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  What have you done to heal yourselves from the borg & lead a content life?

  by cognac in

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  or, at least made progress in healing yourselves.... right now i feel like i have made a lot of progress.. i did the following that helped tremendously:.

  joined this forum!

  faced my husband regarding how i felt and feel that we have met eachother 1/2 way on this - even researched and prepared how to talk to him in a better way (i have a blunt, tactless way of bringing things up - in case you guys didn't notice, lol.

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  Since leaving on 2/24, I am still in the process of healing. I have many bridges to cross yet.

  Eyes Wide Open

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  Our friend is gone now

  by 2tired2care in

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  i am new to this forum but the reason i joined is because im fed up.

  the death of one of my wifes friends was the last straw.

  she was a faithful sister who was loyal to her husband children and friends and they found her dead in her car about a month ago.

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  I am sorry too for your loss. The WTBS is geared for preying on the guilt conscieces of the R & F and this can be a heavy burden on one mentally and physically. This is one of the reasons I left the Borg.

  I agree with the others on this thread. Stick around and read posts from others and post often. You will find support and it does help.

  Sincerley,

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  When there is dead end in your life...

  by justhuman in

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  after being disfellowshiped from the wt, i was born in the "truth", i find it hard to start a new life.

  i was for 6 years innactive, and 2 years that i have been disfellowshiped.

  unfortunately i didn't had any college degree and i have hardly finished high school.

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  Justhuman,

  There are still programs out there that will allow you to complete your education and possibly learn a better trade or possibly a higher education. Many of these programs are funded by Federal, State and local governments as well as Non-Profit Organizations that want to see one proper or get ahead further than your current situation. I encourage you to research all your resources. I know of several here locally and know of many who have benefited from such.

  You may even want to condider the thought of becoming a truck driver. Some of these are funded by the employer themselves. They will pay for your schooling and provide you with a bonus. Granted, it is not the most illustrious life but you will be able to make a good living that also has good benefits.

  Hang in there.

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  How many exjw's do you think there are out there now?

  by Velvetann in

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  i am not sure if anyone has asked this before but i am curious.

  does anyone know approximately how many of us have left the watchtower society in the past 20 years.

  it seems to me that it is compounding monthly lately.

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  This something I would like to know myself. IMO I would say the EX-JW's numbers are much higher than one knows. Raymond Franz brought up a fudge factor in his book "Crisis of Conscience" that should have been applied by the WBTS but wasn't and would have shown a decline in numbers and would have been more acccurate.

  But this is something the WBTS would have to downplay to keep their image up among the R & F. Also, I think more people are seeing more and more holes in the religion and are slowly awakening from the Matrix but still, their masses are huge worldwide. As for taking a poll I agree with some of the other members that some, once out of the control of the JW's and their "Eyes are Wide Open", do not want to admit to or be recognized for being one of the deceived brainwashed members. This being so it would be hard to acquire an accurate census.

  If anyone can acquire an estimated number I would be interested in knowing.

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  How have you benefited by leaving the WT Organization?

  by Quirky1 in

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  this is just a curious study.

  i would love to get everyone's input on how each individual or couple has benefited from leaving the jw/wtbs as well as how their life is currently vs. being part of the organization.. eyes wide open .

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  Damn! I never even thought about putting $$$$$$$ into the equation! Reality....What a concept!

  Thanks!

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  What was your first Religious Experience ?

  by Casper in

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  just wondered how others first learned about religion.

  i know "born ins" were taught from the start but the rest of us had to start somewhere.

  my very first memory of anything supposedly religious was at the age of six... my grandmother took me to a "tent revival".

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  I was never really raised with any religion but when I was a kid one of my cousins invited me to attend a little Christian church in the country, then some summertime bible school at the Methodist chuch with my neighbor and class mate, then my Mom married a Catholic. I attended for a couple of years but eventually gave it up. My next religious experience was when a freind invited us to a charasmatic church. Whew! What a bunch that was! Then willingly joined a cult, you might have heard of them, Jehovah's Witnesses?

  There for 7 years and one day left screaming!

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  Did you see any sad living conditions in Field Service...?

  by Casper in

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  im sure all of us at one time or another witnessed homes that broke our heartshere are a few of mine.

  some of the homes i had been invited into out in service really left an impression on me.

  call it naive or whatever, it was a real eye opener in some cases.. one in particular that i remember was a poor family with 8 little girls, stair step in age, the oldest no more than 9. this was an rv of the sister i was with.... very nice people, but the living conditions were appalling.

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  I have seen a lot of the things mentioned but the saddest part is that most of the people in these situations choose this lifestyle and think nothing of it. I would have been completely embarrassed to live in such conditions but I was raised with better morals even tho we didn't have much but it was neat & clean. I know some do not have the meens to support a clean or better lifestyle or it is the issue of that was "how they were raised" and they do not know differently.

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  JW Closet Drinkers

  by shamus100 in

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  how many here have had jw friends that can only have a good time when they drink?

  i've known plenty - ones with obvious drinking problems.

  not necessarialy alcoholics, but ones that equate good times with drinking, and drinking alone.

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  I couldnt access it either Octarine....

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  Nipple rings could be used as a weapon

  by Octarine Prince in

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  or so says the tsa: .

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  Carmel, Exploding mammory glands? LOL You know, I have more metal in me than Evel Knevel and I have nver set off the metal detectors. But, one time after my back surgery I hade to wear a support for my back as well as a bone growth stimulator. This stimulator consisted of a little pakage with a red & green blinking light with wires that were stuck to my back. The stimulator was attached by velcro to my support. I had to board a plane from KC to St.Louis. Once the security personnell seen my black back support vested arond my midsection with a small package with blinking lights and wires coming out of it they probably thought I was a suicide bomber. Man, they were on me like stink on sit and I was in a back room chucking everything off to prove to them I was recovering from surgery. Wow! I thought I was going to be shot or end up in a police station and miss my flight.

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  What do you do when you exit and your wife stays in?

  by Quirky1 in

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  i have recently left the wts and almost have my da letter ready to send.

  my wife is still in and is higly upset by my stand.

  she is afraid she'll lose her parents because they are still jw's and refuses to leave the wts, she still beleives it.

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  Bluesbrother,

  I really appreciae your post, as well as all the others. I guess while she went in field circus she had some second thoughts. After, we had already made the decision to see an attorney and go our separate ways. She wanted to talk again and I agreed. Now she wants to try to work thru it and I whole heartily agreed. I could hardly bare the thought of throwing away a 24 year relationship, in which we had always done everything together, over a religion I no longer believed in. The few hours she was gone, after making a joint decision to go our separate ways, was a very emotional time for me.

  I guess she went to the KH and done some research for separation and divorce and found out exactly what you posted was true. What a coincidence that was. I am glad she did so.

  Now if I could get her to do some more research on the religion an the WTBS. Maybe, just maybe, she will eventually see his religion for what it really is. Only time will tell. But for now I will accept, "trying to work thru it".

  Thank you,

  Quirky1