to respond to serenity now's question on another thread (http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/191790/2/ugly-sisters, let me start this thread about ugly brothers in congregations.
women, speak freely if you will.
were there any hot men in your congregations, i mean, men you wouldn't think twice about marrying?
There were more than a few good looking, handsome guys in my congregation. They all married pioneer sisters and now have the 'perfect' life in the eyes of the JW's. One of them was a total a**hole and doesn't treat his wife very well. The rest were decent guys and seem to be happy.
I can't say that any of them were more attractive than worldly men. I can say for certain that they weren't as 'cool' as the non jw guys.
what are their first names?.
mine are henry and daisy, thomas and katherine.. sylvia.
Fern and Arthur -dads side
Mattie and John- mom's side.
i have done this thread a long time ago , but a few newbies have joined recently and may have had some experiances to share , there was 2 in the congregation i was involved with (i was a "study" ) one was from bethel in america and got deported after his prison sentence and the other was reprooved for abuse then carried on abusing in the congregation , years later he abused my daughter and after i found out i reported him to the police , but he had got off "scot free" for 20 years untill i reported him .
i believe the one from bethel was reported to the police simply because elders kids were affected ..
We had 1 in our congregation- JD- he was an elder for many years. One of the victims friends learned of the abuse and went to the elders with the information. An investigation was opened and several young men came forward to confirm that it was indeed true. The man was DF'd after a lengthy investigation. He denied any wrongdoing. One of the young men he molested committed suicide before the abuse came to surface.
He was DF'd for about 5 years and was reinstated. He never faced any criminal charges.
i have been meaning to tell this story for some time now.
i feel that i would like to share it so that it may serve as a warning to anyone who thinks that the jw religion does not have a negative effect on children.. i have been out of the religion for 4 years now.
i wasn't brought up in the organisation.
Looking forward to the second part. I am so thankful that my boys don't have to live the off the wall way I did as a teenager. They are getting to experience normal, fun teenage things.
this is the comment that my husband made to me this morning about his mom.
i felt terrible for him.
his childhood was very jw structured.
Thanks for the replies. My husband is a very good man! He is a very hard worker and provides well for us financially. He is loyal to me and his boys. He's handsome . I work full-time too and he helps with the cooking and cleaning. He is a very good role model for our boys and positively involved in all aspects of their lives-school, sports, etc... I'm grateful to have him as my husband.
It hurts my heart that his mom puts all of this second to his 'spirituality'. He and I are faders and NEVER will return.
PS. Thanks for letting me brag about him.
this is the comment that my husband made to me this morning about his mom.
i felt terrible for him.
his childhood was very jw structured.
This is the comment that my husband made to me this morning about his mom. I felt terrible for him. She is an UBER-JW!!! His childhood was very JW structured. It still affects him to this day-- it's hard to let go of things that were put in your head for over 30 years.
I don't know what to say to take away his sadness about this.
the jw rollercoaster continues!
if you still have to go to meetings, i sympathize with you.
i know a few that keep up appearances so that they do not lose their loved family members.
It's kind of like a kid who gets an A- on his math test and his parent wonders why it wasn't an A+.
here is the thing.
as mentioned earlier i have been fading for almost 2 years now.
i moved to another congr.
J12-If it was as easy as just telling the truth to the elders, there would be no need for a board like this. Most of us don't want our families to shun us because we no longer want to attend the KH. What do you think would happen if you told someone you no longer wanted to attend? Do you really think the elders would just walk away quietly? Or that others in the congregation would understand and let you be? NO-within a short time, it would be all over the congregation what you said and others would immediately start the shunning-despite the fact that you were not DF'd. I've seen it happen.
bohm-I would let the elders contacting you know that you appreciate their concern but you will contact them if you need any 'encouragement/assistance. Best Wishes to you!
took my dogs for a walk on a beatiful mild sunny day 24 degrees.
winter is coming soon so i cleaned our wall heater!
i have never seen snow here but our cars and lawns can frost over with cold night temps so hows your weather?.
45 degrees F here in Flint, Michigan, USA. Very happy that spring is on it's way.
i have been reading your posts for 2 weeks now, and i am riveted!
i spend every spare moment on this site.
it has become rather like a drug to me!
Welcome!!! This is a wonderful, terrific website and the people who are on here are great!! It has truly helped me regain my sanity. Hope that you find the same peace of mind that many of us have found.
