SBCheezits I just want to say I'm proud of both you and your wife for taking this stand.
It's never easy and thats just the way the WTBTS wants it. They want to make it as tough on people as they can to discourage any others from daring to question their authority. It will take some getting used to as far as dealing with your mom and M-I-L since they still in and under the control of the GB.
When I was younger I went through the JC and got DF. The main difference between yours and mine other than what it was for is that at the time I got DF I was still a believer in the WackyTower. I went through much mental anguish with the ordeal at that time not only because of still believing but also was young and couldn't talk to most of my family that were J.W.'s
I wish when it happened to me way back then I'd known it was all hogwash as you do now. Woulda made my life back then a lot easier and more fulfilling. Needless to say I got reinstated after many months all the while still thinknig it was Jah's Org.
Many years passed and then I started to see it for what it really was, just another man-made religion claiming they were the only true way to God.
As of right now I'm considered inactive/spiritually weak (their words not mine) but to the ones on here the word would be fader. But I've already had in last 6 months over 3 visits from the Elders just dropping by.(checking up on me is more like it) I'm always nice as long as they are and love being at home when talking to them because at my house I set the tone/tempo. But I got the feeling I got a big bullseye on me like a target and they're just waiting on me to mess up. If it wasn't for my family that is still in I'd done told them I DA.
But in all seriousness if I was to get DF I could care less at this point. Like you, I've already gotten my wife and son out, and I've helped two of my sisters see the "light" and they're out now. Working on a few more as discreetly as I can and testing the waters with them on their feelings on some matters. But I know the day will come when the jig will be up. And it will be time for me to tell them I'm out and won't be coming back again.