My husband was a elder and then he got removed when he left us high and dry. He said he was appointed by Jehovah's holy spirit. Guess the holy spirit made a mistake.
tiffy0212
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Elders....what sort of training do they get...how are they selected
by insearchoftruth inmy wife who is studying with a jw, whenever i ask her a question she will respond, i don't know, i am still learning, you need to ask the elders about that..... she raises these gentlemen up on a pedestal....are there any special qualifications, what sort of training do they recieve, any background checks required??
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Sexless marriages
by Mickey mouse ini've heard of a fair few sexless marriages in the borg, probably something to do with the fact that if you're raised "in" you'll have a pretty skewed view of sex by the time you finally get to do it.
so if someone is trapped in a sexless marriage, from a jw standpoint they could get an unscriptural divorce...but...that doesn't leave them free to remarry??!
seems pretty sadistic really.
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tiffy0212
I haven't had any sex in 8 years. My husband can't get it up. He even saw a specialist, but nothing worked. The only thing that will help is if he gets a implant, but as soon as he found that out he dropped the subject. I wonder if the org has a view on this topic. They probably feel that it is not natural. He said we can do other things, but don't know what he is talking about since there is no more oral. Just another bump in the road, what a lonely life.
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Do You Think You'll Really Miss This Place When It's Gone?
by minimus ini certainly will.. this place has strengthened me in my resolve to forever stay away from "the truth".. i've made a lot of connections here and have learned a lot.. jwd and friends----you will be missed!.
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tiffy0212
This site has been a life line for me. I don't know what I will do when it goes down. Everyone on this site is just great, you can really feel the love they have for people that are going through problems in their lives.
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Successful JW/Non-JW Relationships... How do you make it work?
by cognac ini was thinking we could talk about what works for couples who have good jw/non-jw relationships.
maybe we could get ideas from eachother to help improve ourselves and our relationships!.
i'll start.
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tiffy0212
For me I keep a clean home, worked outside the home for 20 years, did all the things I thought we correct. My husband told me on our 42nd anniversay that we live in a divided home and the bible says that if we cannot live in peace to seperate. We never go out together he is just too busy with meetings and even does more at the hall since his retirement. I will be leaving the home sometime in March or April as soon as I get my Social Security as I am not allowed to even know what we have in the bank. No funds available for me. His only love is his god, the organization and his father, brother, sister and his two children. We don't even talk since his comment on our anniversay, and that was in August. Whatever you are doing keep it up. Sounds like you are doing something good and your mate seems to have a level head, mine is a religious fanatic. I will be sending a three page letter to his circuit overseer and a copy to the headquarters. I want them to see what it is like to live with a true christian. Wish you all the best.
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(when) Did you stop believing?
by megs ini stopped believing when my husband left us because my daughter no longer wanted to attend meeting, and he was a elder.
had to seek assistance from the government to buy food and pay bills.
he took all monies with him.
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tiffy0212
I stopped believing when my husband left us because my daughter no longer wanted to attend meeting, and he was a elder. Had to seek assistance from the government to buy food and pay bills. He took all monies with him. The elders didn't know what to do, I attended meeting because the elders told me to do so. At the book study we were studying the Family book (this was back in 1985) the brother asked a question and I don't remember what it was. But my husband's answer was if your wife has wants she better want less. I wanted to die at the end of the meeting the brother allowed him to close the meeting with a prayer. I grabbed my son by the arm and walked out and never went back. THAT'S WHEN I STOPPED BELIEVING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Did you ever get a green handshake?
by Awakened at Gilead inas a former missionary, i would eagerly and greedily look forward to going home and seeing local brothers and sisters.... i would try to give as many public talks and service meeting experiences as possible.... at either of these venues, i could generally take home anywhere from $100 to $300 from all the $20 or more green handshakes.... get-togethers were also an excellent tax-free money making venue (see all your old friends, and get cards from them)... and would generally net from $500-$1000 for a get-together (after an absence of at least a year or more).... so a trip to the us could easily bring in $2k..... tax free.... plus all the perks while visiting the us... the friends that treat you to nice restaurants, lend you their car, etc..... anyone else want to share their green handshakes stories????
let's expose greed green handshakes for what they are!
indulgences for the rich, greed for the clergy order of special fulltime servants!.
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tiffy0212
My husband gave circuit overseer a good green handshake. He got a thank you card in the mail and I asked for a receipt for income tax purposes. He told me it was none of my business, so I will be calling them to ask for a receipt. He said they pay income tax. I don't believe it. Can anyone back me up.
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the lightbulb finally switched on in my wifes head
by betteroffdead inso i haven't been to meetings for close to a year( been to busy on jwd:d) my wife has been angry at the elders for awhile but still believes the doctrine somewhat.
i've been drop hints for awhile and she has agreed with what i've said.
cut to a couple nights ago i have her watch the national geographic on cults and applied it to witnesses and she was absolutely speechless, and she had the look of it has all been a sham on her face.
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tiffy0212
Good for you. Wish I knew about that program. I would have watched.
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Funerals
by geevee inhi all, yes it's been a while since i have posted.
mostly traveling ok, with normal stresses and strains.
so have a question about funerals.
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tiffy0212
I also went to a funeral with the same thing happening. Body in the hearse outside and everyone inside. I was shocked and his wife wasn't even a witness, but she let them control his funeral. It was like a circus. The guy was a real pig and had a affair on her, but she stayed with him. Opps, wasn't suppose to tell you that it was a secret. The only reason I found out was we were friends. I told my husband and he didn't want to hear about it. The sister he had the affair with came to the funeral parlor and she threw her out. What a show that was?
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what angers you about the truth
by stillajwexelder inthis angers me .
elders who will not make shepherding calls to comfort their brothers and sisters but as soon as that brother or sister puts one little foot out of line those same f-----g (sorry about the language but it really angers me ) elders can not move fast enough to form a judicial committee and then are so unmerciful - it makes me want to vomit literally
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tiffy0212
the fact that they divide homes. My husband just received a invite to a wedding a it was in his name only. I tore it up after he opened it. He said they didn't want me there because I'm not one of them. How can I come back at him? I said then I guess if they don't consider us a couple, he shouldn't either. I so sick of this I'm a good person and a good wife. I put up with all of his meetings, cook and clean, wash and iron, and now to find we are not husband and wife. Married since 1966 and this february I will get out of this mad house. This really opened my eyes.
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Did Being A Witness Make You Feel Better About Yourself?
by minimus insome persons need to feel they are validated because they don't have much going for them otherwise.
being a part of jehovah's organization makes them feel special.
being different from other religions makes them feel recognized,.
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tiffy0212
No, I felt like a person with no brain. I thought this would make my husband happy. I hurt my mother and father very much, and I missed out on many family functions. To this day I still live with the guilt that my father was dying and where was I, at the summer convention. I would love to just tell him how sorry I was for being so selfish not being with him at his time of the end. I couldn't even mourn his death and I loved his so very much. During my ten years at the hall with my husband being a elder you just have to suck it up to look like the perfect family and all the while you are dying inside. I never wanted to walk ahead of him, but as a family we walked behind him, when we should have walked beside him. This man will never change everything is about him and what he wants to do, that's why I will soon have a life of my own without him.