I faded, it worked for me. I wanted to keep the lines of communication open with my JW family, that has happened so far.
There is no way I could remain associated with the WT/JW's .
My conscience, Bible trained, would not let me.
I really do not understand people who, through fear, deny themselves, who they are, and what they stand for, for the sake of contact with mind-controlled cult members who happen to be family, but they care more about the cult than you.
O.K , you can say I have been lucky, my family treat me as though i am an unbelieving relative, which, by Christ, I am.
They do not shun me, they just never mention religion, which suits me.
The point is, if they decided they could have nothing further to do with me, there is no way I could go back, it would be to lose any integrity and self-repect I had to go back to that lying deception that is the WT/JW's.
Get a backbone and leave.