Posts by cognac

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For anyone thinking of having kids with a JW..

by avishai in

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friends

please do not reproduce with a jw!!

growing up jw sucks big time.

out in the cold in service, out in the heat in service, 30 hours a week of meetings, service, prep, family study (at least) on top of homework, chores, limited access to friends, getting dragged in front of a jc every time a stupid rumor comes up, constant pressure to "narc" on your friends, no extracurricular activities, no higher education, having to hate everyone not a jw etc, having to kiss ass to anyone who has abused you/screwed you over if you don't have "proof"... any more reasons?

cognac

avi ~

This goes way beyond that... I just don't even know what else I'm even living for. It's like, everything I've ever had is gone. That includes, belief system, family, husband, now kids... I'm not saying I'm suicidal or anything, but just that now I don't have any dreams... This goes so way beyond something being difficult to handle, this is every hope and dream I've ever had...

For example, when I was little all my brothers and sisters used to dream about the different things (professions) they wanted to be when they grew up... I used to dream about being dirt poor, living in a tent, being a missionary. For years I dreamed about that. I wanted to sacrifice everything in behalf of Jehovah... I never, ever for even a moment, thought that sacrifice may be my family, hopes, dreams, kids, etc... This is way harder then I ever thought possible...

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It's not you....it's me....so a damn good marriage is about to end...

by oompa in

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i just dont think i can take it anymore....my wife of 11 years is such a great gal... but we are just not connecting anymore......otwo says hang in there...as she may come around and wake up!!

!....but the extreme differences in our lifes are starting to take a toll...and may be making me want to drink too much.....i should not need to self medicate like this!!

!.....soooooo wish i had never woken up or could just deal with the real truth....what a rock to my world.......nothing will be the same.................................................oompa.

cognac

i know jk666 ~

The weird thing about this prayer - I've never prayed for another person like that... Now with such honesty and sincerity. It was always the "Watchtower Way'... Oompa, i'm praying for you in a way I never did before... I've listened to a lot of x-jw's, and I'm still not positive that I'm doing it right, but I have faith that you can overcome this Oompa. Even if you have fallen today, I have faith in you... I will pray for you again tonight.... Please Oompa, don't give up!!! I am rooting for you!!!! Please Oompa, we are right here for you!!!!!!!

Know this Oompa, that somebody is thinking of you and praying for you... Not in a fake way as JW's, but in a bottom of the heart sincere way. Please smile, cause people really care for you. I know you have never met me, I know you have never seen me, its really weird that people you have never seen or met would care, but I really, really do... Please let your heart, for even a bit of time, be content, cause if I, who have never met or seen you care, then know that God has to love you deeply love you personally, much more then any of us could be capable of...

Please let us know how you are doing...

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yes we can!!!!! yes we can!!! believe once again!!! yes we can!!!

by dawg in

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if you can listen to this and not see the leadership, if you can't see that this man believes there words... i feel for you.. i really do...we've not had a leader like this in years... .

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tsrgvx7kje.

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cognac

Holy crap, that was amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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U 2 - What Are Your Favorite Songs and Albums from Them ?

by flipper in

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friends

well, this is one of 2 groups i will post tonight .

i'll post my other favorite current group later as i have to go to dinner.

but u 2 is one of my favorite current active groups performing still.

cognac

so funny u should bring that up -

my favorite by them is there randition of "can't help falling in love".

But, since you brought it up...

Kurt Nilson (from Norway) did the randition "Beautiful Day" by them on world idol. His original performance on that show I liked the most, not the winning performance... Well, it absolutely made my heart drop to the pit of my stomach. Wow, it was like this once in a lifetime thing that you get to experience. It was amazing... Words don't justify anything about that performance. I've never heard a voice like that... A judge said that he had a "voice of an angel", yes, he does!!!!!!!!!!

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How long do you stay in love?

by Thegoodgirl in

i have a question:.

how long do you stay in love?

for those of you who are married, are you together "just for the kids"?

cognac

I wouldn't know.

Everything I have ever known has been a lie.

How the hell would I even know what the hell love is???

(Sorry, I'm a bit pissed right now.)

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For anyone thinking of having kids with a JW..

by avishai in

jw
friends

please do not reproduce with a jw!!

growing up jw sucks big time.

out in the cold in service, out in the heat in service, 30 hours a week of meetings, service, prep, family study (at least) on top of homework, chores, limited access to friends, getting dragged in front of a jc every time a stupid rumor comes up, constant pressure to "narc" on your friends, no extracurricular activities, no higher education, having to hate everyone not a jw etc, having to kiss ass to anyone who has abused you/screwed you over if you don't have "proof"... any more reasons?

cognac

btw - my marriage sucks... All because I want to follow the bible...

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For anyone thinking of having kids with a JW..

by avishai in

jw
friends

please do not reproduce with a jw!!

growing up jw sucks big time.

out in the cold in service, out in the heat in service, 30 hours a week of meetings, service, prep, family study (at least) on top of homework, chores, limited access to friends, getting dragged in front of a jc every time a stupid rumor comes up, constant pressure to "narc" on your friends, no extracurricular activities, no higher education, having to hate everyone not a jw etc, having to kiss ass to anyone who has abused you/screwed you over if you don't have "proof"... any more reasons?

cognac

Dawg~

Totally understand you... Let me just make sure I got this straight...

This is what I got:

Abusive Dad - for years...

Sucky religion

1st husband = abusive

2nd husband = part of a religion that kills people

family won't talk to me because I'm questioning a religion that kills people...

AND NOW I CAN'T HAVE KIDS????????? What the hell do I have to live for??? Good God, this is awful. What the hell is next??? My life f'ing sucks...

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It's not you....it's me....so a damn good marriage is about to end...

by oompa in

jw
friends

i just dont think i can take it anymore....my wife of 11 years is such a great gal... but we are just not connecting anymore......otwo says hang in there...as she may come around and wake up!!

!....but the extreme differences in our lifes are starting to take a toll...and may be making me want to drink too much.....i should not need to self medicate like this!!

!.....soooooo wish i had never woken up or could just deal with the real truth....what a rock to my world.......nothing will be the same.................................................oompa.

cognac

hey oompa~

It may sound dumb - but I prayed for you last night, right before I went to sleep.

How did your day go? Please let us know...

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For anyone thinking of having kids with a JW..

by avishai in

jw
friends

please do not reproduce with a jw!!

growing up jw sucks big time.

out in the cold in service, out in the heat in service, 30 hours a week of meetings, service, prep, family study (at least) on top of homework, chores, limited access to friends, getting dragged in front of a jc every time a stupid rumor comes up, constant pressure to "narc" on your friends, no extracurricular activities, no higher education, having to hate everyone not a jw etc, having to kiss ass to anyone who has abused you/screwed you over if you don't have "proof"... any more reasons?

cognac

Avishai ~

I really wants kids... Sooooooooooooooo bad...... I don't think hubby will ever leave the borg... What am I supposed to do, give up my dreams or give a horrible life to my kids??? I couldn't bring kids into this world knowing to begin with there lives will be horrible...

They are taking my life away from me...

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Did You Experience Shunning By " Cliques" in Witness Congregations ?

by flipper in

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friends

the american heritage dictionary defines the word clique as , " a small , exclusive group of friends or associates .

" further in the synonym section under the word " circle ", it says about the word , " clique " a clique is an exclusive group, usually social and often participating in activities from which outsiders are barred .

" it quotes john lloyd , a writer - " the narrow, often self- perpetuating cliques which control our lives, living standards and leisures.

cognac

COGNAC- Good comments by you ! Myself being raised as an elders son- I totally understand what you are saying here. My dad being an elder for 53 years was always taking care of the congregations problems - and had very little time to discuss or pay attention to my problems.

Thanks flipper! The constant pressure is unbearable... I used to say that I always felt like I was trying to hold up a mountain and if I moved even and inch it would crumble over me... I think everyone assumed it was normal teenage feelings...