They said that someone had been reading something on here, and read a posting from a guy whose brother killed himself whil df'd, and whose circumstances seemed to match mine.
If they bring it up again ask them why they did they not follow the instructions of Jesus at Mathew 18:15. and instruct said person to come to you directly. They should be ashamed for ignoring and bypassing Jesus instructions on dealing with settling faults. According to Jesus that person should come to you directly NOT the elders. Then wait for the rat to call you, if they don't the elders should back their asses up.