Posts by wantstoleave

my aunt's father, a formerly life-long adherent to the apostolic church, became a witness last year.. i just learned he went to the last assembly and died.

tripped and hit his head on an armrest.. i'm waiting for the next round of email that talks about jehovah protecting his people with guardian angels.

maybe he missed the memo that this guy was entitled to divine intervention..

Parakeet, love your #2 point! SO accurate!! It's been so drummed into me that even now when I don't seem to have 'luck', I wonder what I've been doing wrong that Jehovah isn't with me. And now more so since I've begun fading.

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How long did it take before you started talking to others about being an ex-dub?

by the real life in

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i was just wondering if any of you took time to speak openly about being an ex-witness.. sometimes, when it came up naturally, i told some of my friends; in other cases, i felt really uncomfortable talking about it.

in fact, it's a little strange, but i felt more comfortable telling casual friends rather than the people closest to me.

i often felt like it was a huge revelation to make, often to find that people weren't really that shocked.

wantstoleave

I'd like to say I'm fading but I kind of have one foot in, one foot out so to speak. I would love to shout from the roof tops that I'm no longer a witness, but I think I'd be more conservative and not advertise it. Other than telling those who need to know, such as my childrens teachers (because they think we're witnesses), I wouldn't need to tell many others. I've not told any work colleagues I'm a witness, so that's why I wouldn't have many to tell. If it came up in conversation, I'd probably be inclined to change the subject. Probably because it's still fresh.

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After 3 yrs, 2 mos......MY WIFE HAS AWAKENED!!! JOIN US IN A TOAST!

by Open mind in

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words fail me.. .

om & wife!.

wantstoleave

Wow fantastic news!!!! Congratulations!!

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social outcasts, or possible geniuses, is it really so bad to be 'different'? (Asperger's & Autism)

by Adalwolfa in

i've posted this already under another topic but thought to do it again and maybe open up an honest discussion.. my son has been diagnosed with asperger's syndrome or borderline autism.

since then i've read just about anything i could lay my hands on.

the thing is he is very bright but doesn't mix very well socially.

wantstoleave

Famous celebs such as Dan Akroyd and Darryl Hannah also have Aspergers.

Aspergers is on the autism spectrum, but is high functioning. My oldest son presents as Aspergers, and my youngest also the same, but more PDD-NOS (pervasive developmental disorder, not otherwise specified) which basically means he fits alot of categories of Aspergers/autism but doesn't 'fit nicely' in one particular area. Both were diagnosed by a world renowned Professor (psychology).

Children/adults with Aspergers are usually classed as 'socially awkward', in that what is normal behaviour to them is not normal to the everyday person. They need to be taught social cues - and it can be done. Many go on to marry and have families of their own. Most are extremely bright, particularly in their 'subject of interest'. They may go on and on and on about their favourite topic, interrupt conversations, go off on tangents, changing the topic to something of interest to them. They may also stand too close, not realise personal space. Their brains are wired completely differently.

Cantleave, first step is getting that diagnosis, which I know is a long road in itself. Next step is behavioural therapy if he needs help with how to control his emotions. Most Aspergers children have lots of frustration because they can't get their point across properly. Some also have anger problems. All comes down to frustration and what's going on inside their head that we can't see. I've also found that occupational therapy has helped immensely with my sons. My oldest for instance, has fine motor skills trouble, typical of Aspergers. Another area where they often lack is in comprehending speech. They may have a huge vocabulary, speak extremely well BUT often don't understand the context of what is being said or asked of them.

If you can find a good psychologist, they should be able to point you in the right direction. There is alot of help out there, but if you are like me, it is all very overwhelming when you first look at it. You're right, got to find that inner genius with your son. The trick is harnessing it and professionals will be able to help. Just hang in there

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Will there be more KH closings?

by Gayle in

http://www.patriotledger.com/news/x686278928/marshfield-religious-landmark-up-for-sale.

with local membership declining, the congregation has merged with the kingdom hall in rockland.. .

said the two congregations recently decided to combine to be spiritually stronger ... so we can continue to do our preaching work, and take care of one another.. .

wantstoleave

KHs are empty over here. Ones around here were made to seat up to 250 people each, yet at most meetings, there are barely 30 people. Most are built as 'complexes' which usually have 2 halls joined by a foyer, and 4 congregations meet. For many years people have asked why they don't combine the congregations, but due to territory size, that hasn't happened.

So, each meeting, those 30 odd people spread themselves out amongst 250 seats. Visitors must think it's hilarious seeing so many empty chairs.

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Russian JWs in Serious Trouble - about to be banned

by Dogpatch in

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although it has been leading up to this for a long time, it appears russia has made up their mind to get rid of "extremist" groups by banning them, and jws are pretty much at the top of the list.

the last few years under putin they have been giving them heaps of trouble.. .

i am not for bans as it usually backfires, but under the "new" admnistration it looks like hard-core responses are in order.

wantstoleave

King of North Russia? King of South Korea? I never quite understood all that King stuff. My dad would try and explain, but I'd tune out, just not grasping it. Robdar made sense with his post about those of us who still have relatives that are witnesses. I don't want to see my family suffer. I'm all for freedom of speech. If they are banned in Russia, then where next? The precedent will have been set. Big nation like that making worldwide news as banning witnesses will lead the way for other nations to take a closer look at Jw's. As a new fader, this is all a bit scary to be honest

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Full circle

by wha happened? in

back in 1987 i bought my 1st new car.

a 1987 hyundi excel.

no air conditioning, door locks, cruise control.

wantstoleave

I LOVE Hyundai cars! When I eventually am able to afford another car, I will buy a Hyundai.

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Australian BBQ etiquette

by Mattieu in

bbq rules.

we are about to enter the bbq season.

therefore it is important to refresh.

wantstoleave

Yeh lets all meet up at his house, I'll just fly over (45min flight)....say, arond 6pm tomorrow? Lol...