V1710

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  Some JW parents don't deserve to be parents!!!

  by Es in

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  at least mine don't anyway.. ive been thinking of there behaviour towards me for the last few weeks, and im just so over them being my parents.

  when mike and i went to the hosp on wed night after my nan had passed away, i tried to comfort my mum, she hardly wanted me to touch her.

  i didnt even look at my dad for the first half n hour we were there.

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  That is so sad how your parents treated you. Sorry about your nan's passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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  first Bible/book! study

  by luffy in

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  having posted here in the past, and having gained much useful and appreciated advise, my ex and i are still in contact, and stuck in as many of you warned, a deadlock.

  he hoping i will come round to the witness way of "thinking" and i hoping that he will wake up and smell the roses!..

  i am reluctant to give up on the relationship, and feel that as he approaches the two year mark since being baptised as a witness, he is beginning to show cracks and is weakening in his stance.

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  Do whatever you can do to challenge his intellect with other interests. Encourage him to take classes at a local university. Travel together, visit places of interest-museums, zoos, concerts. Introduce him to and meet educated and good people so he can see JW's don't hold the monopoly on goodness. Focus on the positive things in life. There's a lot of goodness if one looks for it. Talk to him about GRACE and how God loves us just the way we are. We don't have to do anything to earn his love. This will counteract all the crap he's being fed at the meetings.
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  Emotion

  by MsMcDucket in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  i didn't cry when my mother died.

  i didn't cry when i saw her laying lifeless in the hospital bed, nor did i cry at the funeral.

  my mother used to say bring me my flowers while i'm alive.

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  Sorry to hear about your loss. I didn't cry when my mother passed away, but we were enstranged at the time. She suffered from mental illness and I was happy that she was no longer unhappy.

  Your emotions and tears at the dr. office were normal. I'm glad you didn' t end up in a psyche ward for being human and crying. It sounds like you kept alot in and your response was within the realm of normal. The same thing would happen if a garden hose that's running was kept against the ground. The water will only remain contained so long and then it squirts out all over. On the other hand if it is allowed to flow out without restraint it's manageable.

  After trying to stuff emotions for so long it can be hard to identify or name what you are feeling. Are you happy, sad, angry, frustrated, confused? Every emotion is normal, it's what we do with them that can be unhealthy. Try to put words to what your going through and find a trusted confidant to talk to. Take Care.
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  Is There Something You'd Like To Tell A Witness "Lurker" Right Now?

  by minimus in

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  we know there are a lot of "lurkers" here.

  they might not have posted yet but they do check this site out.

  would you like to express anything to them to help them in any way??

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  Your mind is a gift, don't let anyone take it away by telling you what or how to think.

  Think for yourself, be accountable for your own decisions.
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  Thankfully Disfellowshiped Today

  by Lloyd Braun in

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  good morning!.

  last night i got disfellowshiped.

  isn't that wonderful?

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  hats off to you for not playing their game and getting upset.
  enjoy your freedom. hope you can help the friends that spoke to you.
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  My JW Experience

  by V1710 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i've been lurking here for a few years on and off.

  i faded from the borg seven years ago and haven't had one regret since.

  the only regret i have is wasting twenty years of my life and my children's lives.

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  fresia,

  you named the elder game perfectly. it was akin to the heirarchy of caretakers in the institution. no one with any heart could stay very long. i think that's what drew me to the organization in the first place, it felt like "home" I remember visiting Bethel and thought I could fit in very well there. I 'm grateful I've found myself and enjoy being a very relaxed person without too much structure in my life. It's not who I am.
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  can you feel the love?

  by bigdreaux in

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  2. friends

  today i was at the dealership.

  i was standing next to the service department.

  i struck up a conversation with an elderly guy standing there.

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  what a rude response. any jw worth their salt would of asked about your upbringing and why you didn't stay with it. At least he affirmed your decision to get out of it. You handled it perfectly.
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  what about NOT making new friends...life as a hermit for most part

  by oompa in

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  2. experiences

  i actually saved a classified ad from an east coast paper that needed experienced crew on a 48' sailing yacht.

  i was at this town for my 10th wedding anniversary and staying at a nice b&b.

  this was back in april.

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  i prefer my own company to that of others. our business requires that i interact with the public but i've not made nor care to make too many close friends. i think in part because so many boundaries were crossed with JW's, i need to keep well defined of who i am and who i'm not. being by yourself gives you time to figure out who you are and what kind of relationship, if any you want with God.

  try to enjoy nature as it can replenish your energy and give you new insights. it sounds is if you and your family might be parting ways and that's ok, albeit sad. keep in touch with folks here and if your feeling like your experiencing some depression talk to a profressional. Take Care.
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  JW suicide?

  by V1710 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just heard that a person i knew who was one of jw's committed suicide.

  her name was sharon scarpelli.

  she lived in michigan, pennsylvania and south dakota.

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  JK,
  thanks for the condolences. She always had a smile on her face. I often wondered if there were any other emotions, but I was the one who was "crazy" Makes me want to scream. It's amazing how so much can come back to you within minutes.

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  JW suicide?

  by V1710 in

  1. jw
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  i just heard that a person i knew who was one of jw's committed suicide.

  her name was sharon scarpelli.

  she lived in michigan, pennsylvania and south dakota.

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  I just heard that a person I knew who was one of JW's committed suicide. Her name was Sharon Scarpelli. She lived in Michigan, Pennsylvania and South Dakota. Her husband, Frank was an elder, a very controlling one at that. Does anyone know anything about this? Please pm me if you do.