I am truly overwhelmed by the responses I got! So much good advise, I really don't know where to start, but here it goes:
max: Give them uncertainty and humility, but avoid any definite positions on anything
Exactly what I wanted to do! I want to appear meek and willing.
shakita: As much as I would like to confront them with the many questions that I have, to remain silent is the best option for the present time.
I do not confront them with my questions anymore, since they refused to answer them before.
You said that you assume that the JW's are still the right religion. I suggest that you do more research.
You misunderstood me . As soon as I started to do research, I found out they weren't the right religion. Since that time I do not consider myself a JW. Now, I could have submitted my DA letter right away and I would be free, but would make it very difficult to convince my parents and other relatives of the same. A better attempt would be to continue in my research getting more and more material and gradualy introducing evidence to my relatives. Since my progress in this is very promising (my parents already agree on several opinion against the society) I wouldn't want to risk it by getting DA'ed. In the end I might not get them out but at least they will understand me better and not shun me. So basically I try to be a wolf in sheeps cloth so to speak. Stealth will aid my goal.
Mulan: Refusing to meet raises a "red flag". Try to avoid it, but don't refuse.
This is very helpful! thanx Mulan!
JT: SHUN SHUN SHUN, and the cut of of family and friends takes place, they have not built up any new cliente OF friends and now they are cutoff feeling left completely in the dark
Looking back at what I know now, I feel sorry for my parents and relatives and want them to see it too. I know I make a chance, and I am willing to suffer a bit to achieve it. Just Nod and Smile!
LB: Then after they leave go puke your guts out.
Yep! That will most likely be my final response. LOL
Lovedubs:You were taught elusiveness from the MASTERS kiddo...answer with "I will reserve my answer to that until all of my questions are answered thoroughly. I want my yes to mean yes you know." Whatever you do RECORD THE MEETING.
This could be very interesting indeed! thanx!
Crinklestein: Some questions I would suggest is, 'Is the purpose of your visit to draw a line in the sand where you would say, 'on this side you're with us and on that side you are against us?'" "Are you here because I have been asking questions about my faith?" If they say yes then remind them of the scripture about how, after an assembly all of those in attendance went to the scrolls to see if these things they were told were true.
I have enough material to prove that asking questions and doing research is ok. I'll keep it handy when the time comes. Good Tip!
Gamaliel: If you can avoid meeting without refusing that's the most important step. If you can delay by giving them nearly impossible meeting times, that's good up to a point. If you finally have to meet with them, your attitude is more important than what you say, but you have to be able to say most of what they want and expect to hear.
Thanx for all the help so far! So, here is what I will do:
I will try to avoid meeting with them, without telling them off. I it really comes down to a meeting I will just nod and smile, thank them for helping me, being just a sheep with doubt and tell them what they want to hear. I will record the meeting, for reasons stated and for future amusement. i will try to send up Red flags.
I feel ready! Let the games begin!
My God! What a wonderfull thing, this internet! Making friends and getting help from all over the world in the blink of an eye!
(((((Big hugs))))) to you all!
Greven
