stillawitness - my husband and I had been away from meetings for around 3 years when my father and sister and their families started pushing for us to go back. We raised a few issues that we had about JW teachings and the UN thing etc and they didn't like that.
When we told them we were not going back after my dad gave us an ultimatum (can you believe it I was 49 and my husband 56 and my father is giving us ultimatums) my family immediately cut us off. We have not heard from them or seen them since January this year after telling them we're finished being JWs.
By the way we are not df'd or da'd just faded.
So if you do outright say you are never going back you risk losing your family.
All the best
Hopscotch