This is the result of the pussification of America
...says the gay fella with the
Brokeback Mountain avatar.
restrangled:
just generally oblivious
And that's why the days of the he-man have been numbered ever since the wimminz invented "consciousness raising" in the 1970's. I don't fall into the "you should know how I feel" trap, but cluelessness is SUCH A TURN-OFF.
JamieBowers:
Maybe I'm just spoiled, but my husband works a lot of overtime and still makes all of the repairs around the house and on our cars as well as yard work. He also does special projects like remodeling, plumbing, electrical wiring, installing new flooring, etc. We don't ever pay someone to work on our house, cars or yard. I've offered to help out with simple things like putting gas in the van or taking out the trash, and he won't hear of it. He said he would be embarrassed to have people see his wife do those sorts of things.
But I don't see any reason why these things are INTRINSICALLY "man's work." A woman, just as much as a man, should be able to do ANYTHING that needs to be done. Why can't you help him install that new floor? Why can't he help you with dinner? WHY CAN'T GROWNUPS WORK TOGETHER? That's my ideal, even though in our household we have a more or less traditional division of labor. Part of it is that I haven't caught up with the jaydub years of stupid gender-role conformity; the rest is that my understanding of three-dimensional space is limited.
Why does this even matter? Well, which class of work has more status in the outside world? Construction? or housework?
You may feel pampered and taken care of – I know I do – but I also feel limited and sometimes even infantilized when my husband tries to "take these burdens off my hands." I know no one person can do everything, but "A man's reach should exceed his grasp, or what's a heaven for?" (Robert Browning)
gentlyferal