Posts by Mandette

....i am so frikkin obsessed about the jw lies and my newfound truths about them, and it is prob driving me crazy or causing depression.....if i wake up in the middle of the night, i never get back to sleep as my mind starts racing about jw crap and how it affects my marriage, and then how can i make this marriage work with her such a hardcore dub....i told my wife i now realize i am an abusive husband.....i must stop talking to her about the real truth!!

!..........it is killing her inside and we have had soooo many bad discussions that turn into arguments......on top of that she says she is now closer to jah and the org than at any other time in her life, that now that she has no positive direction from me, she relies totally on jehovah and prays to him more than ever..... we talked about separation, and that i was going to lose her over our religious differences........i feel so sorry for what i have put her through, and i know that if i can not really shut up with my ohsohelpful comments of truths about this truth she will leave me due to "spiritual endangerment".......and she said she is damm close to that happening.....i told her i knew it to and would so hate to lose her due to our religious differences.

at my recent shepherding call, they said to try and stop focusing on the negatives i have found in jw, and focus on the good things...and that is not a bad idea even if i never go back to meetings....there are good things about dubs....the efforts at ending racism and at least for me, some really good lifelong friends.......even their hope for the future was pretty good to me, even though it is a bunch of crap and i no longer believe the bible is gods word or inspired.....it does have some good suggestions for a happy life and ideas as to how to treat others........but so do just about every holy book of other faiths........ i had plans to start going to some meetings with my wife, but today, after a sleepless night i told her i just dont think i can do it, and just as she strongly believes it is the truth, i do not, and that i think the guys on the gb are not led by holy spirit cause if she will read the proclaimers book, she will see we have never gotten a single bible inerpretation of prophecy correct.......so she says "so what is there?

Mandette

Oompa..

There are many words of wisdom in these posts. I would never presume to tell you what to do. I can only relate my own experience. Granted it's not in a marriage BUT it has to do with my parents.

I love my parents more than anyone in the world. I'm especially close with my Dad. I would do ANYTHING for him. But I can't pretend and stay in the JW's even though that's what he wants me to do. About 2 yrs ago, I started crying and told him that I love him more than anyone or anything but that I can't do the religion for him. He told me that he wouldn't want me to do it for the wrong reasons.

Maybe taking that tactic with your wife could help? Tell her how much you love her but that you can't pretend to be someone you're not. Just a thought.

Many many hugs to you Oompa!!!

Mandette

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And I thought Jw's were strange.......

by AK - Jeff in

http://www.svetoch.org/en/calling_all_people_for_immortality/calling_all_people_for_immortality_2.html.

wow!.

jeff.

Mandette

bet they can make a scripture fit their beliefs too!!

EGADS!!!Creepy!!!!! And it sounds vaguely familar! HMMMM......

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Did Jehovah's Witnesses "Do A Job" On You?

by minimus in

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mentally, physically, spiritually, sexually, materially, etc.??

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Mandette

I have lacerations that are slowly healing. They are scabbed over but not totally healed. I'm not sure that they ever will be totally gone. Sometimes when I think they're finally healed something happens that picks at the scab. But I'm very happy that now the scab is never totally torn off again, just picked at. So I've made progress.

M

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I Was Sworn In Today!

by Bendrr in

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friends

i posted a while back about enlisting in the georgia state defense force.. http://gasdf.com.

all my paperwork went through and i was sworn in at the final formation of today's drill.. 2nd batallion, 5th brigade.

a cwo told me he wants me in his platoon, so not sure if i'll be 1st or 2nd platoon.

Mandette

CONGRATS!!!

Have fun!!!! And of course stay safe!!!!!!!!!

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JW self-defense...WT says we are too slow to use a gun!!!.......

by oompa in

you gotta read this to beleive it!.....lately my mind is teaching s we had that "went beyond what is written" and this subject on self defence has cracked me up!!

!.....you if gotta see this to believe it!....not just guns....but almost everthing is bashed...they did leave out the option of us carrying a sword o.j.

style....or a spear.....this will make my list....(and you can have no privileges if you carry a gun at work...cop or security guard).......... *** g91 7/8 p. 12 self-defensehow far can a christian go?

Mandette

This is hilarious!! My father(the elder) talks about how if someone broke into his house that he'd beat them to death!!! I guess his daughter inherited that violent attitude. Only I have a gun with a full magazine and one in the chamber!!!!!!

And it's always been my experience that diplomacy or telling your religion to the meth head, crack head, drunk, pill popping, coming off a high and desperate for another piece of SH*T works well!!!!!(SARCASTIC)

BLECH!!!

M

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What Got YOU Out Of The Organization?

by minimus in

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friends

how did you come to the final decision to get out of her (the organization, "mother")?

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Mandette

I faded because of my incredible depression which after I stopped going to meetings became much easier to bear. Then the generations change made me go as Oompa puts it....WTF???????????? Then realizing(through help of my non JW friends) that salvation is a gift from God. We have no way to earn it(unlike what the WTS teaches). It all came together......then with my finding these sites, I knew I wasn't crazy. I'll NEVER go back.............

Mandette

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How Old are You ?

by flipper in

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friends

i know- you aren't used to seeing me ask a simple question like this.

so- i'll start .

i am 49 years old, will be 50 in october .

Mandette

38 per the Dr Oz real age test.

40 is actual.

And yesterday I had someone tell me that I'm no more than 30 yrs old!!!!!!!