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  How Much Influence Do Elders's Wives Have On JC Decisions?

  by african GB Member in

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  what happens when someone whom they don't like is on jc?.

  we all know elders can't keep jc matters secret,is it possible that they make decisions that would make their wives happy and therefore maintaining unity in their families?.

  gb.

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  verystupid77

  I was an elders wife for 21 years and new nothing unless some stupid publisher told me. My husband never said a word. Now other elders, well I had one elder tell me a whole bunch of confidential stuff, but I know he never told his wife. Go figure. But NO WAY did I have any say in JC's,
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  So I visited birthday party of my dad and brother ... after 18 years!!!

  by Albert Einstein in

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  this week my dad and my brother celebrated in my brothers house their birthday (they were born almost on the same date...).

  none of my family is a jw.. i shortly called my brother on that morning and asked if i can come over.

  he said ok, so i came to his house, told them iam learning to celebrate birthdays again and gave them a bottle of good wine for my brother and a big bottle of good honey for my dad (he is sick).

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  I am glad you get to enjoy your dad before it is to late.
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  This Thread Is For Elders & Those Affected By Them

  by minimus in

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  as an ex- elder, i can look back and see all the power and control we had as "shepherds".

  when i was an elder i genuinely tried to comply with anything "mother" demanded of us.

  i would reason that since "mother knows best", i would comply with the organization, even if it didn't quite seem so fair or right.. as time went by, i could not help but see the unfairness of soooo many rules and regulations.

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  verystupid77

  Your family be damned, we need your husband/father as an elder... Sorry!

  How vert true those words are.

  I was an elders wife for all of our marriage. It was hell. I was never that proud of my husband for being an elders as I was hurt. He is older than I am and when we married he was already an elder.

  He gave everything to the congregation and so much of the time there was nothing left to give me. I remember talking with the CO when we were first married and telling the CO how hard I was finding it with my new husband having to be gone so much doing elder things. The CO responded to bad for you, your husband is needed by the hall first.

  I am still so hurt by all that happened. Some of the young MS's wives also treated me like crap because I had a husband who was an elder and they wanted that glory. I was like you can have it I honestly just really wanted a husband really bad.

  I remember one time this sister who claimed to be of the anointed called up and told me Friday night (did not ask but told me) that my husband would be coming over to spend the day with her the next day. I had things plained to do together that I had been really looking forward to doing with my husband. I told the sister that and that my husband would be over some other time she was MAD and told me to bad your husband is an elder first. I said I am sorry he is my husband and I really need him tomorrow. She was yelling at me and told me my husband had better be at her place the next day and hung up on me. I never told my husband she called and I turned the ringers off on the phones. We had a gtreat time the next day together and on Sunday at the meeting the old hag just glared at me but lucky for me she did not speak to me for well over a year. I learned a lot from that about standing up for myself as an elders wife.
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  Why do you think Jesus never wrote anything down?

  by journey-on in

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  if his message was to be followed like a rule book, wouldn't he have written down some things with his own hand?.

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  verystupid77

  He is like the FDS they never write anything either. 1975, pedophiles, etc that way they can say I never said that or the elders can be sued if a pedo rapes a kid because nothing is in wrtting.
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  Is being a JW like being a drug addict?

  by mkr32208 in

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  ok so once again i was thinking (damn i know i should stop doing that!

  ) and this is what i was thinking about!.

  the jw religion is very much like a drug.

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  I totally agree. I have not been to the meetings in seven weeks and the with drawls are horrible, I mean the guilt and self blame. Why? I truly do not know I like not going and really feel better no being there but I have this horrible withdraw feeling. I keep thinking I need another fix. Buy I have not given in. So far so good.
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  Accidental Instantaneous Sex

  by rebel8 in

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  the litter-ature over the years has teachings that imply jehovah's special people are all on the verge of having unplanned sex on a moment's notice, with anyone, at any time.. you must have a chaperone if you are to be alone with someone of the opposite sex, even briefly.. this applies to people of any ages.

  you could be a 99-year-old raisin whose flagpole hasn't risen since rutherford was living in beth sarim, but you still shouldn't be alone with a pimply 16-year-old shy obese virgin who still plays with barbie dolls.

  she's a seductress!

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  verystupid77

  You know I think Rennia is a very self centered person who just enjoys stupidity. She see pedophiles in a great light and does not see any problem with them in the truth as from past posts. It was like oh my God how can she be so stupid.

  She loves to hijack posts to get attention. Just DO NOT RESPOND TO HER. When she post act like she is not there. She will soon tire of it. All she wants is attention. If you do not give it to her hopefully her stupidity will it her in her face.

  I do not mean to be mean but Rennia is mean. She does not have a clue what in the world she is talking about.

  Elders not at you home 24/7. How stupid is she?
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  My Analysis of the Special Talk

  by metatron in

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  i found the special talk to be a bit more bizarre than usual as it seemed to invent a parallel dimension in which churches freely preach hate and racial division in contrast to "the truth".

  deeply fantasy laden yet somehow vague and unfocused.. what i do find significant is a change in emphasis.

  in the past, these sort of talks used to drone on about how wonderful the organization is relative to the evil surrounding world.

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  All very true. Extremely strange especially about the woman in Africa who have to have sex with a male family member when their husbands die. What was up with that? How did that tie in to anything really? Where in Africa was this, what village? How many people live there, etc, raised a lot more questions then it helped to tie it into the talk.

  Then I get this call later in the day from a older sister all worried that I missed the talk about forgivenesses because we did not go to our hall for the talk but went else where.? What was with that. I was so blown away I just let it pass, but I did not hear anything about forgiveness in the talk.
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  Some Single Sisters' Problems with Brothers

  by friday77 in

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  first of all, i'm a newbie to this site, so i hope that there will be some response to my thread on this particular topic (which i have plenty to relate about).. i wonder why some single (and a few married) brothers in the org have shown a great deal of disrespect for single sisters?

  i am bringing this issue up because not only myself but also my sisters [i have four (4) other in my immediate family] along with 3 of my cousins (who have been dedicated and baptized since adolescent age) plus my own close girlfriends have experienced being gossiped/slandered by a host of brothers who think that they are "all that" and jah's gift to women on planet earth!

  as a matter fact, when one brother in particular [whose uncle is an elder, brother was a regular pioneer/temporary worker at bethel and cousin was a ministerial servant] at a nicely-populated gathering saw myself, two (2) of four sisters, one of cousins and a few of my close friends being approached as well as introduced to a number of handsome, well-dressed brothers to us via two (2) of the family members whom hosted the event.

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  verystupid77

  Word of advice; RUN, don't walk away from this cult!!!!!! Amen get out now!!!!! How I wish I had. Please get out. Do not marry in I repeat do not marry in. Get out. I speak from expereace. There truly is a life for you out there. Life is so short. Jehovah gave us this gife use it to do good, not bring more in. I wish someone had told me that 25 years ago. vs77
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  Invited back to the meetings but not invited into their lives

  by truthseeker in

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  it never ceases to amaze me that dubs are happy when they invite an inactive one back to the hall but would never take the extra step and invite them into their life, not even for a simple meal.. it's nice to see you at the meetings and that's as far as it will ever get.. does the social aspect of christianity not apply to them?.

  please share your experiences if you were invited back to the hall but not invited back to their house..

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  verystupid77

  I have been an elders wife for 21 years, I have the friends over for dinner, clean the older sisters homes, I do a lot. I have given money and gifts without telling anyone, just sliped ones things. I always thought do not let you left hand know what your right hand is doing.

  Everyone comes to our home but we are never invited into their home. I can count on one hand the number of invites that we have had in the last five years. One elders wife even had the gull to say well you have only invited us to your home once a year ago. I was like you have got to be kidding. I have never been to your home. They are unbelivably rude and selfish.

  I just got told by an elder that I only do things for apearances but he does not even know what I have done. He was always ready to come over to our home or out to eat when I paid though. We never got invites to his home though. It just makes me so mad.
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  From 'Everlasting Life' to just a few more years. How did you handle the realisation that you WOULD die?

  by nicolaou in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the thing is, a lot of us thought we'd never die.

  do you comprehend what a truly massive mind-fuck that is?

  when i was embroiled in doubts and knew i was heading 'out of the truth' i remember waves of nausea hitting me.

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  verystupid77

  To me it sucks. I am just learing that this was all a lie. I guess I am still somewhat in shcok. How could I have been so strupid. I grew up in it and I always thought Jehovah would destory me. But to know that it was all a lie is hard.