I'm also a NKOTB - I didn't get the welcome you did though
We can fade together.....
this is my first message and i am glad to be here.
i guess you could say i just got some new light!.
i have had a tough time lately - all the scars from being a jw and not wanting to lose contact with my family.
I'm also a NKOTB - I didn't get the welcome you did though
We can fade together.....
i had my tms tonight.
for those who don't know me, i no longer believe, but have only just begun my slow fade.. the meeting was unbearable.
first there was the brother who happily pointed out that i'd missed two meetings recently and that he was keeping track.
Do you know that being on the TMS is optional? You don't have to give the talk. I just found out the TMS was optional about 2 years ago
Shopaholic - I Knew they were optional, but the stupid TMS bro kept giving me them and saying "I know you don't want to but just do this last one" and I always would. I used to prepare talks for my mates as well, pure BS!
Keep fading dude...let us know how you go.
i am starting to think about the joyous season already - i know, i know, i am way too early.
it is still summer in the northern hemisphere, school has only just gotten started, and the leaves haven't even turned yet.
still - i suppose i have catching up to do.
I'm going to buy my nephews the best Chrimbo presents EVER!!! i always felt like such a meany, but boy are they gonna love their aunty this year..any ideas on what to buy boys of 12 and 8? Not used to buying presents...
just curious as to what difficulties have faced people dating as an ex jw.
myself, i have noticed the glazed over look in a guy's eyes when you try to explain why your family doesn't celebrate the holidays with you etc.
new to this board, so if this has been well covered before, please forgive me.
Dating outside the Jdub thing is soooooo hard.
I started dating a guy just as i was thinking of leaving the Jdubs, he could not understand why a grown woman would keep a normal healthy relationship secret from her family. This led to him thinking that I was secretive about other stuff and raised issues of trust. He did have a point, as I didn't want to tell him that I'd gone door knocking so sometimes lied and he'd later find out I wasn't doing what I said I'd been doing...needless to say the relationship ended.
As Jdub teens we were never prepaired for dating. As Jdub you didn't have to ask too many questions as you'd all been brainwashed to think the same way. So outside its so much more complicated...good luck is all I say. I think I'll be single for a very long time to come...
thought this could get interesting discussing experiences.
i for one was trying to reach out for ministerial servant again in the early 90's , had been one before, and was assigned to carry the microphones one meeting.
had an elder call me in the back room and say , " brother flipper, i noticed looking down towards your shoes that you are wearing white socks today.
Make up Skirt length Fish net hose Heel height Clothes to tight. Not wearing panty hose. Not wearing a slip.
Dragonlady - Ditto. I remember once I got counselled on wearing a sleeveless dress on the platform, before i walked up a sister tried to get me to put on her cardigan in from of teh whole Kh I just said no thanks. It was a hot summers day for god sakes...there just arms! not my fault if teh bros couldn't handle it.
http://www.sun-sentinel.com/news/local/broward/sfl-flbblackledge0824nbaug24,0,7357675,print.story.
when glenn blackledge violated his probation on super bowl sunday, he ran out of second chances.. .
police found him slumped over the wheel of his still-running truck in a coral springs parking lot, reeking of alcohol.. ---snip---.
MrsJones - you make me laugh.
Roselee, you really should be using your time in personal study, instead of coming on this site to preach at us. Happydad did not say that all JW's will eventually become alcoholics, but merely that being in that religion did not help. A religion where you are not really allowed to be express your true feelings, and depression is met with a bible and more study instead of the real clinical help needed. Why don't you go discuss this with your congregation elders...oh wait, you can't cos you ain't even suposed to be on here. You know what they say "if you can't stand the heat, get out the kitchen" If what is said here offends you so much why are you not spending you time chatting with like minded brainwashed idividuals.
man escapes jail for sex attacksbbc news - 1 hour, 42 minutes agoa jehovah's witnesss gets a community sentence for a series of sex assaults on children and adults.man escapes jail for sex attacks porter was put on the sex offenders registera jehovah's witness has escaped a jail term after admitting a series of sexual assaults on children and adults in clevedon.
michael porter, an elder in the religion, pleaded guilty to 24 counts of indecent assault and gross indecency on 13 victims aged 18 months and older.
among the individuals were others involved in the faith.
Surely peoples gut instincts will kick in over their religious ideals?
You would hope, but unfortunately people in the congs don't think that way.
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in view of the latest uk child abuse scandal, have any of you lurkers/faders/still ins finally decided to make a clean break and leave openly, for good?
I am a new fader - Not been since April, although did do half a day at the convention. I have no intention of going back to that hole. The fact that I have tried to discuss this latest scandel with the JW's i work with and am just getting "its so bad that he claimed to be a JW" replies is pissing me right off. No one is willing to be honest about the feelings about the dirt paedo, and I don't want anything to do with an organisation that allows children to be in such danger on a regular basis.
The Jdubs have seen the last of me....au revior!
man escapes jail for sex attacksbbc news - 1 hour, 42 minutes agoa jehovah's witnesss gets a community sentence for a series of sex assaults on children and adults.man escapes jail for sex attacks porter was put on the sex offenders registera jehovah's witness has escaped a jail term after admitting a series of sexual assaults on children and adults in clevedon.
michael porter, an elder in the religion, pleaded guilty to 24 counts of indecent assault and gross indecency on 13 victims aged 18 months and older.
among the individuals were others involved in the faith.
The cong teh monster now attends is just up the road from me, I feel like turning up on Sunday to see if he's there!!!
I work with two JW's and neithe rof thm know I no longer go to teh kingdumb hall, and one of them just said "hav eyou heard about that man" I replied "he's still not disfellowshipped" an dshe was all "his sister is bad mouthing him all over the radio, I think she is d'd anyway and is just angry, so she really shouldn't be on the radio when she isn't a real witness" What the f*ck, sorry, but how is the fact that his sister is not longer a witness relevant, the guy deserves to be in jail but yet he said "sorry" so its all ok? Its all messed up, as long as tehy keep there numbers up and the name out of the paper, the kids can suffer...F*ckers. I'm so ANGRY!!
we all hear stories an experiences that happened to a "friend of a friend," and the witnesses are no exception.
they even have their own urban legends.
here are my favorites, and please post yours as well.. 1. watchtower theologists according to one of the old guys i used to pioneer with, there is a super-scary-secret organization of apostates called "watchtower theology.
KatitKitten, too funny! After one of those "I found a tract in a bin and now Im baptised" crappiola stoies a sis in my cong went around placing WT's and tracts in all teh neighbourhood bins. Bet she counted them as placements...