When I realized that anyone who wasn't baptized was an "unbeliever". Even though these people, for instance "unbaptized publishers", were going door to door and preaching and the Watchtower would count their TIME along with those considered "believers". I mean, come on now...how can you go to meetings, give talks and go door to door preaching if your don't BELIEVE?
This of course affected my sons marriage to his then fiance' who was raised a JW, was an unbaptized publisher...and was contemplating baptism. My son was "marked"...without any type of warning (not scriptural according to own JW LAWS) and the wedding was boycotted with talks given to two congregations NOT TO ATTEND. People weren't able to use their own conscience or free will to attend a marriage, which by the way, has outlasted several of the weddings everyone went to because both were "believers". These other couples were showered with gifts and money and celebrated...and now they're divorced.
So what really forced us out was that we had proof that the elders made a huge mistake by marking our son WITHOUT WARNING (we have the "marking" talk on tape!!)...but with over a year of arguing with the BIG SHOTS/SNOTS in NY and our local elders...no apology...no discipline of the involved elders.
I absolutely detest religion.
Hmmmmffffffffffffffff....cathy l.