Posts by Maddie

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disfellowshiped jw's relationship

by vat152 in

hi all i'm new to this so be patient with me please.. i'm not a jw and never will be but my partner is although she was disfelllowshiped some years ago for adultry with someone other than me which jed to a divorce from her husband (who is still a jw), this happpened about 8 years ago, she then went into a relationship which turned violent and abusive, this ended a couple of years ago.. i met her just over 12 months ago and fell head over heals in love with her and i have proposed to her and we are due to be married in july this year, we have a good relationship except for one thing, the bedroom activities.

she tells me that it makes her feel dirty and cheap and refuses to put her arms around me unless i am covered up with clothes or the quilt, any type of skin contact is a no no, we do occassionaly make love but she hates it.. the thing i want to clear up is this, she is devout about the religion and the wt although she doesn't attend any meetings.

i am led to believe that if a disfellowshiped jw shows repent they are allowed back into the kingdom hall, i know that she would like to be allowed back into the religion, do you think that she is trying to show repent by not making any skin contact with me whilst we are out of wedlock?.

Maddie

Welcome vat152 to JWD - I will try to answer you but it sounds like you have a very complicated situation and there could be a number of reasons why your fiance may have this problem with the intimate side of your relationship. What you probably don't realise is that the JW's is a high mind control religion, in other words it is a cult.

Although your fiance was disfellowshipped and is living with you now, you say that she still defends/believes in their teachings and that you suspect she may want to go back. If this is the case then she has many conflicting thoughts and emotions over her relationship with you at the moment because for her to be reinstated as a JW she could not be having a relationship with you or live with you without being married. Also she knows that to be a JW and married to someone who is not a JW is not approved of and would cause very serious problems anyway because of the way of life a JW has to live.

I don't know how much you know about the JW's but I suggest you do some research to know what you are up against. It would also help your fiance to know the truth about the Organisation as it may help free her from the mind control. There is a great deal of information available on the internet now which has helped many of us on JWD, and keep posting here for support and information.

I hope this helps and I wish you well

Maddie

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Could U Please Cite Some Personal Interesting Observations About The Truth?

by minimus in

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friends

for anyone that looks at this thread, could you write something either profound or simply interesting so as to make the reader see the truth about "the truth"?

?

Maddie

"The Truth will set you free" but what the JW's have is a cult because they make people prisoners.

Maddie

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So who here has seen Russels grave? Weird huh?

by oompa in

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i just found out my 67 year old elder/dad has been there too, with his sister who used to live up that way.

it is freaky-deaky weird/scary.

why the hey would jesus pick a weirdo group that thinks pagan egyptian pyramids (who used to enslave and torture gods people) could give the answer to his second coming....pathetic...................oompa

Maddie

That was one of the first things that shocked me into doing research on the WT. I saw a picture of Russell's grave and it did my head in at first.

Maddie

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Can we all be a bit more pro-active in this one area? PLEASE READ...

by jambon1 in

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friends

this is something that i feel really passionate about.

i hate being labeled an apostate by jw's.

i don't like the term and even they themselves have the definition wrong according to the bible.

Maddie

I think you have a very good point because JW's seem to shrink from the word "apostate "in horror, almost as if Satan himself had suddenly materialised! Its obviously the propaganda put out by the borg because they intend it to have this reaction on the r/f.

Maddie

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Dear Fellow Grandchild,

by compound complex in

dear fellow grandchild,.

i was very fortunate to have known my two grandmothers and two great grandmothers.

it was my maternal grandmother, however, who was most influencial in my early years.

Maddie

I only had one grandmother that I knew and she was very short, very round and quite cuddly. I have memories of when I was very young I would watch her make cakes on a Sunday morning, and she would let me lick the bowl out afterwards. My nan had a china doll from her childhood that she would get out to show me and I was fascinated by it. Sometimes I would sit on her lap and she sang nursery rhymes to me and bounced me up and down. Every Sunday my nan gave my brother and I a few pence to get sweets with which was a big treat for us. Those were the days!

Maddie

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How many of the 144K anointed were in your congregation

by MOG in

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growing up in the spanish congregation in chicago - i knew 4-5 of this supposed anointed.

all of them no longer are jw, 2-3 of them started their own religionthe other 2 was a mother and son.

they never went house to house, never raised their hands in meetings, never went to the book study we held is our own private homes.

Maddie

I only ever knew of one that had been in my congregation some years ago, but there was gossip that she wasn't worthy enough or something like that.

Maddie

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Fallout from KH visit 3/2/08

by Dagney in

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the song "i want to" is running incessantly in my brain.

Maddie

I just had a flash back to singing that dirge, it was so dreary.

Maddie

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Your opinion about Self Injury

by yumbby in

as a life long self injurer i belong to a couple self help type groups.

one issue that keeps coming up over and over is everyone's dismay over peoples attitude toward them when they are discovered.

i try to help the young ones ignore peoples ignorant remarks but its difficult.

Maddie

From what I know of self-harm it is in most cases definitely a coping mechanism from severe emotional pain. As an alcoholic takes a drink to self-medicate, a person injures themselves for the same effect. I knew someone who was trying to give up cocaine but started self-harming when they went through a very traumatic event. This person said they did this rather than use cocaine again.

Maddie

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Lord's Witnesses

by JK666 in

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has anyone else followed the predictions of these whackjobs?

just so you all know about them, they have predicted about 20 nuclear attacks and the start of armaggedon each year for as long as i have followed them.

to enable you to get all of your affairs in order, here is their latest prediction:.

Maddie

Even better still - perhaps we can charter a one way ticket on a ship across the Atlantic , and ship them to Libya or some other warm , fuzzy middle eastern country . That is - if the first option doesn't work inNorthern New York !

Hey Mr. Flipper, can you imagine them trying to preach to a lot of Muslims in the desert?! I don't know who would convert who!

Maddie

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How do you deal with co-workers?

by anewme in

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as a witness i only worked with other witnesses for 35 years.

now thrust out into the real world i find myself unprepared .

for many of the confrontations i am experiencing with fellow .

Maddie

I have worked with some pretty awful people at times but just as many really nice ones too. I like to work in an environment that I am comfortable in but there are usually one or two that are a pain. I try to avoid them and talk to the others.

Maddie