Posts by suchafool

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I am considering disassociation. Those who already have please reply.

by The Berean in

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suchafool

I DA'd in sept. 2008. I don't have any family in so it was easier so to speak, to write a letter and end my relationship with an organization. I think if I had family in it would be real hard to leave. Your raised thinking family is more important than anything and to lose them because you disagree with false teachings is something very hard to deal with. I feel sorry for those on here who have family in. But I understand why they stay. I could never judge them for staying because of that, especially since I haven't walked that road. You have to make a choice for yourself. Everyone is different and if you stay for family than do that.

If you choose to leave be prepare to lose every close friend you have. They turn their backs on you real fast. Some have been lucky and had some keep talking to them but for the most part they will all shun you. I have a daughter and it was hard to tell her I was leaving the JW's and she would lose her best friend. It crushed her, but we talk about it and I try to help her see that what mom was teaching her wasn't right. She tells me now that she only went to the meetings because of her best friend, it was pretty boring for her.

I hope you make the right decision for you and your situation.

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Can an elder's wife be an unbeliever?

by badboy in

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any ideas.

suchafool

The congo I was in, there is an elder who's wife wasn't a believer. I don't know if he was married or not to her before, but knowing what kind of person he is (meaning I don't think if he was a witness before he was married that he would have found someone outside),he's too much of goody goody and that would have been a big no no for him. He was also the PO, but recently his wife divorced him but he is still an elder.

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wedding anniversarys

by Adrianoblue in

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you`ve probably had this topic before, but there always was this one thing which kept bugging me: here in germany it is pretty common for married jw couples to celebrate their wedding anniversary each year.

do jws in the us or elsewhere do the same?.

well, the reason i`m asking, is the fact that i never really understood what the hell is the difference between such an event and a birthday party?.

suchafool

I too had wondered that same thing. I asked also, and a sister told me that Jesus was at a wedding and so therefore it would be okay to celebrate an anniversary. Yeah doesn't make much sense, because a birthday is still just an anniversary of ones birth. Whats the difference.

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We Don't Want to Know Why You're Leaving

by passwordprotected in

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our exit from the watch tower society was fairly speedy.

within about 3 months, we'd ceased attending meetings and lost all of our friends (apart from hobo ken and his wife).. what was shocking - and only confirmed that we were right to leave - was how our decision was met by our so-called friends.. we were leaving behind people whom we'd enjoyed friendship for over 20 years.

we were leaving behind friends who were closer to us than our own families were.

suchafool

I wanted to tell a few friends that I was leaving, my best friend basically dumped me. When I was telling her she got a paper and pen and started writing down the things I was saying and then at the end of conversation she asked if she could go to the elders with this, I told her if thats what she needed to do, then do it. When she was walking out the door she said, "Until I see positive things from you, you won't be hearing from me". Real nice huh? After so many years of listening to her talk about how horrible her husband is and how she can't stand him, I never once went to the elders about her problems but the minute I tell her something bam, gotta go to the elders. Still pisses me off!

True friendship with them just doesn't happen. It is all conditional, and when you break that condition you are no longer someone they can be around. Its really sad because Jesus says to love your neighbor, love your enemy, but I guess when we leave we no longer apply. They miss the whole thing about love.

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Did you convert to become a JW?

by sacolton in

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what denomination did you originally belong to before becoming a jehovah's witness?.

i was methodist.

i was horrified when attending my first jw meeting and hearing the simple piano music over the speakers ... compared to the live orchestra performed at the methodist church.

suchafool

Was sorta raised Baptist.

My Dad past away in 1999 and one week after his funeral two witnesses knocked on my door. They caught me at the most vulunerable time in my life. My Dad was everything to me and I wanted answers. Thought they had it, took me 10 years later to seek the real truth about them and left last September.

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House votes to require pledges to the flag...problems coming the Witnesses' way?

by passwordprotected in

http://www.tulsaworld.com/news/article.aspx?subjectid=11&articleid=20090313_16_a1_oklaho6369.

house votes to require pledges .

the bill would make oaths to the state and u.s. flags a daily classroom event.. .

suchafool

When my daughter was in public school, (took her out 3 years ago), here in Texas, they were having to say the pledge to the US flag as well as the Texas flag and then a moment of silence. Being a Witness or anyone who didn't want their child saying this would have to write a letter explaining it and that was it.

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The cult of confession

by megaflower in

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how did you feel about telling(confessing) to elders either about yourself or something you saw that the society considered a sin against the organization?

personally, i never did because i always questioned most of the elders motive.

i did not want to be a busybody but there where many in the kh who were always monitoring others activities.

suchafool

When I was first in, a big scandel happened. Me, my ex-friend and another met for breakfast one morning, the other sis starts telling us all the terrible things about and an elder. How he was doing bad things, saying bad things about another bro. Later that day my ex-friend and I talked about it and thought she shouldn't have said those things to us and she should have never said that about and elder because he was chosen my God to be in that position and she was evil for saying those things. We let it go for a few weeks, then at book study the talked about elder announced he was no longer gonna be an elder and that bs would be at someone elses house and another conductor. We both looked at each other and then we decided to write letters about what we knew and gave them to the elders. Then a big meeting happened with all involved. The sis that told us these things denied everything. Anyway nothing happened to the sis, the elder was removed and we thought what a terrible thing that was. The sis and her family eventually left. The elder was reinstated and years later I left. But I feel like and idiot for going to them with this and believing what I believed then. I never went to them for anything else, I always felt weird to do it, but I would tell others who had problems to go and talk to the elders. How sad I was.

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New Light! Revelations Is Not True!

by sammielee24 in

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ok...we had a couple over today for a bible study.

very interesting conversation and quite enlightening.

we really wanted to be able to discuss the fallacy of the society based on it's own history.. skipped the intro and dove directly in to their watchtower of jan 15/09, back page.

suchafool

I agree with Jim_TX. I was thinking the same thing. If they no longer accept what Rutherford or Russell taught then, how would Jesus had picked them out of all the religions in the world back then. That makes them liars and not giving out the proper food then. So there would be no way that Jesus would have chosen them. But if more and more start to believe that what they taught back then is no longer truth then surely the 1914 issue would go away and then they really will be in pickle.

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A good JW studies all material

by megaflower in

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i guess i was a lousy jw because i was never very good at preparing for all the meetings.

the "special needs" talk would point out how a good dub will buy out the opportune time.

start the day with the daily text, next listen to the wt on tape as you drive to work.

suchafool

In the beginning I read everything. The daily text I really tried to read daily, but there were just too many other things I had to do. As time went on I stopped reading the daily text ( and the mags.) and only would if there was something said at the meetings about reading it. When my daughter had her best friend sleep over, her parents (her dad was a ms and then an elder) told me to make sure we did the daily text. I did because I didn't want them to think bad of me. Maybe I am not that smart, but sometimes the scripture that was discussed didn't fit with what they wrote about it.

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Does Coming To This Site Make You Feel Better?

by minimus in

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i recognized, when i first started searching the web, that there are tons of information regarding jehovah's witnesses.

most is negative toward the religion.. coming onto jwd/jwn gives one a different perspective.

you get to interact with those thinking about leaving, those who have already left and even some who never were in the cult but are fascinated by the experiences of those that were in the "truth".. when you are on this site, how does it affect you??

suchafool

Hello everyone!

I am new to this and soooo excited to be here. This site has been the best thing for me. Since leaving the JW's last September, this has been my therapy. Even though I couldn't post until now, everything I would read made me know that leaving was the best thing I ever did. I feel better about myself and my decision. Not having friends like I thought I had, this is where I will be able to speak to those who understand what I am feeling and going thru. Look forward to being a part of this family.