Posts by bluesmurf92

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Personal experiences...

by *summer* in

have been reading so much on this site...it is not even funny anymore.

i am now into "the best of"...a gold mine of personal experiences!

while reading, a question often comes to mind.

I didn't have as much experience as most others. But I still try to find my way.

I don't always do well. Sometimes I'm angry with Him. Sometimes I don't believe Him. Sometimes I think He must love to torture people, or tease us with false promises.

But at least I'm looking for Him, asking Him, talking with Him, instead of blindly accepting whatever I'm told. Maybe there's hope for me yet.

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I need some serious informational help from EVERYONE!

by Thedirtysecret in

i am new here and i joined honestly to collect information to understand something a little better.

my boyfriend, well-now kinda boyfriend (were at a weird place) is a jehovah's witness and i am not.

he waited a little "far" into our relationship to tell me he was, which created a mess, honestly an emotional dyfunctional mess.

bluesmurf92

Hi there. I'm sorry you're hurt. :(

By now, you've read dozens of posts warning you away from this guy. Not because of who he is, but because of his religion. For JW's, the most important thing is, are you a JW, or not?

I won't repeat what everyone else posted. But I will suggest you read it all over again. I think you're looking for someone to tell you how to make this work. But read what everyone's posted. It will be painful, but that's what people who KNOW about this have to say.

I hope you'll let them help you through this.

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Anyone grow up in a small town?

by RisingEagle in

grrrr.

bad enter key, bad.. those who grew up in small towns will laugh when they read this.

those who didn't will be in disbelief and won't understand how true it is.

bluesmurf92

Very funny. :)

I grew up 2 miles outside a small town of 5,000. They still don't have a golf course. But they put in some traffic lights. :o

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Public Talk Intro on Youtube, picked apart and pathetic

by Wasanelder Once in

someone uploaded a public talk on youtube.

i don't know which one it is because i quit listening after the introduction.

i thought it was the perfect example of how negative the whole thing is.

bluesmurf92

NewYork44M,

I think you hit the nail on the head.

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Yet another pathetic witness E-Mail

by darth frosty in

but it's worth another read because it can be a much needed reminder.

we're all running in the same race, we're here to help each other.. .

subject: jehovah will never let go.

bluesmurf92

To me, this sounds like more of JW's avoiding responsibility...

We're not hurting you. Jehovah is. Because He knows better than you, and wants what's best for you. The pain you feel from fading, from losing friends & family just because you're starting to believe differently isn't bad. It's actually really good. It means Jehovah doesn't want you to go. So you should be thankful for the pain Jehovah brings to you, because it saves you from greater harm...

I'm so glad I told my friend Richard that I couldn't understand that stuff he tried to teach me. JW logic reminds me of this joke I pulled from the net...

A guy's tired of working minimum wage, so signs up for classes at the local Community College. Admissions suggests he takes English, Math, History, and Logic.

He asks, "Logic? What's that?"
"Let's try an example. Do you own a lawnmower?"
Yeah.
"Well, logically, if you own a lawnmower, you must have a yard."
Yep.
"And if you have a yard, you must own a home."
Sure do.
"Continuing to use logic, if you own all these, lawnmower, yard, and home, you must have a family, a wife & kids?"
Why yes, I have a family.
"And since you have a family, you're probably hetero?"
I sure am. Say, you got all that from logic? Amazing!

Later he's talking with a buddy about it.
"I signed up for classes. English, Math, History, and Logic."
His friend asked, "Logic? What's that?"

So he offered the example given to him.
"Here's a logic question. Do you own a lawnmower?"
No.
"Then you're a queer."

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How to Ruin a Childhood

by WTWizard in

here is one effect of our going out in field circus, that they will not tell you about.

no, not the getting persecuted.

no, not that last-call syndrome where the last call takes forever.

bluesmurf92

That's what I remember my dad telling me. That hell is 6 feet away, and that me, my siblings, my mother, and everyone I knew were going there, but that he was the only one who wouldn't. This started even earlier than 6, even before I was old enough to enter kindergarten. So I didn't understand, but the way he kept screaming it at me, and telling me that everyone I knew and/or cared about would go to this horrible place... well, I never gave my dad a "Father of the Year" award. I also remember my dad telling me I'd never get to go to school anyway. The world would end before then. And of course, school was a "terrible place" anyway. Strangely enough, I remember looking forward to school. Maybe because my father, who back then was lord of my life, told me I'd never get there. I hope this makes some sense.

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DAD'S how much time do you spend,,,,

by Quentin in

as a father, or grand father, do you get your kids up in the am, feed them breakfast and get them off to school?

pick them up after school...take them to piano, or, any other activity?.

if so, why... and for how long?.

bluesmurf92

I don't want to be a dad. My own was terrible, and I'm afraid I might turn into him.

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How to Ruin a Childhood

by WTWizard in

here is one effect of our going out in field circus, that they will not tell you about.

no, not the getting persecuted.

no, not that last-call syndrome where the last call takes forever.

bluesmurf92

Sounds familiar. No Holidays or Birthdays growing up. Lots of spankings, which gradually turned to standing in the corner until we couldn't stand any longer. Told repeatedly that school is an evil place which turns kids away from their parents. Cowering as my JW dad towered over me, screaming that I was doomed to go to hell, at the tender age of 6. I can even thank my dad, his beliefs, & his temper for my poor eyesight.

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Destroying One's Faith

by Sunspot in

the jws are always grumbling that former jws are trying to "destroy their faith" and that they have nothing nice to say about the men who write for the watchtower or their peculiar teachings.. but then---jws go to people's homes and try to convince them that they should stop:.

praising jesus,.

celebrating or honoring their lord and savior on his resurrection or on his birth,.

bluesmurf92

Thanks for the welcome, hmike. :) The sad thing for me, besides watching people I love avoid me like the plague, is that this cult seems to destroy love. I remember searching for Churches, and too many said they were the only ones with the Truth. But a few, a very few, cared more about me than getting a new member. "Seek God with all your heart, and you will find Him... I'm praying for you... I'm happy to see you again!..." I compare this to what others, including the JW's taught me... "We're the ONLY way to God... you HAVE TO believe us... I don't want to see you miss out on Eternal Life..." A completely different message. One full of love, the other full of guilt.

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Destroying One's Faith

by Sunspot in

the jws are always grumbling that former jws are trying to "destroy their faith" and that they have nothing nice to say about the men who write for the watchtower or their peculiar teachings.. but then---jws go to people's homes and try to convince them that they should stop:.

praising jesus,.

celebrating or honoring their lord and savior on his resurrection or on his birth,.

bluesmurf92

I don't know if it's ok for me, a Newbie, to start here. If not, please tell me where to go. My dad was a JW back in the early 70's. He tried to teach us their "irrefutable" doctrine. I couldn't understand the things he was saying (the Earth is 6,000 years old, 144,000 will go to Heaven, Jesus is not God, the world would end in 1975, etc). A few years ago, one of my best friends became a JW. And he too tried to teach me. But again, I couldn't understand. He told me it was very important to believe that Jesus died on a stake instead of a cross. I couldn't understand why it was so important to focus on how Jesus died, instead of why. I kept telling him "You strain at gnats but swallow a camel". Both of them tell me only JW's have the truth, and everyone who is not a Jehovah's Witness does not. And somehow, it was vital for me to question my belief, but equally vital for them (or me) to not question theirs. I never got along with my Dad, and now I don't get along with this friend either, because I couldn't accept that "they have the Truth". But I can't follow a religion that contradicts itself & keeps changing its doctrine, but still claims to be true.