reply saying how are you?

etc.. she then sent me another message to say how she was doing and then finished it with 'am i remembering correctly you're are in the truth?'.

mentalclearness

I think I would say that I've been having some doubts about the witnesses...some things I'm not in agreement with..then wait to see what kind of response you get...if she asks questions than inform her..and then tell her not to mention your name or discussion to anyone else..if she's your friend she'll respect the confidentiality thing.

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staying "in Truth" for family--is it worth it?...hyporcrite needing help

by oompa in

i have just been outed on this site due to my own stupidity, and lost my anonymity after just a short pleasant while here.

i have been turned in folks, compete with screen name/avatar, by family and i have a ton in.

it is easy to tell it is me, although i never use anyones names.

mentalclearness

I'm one of those people who think things happen for a reason...so maybe you should see this as your opportunity to speak openly to the elders about your doubts..they most likely will try to convince you to study with one of them and "convince" yourself more of "the truth"...I don't believe being dishonest will help you any..It usually makes matters worse..and speak to your family first about it..Explain what's going on with you...I'm not saying you'll get the best response, but I think you are adult enough to face the consequences...eventually the things you do catch up with you...you really never know how things will turn out...there are so many scenarios that could happen...hang in there and try to be strong..don't back down just because of the elders..

and if it's not to indiscreet....how were you outed??

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Ahhhh yes ... those wonderful "quick-builds"

by Frequent_Fader_Miles in

just reminiscing a little on all the "quick-build" assignments i supported in the past.

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what was your "quick-build" experience?.

mentalclearness

i remember one quick build where my big job assignment was to take care of the children of the workers in what they called "kiddie kingdom"---more like "kiddie hell"....it must of been an omen..LOL surrounded by kids!!! one of the moms that had her kid there i talked to for a really long time..a month later she left her husband for some guy from her work and get this..left her child with her husband...nice christian woman....

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Tell Us Something We Probably Don't Know About You

by minimus in

jw
friends

i'll start.. i love the jerky boys and "prank" candid camera/punked types of humor.. i also love r&b, soul, funk and disco.. now what can you tell us about yourself that we might've never guessed?.

mentalclearness

my dream is to have my own eco adventure turism business....and i love sushi!!!