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  What Halloween costumes should the dubs wear?

  by rebel8 in

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  2. friends

  if you could pick out a costume for a dub to wear, what would it be?.

  i would dress the gb in this.

  except i'd put flip flops on his feet.. .

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  what did you do after leaving or separating from JW's in regards to religion?

  by kriptonian7 in

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  2. experiences

  i have been struggling to find my place.

  i still consider my self christian...but the more i have been learning about my old faith, its been making me feel like i need to find something else that makes sense to me.. i know im not aethiest.

  i have always felt that there was a higher power out there.. agnostic?

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  i stopped confusing religiosity with spirituality

  i involved myself in genuine charitable works
  and continue to look for opportunities to make
  real contributions to the whole of mankind....
  not just "the approved" forms

  i wont wrap myself in the atheist label... yet...
  so i settle for saying i am a sentimental diest...
  because i have spent a half century believing
  there is a reason for religion and there is a
  vestigial attachment to the notion....
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  To Current and Former Elders

  by Styxx in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i wanted to say a few things to current and former elders.

  it was really a post by alltimejeff on 10/1/2009 that got me thinking about this and i address a few things that he says here.

  but i dont want to single him out because i really think that he is typical of many, and he did in fact apologize for his actions at the end of his post.

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  chickpea

  if i have the temerity
  to ask of my children
  forgiveness for having
  decimated their childhoods
  with a blind allegiance to
  a cult, then how could i
  possibly withhold the same
  from any former elder who
  publically flagellates himself
  for the role he may have
  played as a company man?

  styxx:
  karma is produced 4 ways

  • through thoughts
  • through words
  • through actions that we perform ourselves
  • through actions others do under our instructions

  IF any of it is true or has merit
  that last one would have the
  GB crapping their pants.....

  their karma is about to run over their dogma....
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  Anyone seen Gran Torino?

  by John Doe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the new clint eastwood movie.

  i watched it last night, and thought it was pretty good..

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  chickpea

  i saw it with my then 17 YO son...

  we enjoyed it immensely!!
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  blessedchild wants money sent to africa to help

  by rockmehardplace in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just got a pm from blessedchild that joined 5 hours ago wanting me to send money to africa to feed them since their mother disowned them because they do not go to the kingdom hall.

  a teacher let them use a computer to ask google for help and they found me.

  sorry, dont want to sound cruel, but i can barely feed myself let alone some kids in another part of the world..

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  chickpea

  i know a religion that claims to have THE truth...

  scammy enough for you?
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  How Many JWs Stay In & Are Not "True Believers"?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  how many are simply there because they don't care about religion and "where would they go"?.

  how many have sold their souls just to remain in "friendships" and "family"?.

  i think there are tons of jehovah's witnesses in name only.. .

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  chickpea

  if the question is about how many
  professed JWs are just hanging
  with the hive rather than dealing with
  the trouble that can be stirred for
  having a variant position on any of
  a number of issues....

  i would think a whole lot more than we know!
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  WHY am I the last to know?

  by babygirl30 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  about 2 mos ago...my parents decided that because i refused to continue my 'reinstatement' process and quit going to meetings - that they were now going to shun me after having regular contact for 10 mos!

  i was upset, but accepted it.

  although their method was harsh!

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  chickpea

  such a wicked preversion of family...

  so sorry your parents are so controlled
  that they are willing to squander their
  parent-child bond at the whim of a cult

  sorry indeed
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  Should I Formally Apologize?

  by lifelong humanist in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  what do you members think - is there any mileage in 'formally' apologizing to my 4 sons (now aged 20 - 34) of my stupid jw indoctrination during their formative years?

  i still have pangs of guilt.

  yet, on balance, i have to admit that it couldn't have been too damaging as they are all totally out of the cult.

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  chickpea

  i apologized to my 4 children...
  ranging in age from 24- 16
  at this point....

  they have been gracious,
  telling me that they understand
  i was not trying to corrupt their
  childhoods, but secure them an
  "eternal life in paradise"...

  none of us linger there, out loud...
  but it remains one of the biggest
  regrets of my life.... my issue

  that does not answer your
  question of "should you"....
  
  just lets you know you
  arent the alone in having
  wondered ....
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  Hi - new kid on th block

  by nearlyfree in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been looking at this website for about 2 months now and feel i am now ready to say hi and intoduce myself.i dont want to give out too much info at this point in time as i still am in the org, but have only been to 2 meetings since the district convention in august and last time i went out on service was in march.

  i was basically raised in the truth as my parents became jw when i was 2. i was married in my late teens and after 21 years of being married to a total control freak he left me (yay).

  anyway since me ex left, i had been doing a lot of thinking about being a witness, and i wasnt really going to a lot of meetings - just didnt feel like it.

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  chickpea

  nearlyfree....
  yep, you are just about there!

  trading halls seems to be a fairly
  effective way to fly under the radar...

  and (BONUS) regular readership on boards
  like this keep you enough "in the know"
  so you can discuss the newest new light
  and sound no more confused than the faithful

  welcome aboard!
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  Impromptu Survey - 2 Types of Reasons to Leave

  by AdaMakawee in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was thinking, not counting those who are df'd for "conduct," it seems to me that there are two type of exjws that leave.

  by this i mean the ones that woke up and came to their senses while still inside.

  1. those who found doctrinal errors and couldn't stay with the lies.. 2. those who found that there was no love and left because of the betrayal of emotions, and realization that by this fruit you knew they were not the ones, their lack of love.

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  chickpea

  closer to #1

  my son is an FtM transgender...
  there was no freedom to support
  him in the b0rg.... and he sure as
  hell is worth more to me than the
  drivel from the b00bs in br00klyn

  as far as a belief system?

  sentimental diest?
  kinda like rooting for the cubs....
  a habit

  actually, i am pretty much
  beyond being able to believe
  in a "god"