Only read the first page here, but the word 'extreme' got my attention other day when someone started the thread with this info in it. My dad always told us growing up that 'once is too much' and that we never had to stand for it and to leave if our future husbands did this. So I have that mentality, that one hit is one too many. The same can be said for mental/emotional abuse. BUT, having grown up with this train of mind, what did I do when my husband subjected me to a few hits and constant emotional abuse? I stayed. I felt I had nowhere to go, even though I'm extremely close to my family. I thought he would change, that he didn't mean it etc.
Eventually HE left, and I have been much happier within myself since. When I told my family the ex had hit me a few times, they just burst into tears. They wondered what they had done to raise a daughter who stayed in such a situation. I assured them it wasn't their fault.
I know MANY sisters who put up with physical abuse. I also know many 'worldly' ones who tolerate the same. I do not however, like the way the emphasis in 'christian' witness marriages says one can separate in cases of 'extreme' physical abuse. It's deplorable.