whyhideit,
That is a well reasoned and well thought out post.
It is my belief that you have touched on a major point in your penultimate sentence where you speak of child like insecurities.
What happens to us, and the experiences that we have in childhood, play a very significant role in where we go and what we do as adults.
This holds true not only for converts but for those born into the religion also.
We are able to make decisions and be accountable but there are lots of provisos. We need to be aware of what the choices are and have a need and desire to make changes before we can take any action. The basics are sometime lacking because of childhood experiences and we would far rather have the security of what we know or what we are told than venture out and "get hurt".
It is far easier and much more comfortable for some to just let things happen around them and blame the good on God and the bad on satan.
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