Posts by truthseekeriam

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Of the sexual abuse survivors you knew. . .

by Lady Lee in

how many fit this description provided by no longer held captive?.

as a nurse, i can tell you that their lives wont go well.

usually abused females end up neurotics and suffer from personality disorders, and more often than not, anorexic.

truthseekeriam

Lady Lee,

I thank you so much for your experience and love you bring to this forum.

I'm in a major struggle with taking that step to just give in and allow someone to know my thoughts and feelings with what has happened in our lives. My husband has really been pushing me to seek counseling because he knows I'm not even near the wife and mother I use to be before my child was molested but for some reason fear of the unknown keeps me pretending things are okay for now, fooling everyone around me just enough to lay off the pressure.

I come here and seek out your posts because I know they will help me in my need, so please know, your efforts and insight are much appreciated even though many of us just read them and are helped without saying a word.

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Wife love-bombed...HELP ME!

by Mad Sweeney in

i thought the fade was speeding up and there was light on the horizon for me and my family.

then yesterday my wife gets love-bombed and is ready to go back to the dubs.

i'm angry, cynical, depressed, disillusioned, you name it.. i don't know what to do for her.

truthseekeriam

Don't get too stressed yet. The love bombing wears off after going to a few meeting and something or someone will piss her off again and she'll stop going again.

I know for us, we tried the fade but ended up just stop going completely about 8 months ago. We get the urge sometimes to go to a meeting after running into some of the nicer ones we miss. Then sure enough will run into someone who once again reminds us why we never want to set foot in the KH again. It's a tough situation to be in, I know:( It's gets pretty lonely when your starting all over.

I've had the same conversations with my mother through tears. I just try to tell her that I'm sorry she hurts because she feels that if the big "A" comes next week we will be destroyed, but I just don't feel that way anymore. I then tell her how much I love Jehovah and Jesus and how I know they see our hearts and I'm completely okay with that. It usually calms her down enough to say that it's true that Jehovah reads our hearts and she knows we have a good reason for not trusting the elders anymore. We too agreed not to talk about spiritual matters anymore because it just gets us both upset.

I hope all goes well with your family and please know that you are not alone in what you are going through.

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Yes ANOTHER song thread. What song best describes you?

by awildflower in

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlptb6qgflk.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dxiq-qvaseo.

truthseekeriam

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qytdnP1Q9Ho

Here you go palmtree

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Yes ANOTHER song thread. What song best describes you?

by awildflower in

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlptb6qgflk.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dxiq-qvaseo.

truthseekeriam

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hcYQeBGQyGU&feature=fvst

"Superwoman"

Everywhere I'm turning
Nothing seems complete
I stand up and I'm searching
For the better part of me
I hang my head from sorrow
state of humanity
I wear it on my shoulders
Gotta find the strength in me

Cause I am a Superwoman
Yes I am
Yes she is
Even when I'm a mess
I still put on a vest
With an S on my chest
Oh yes
I'm a Superwoman

For all the mothers fighting
For better days to come
And all my women, all my women sitting here trying
To come home before the sun
And all my sisters
Coming together
Say yes I will
Yes I can

Cause I am a Superwoman
Yes I am
Yes she is
Even when I'm a mess
I still put on a vest
With an S on my chest
Oh yes
I'm a Superwoman

When I'm breaking down
And I can't be found
And I start to get weak
Cause no one knows
Me underneath these clothes
But I can fly
We can fly, Oh

Cause I am a Superwoman
Yes I am
Yes she is
Even when I'm a mess
I still put on a vest
With an S on my chest
Oh yes
I'm a Superwoman

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WELCOME CONNIED29, my former Bible study...(she's a little shy)

by AWAKE&WATCHING in

jw
friends

well sometimes life is just really good.

my former study got out of the cult before me and we have been getting to know each other again.

she visited last week, barely missed the snow storm, and now she has joined our forum.. .

truthseekeriam

Welcome

34

did you feel guilty ,when ignoring disfellowshipped ones ?

by looloo in

jw
friends

i was having an affair with a pioneer at the time and a girl who was disfellowshipped was in the loo at the hall (she actually had not done aything scriptually wrong (but the elders thought she had ) i tried to smile at her as i felt i was not in a position to judge anyone as guilt was destroying me but she just looked down at the floor , 14 years later we are good friends and both "free".

when you were "in" and ignored disfellowshipped did you ever think "im not in a position to judge anyone " ?.

truthseekeriam

Never could do it Thankfully...

My sister shunned my mother after she was disfellowshipped and their relationship has never been the same. Even after my mom went back married an elder and has been a pioneer for years, she never got over her own daughter not talking to her.

My sister now can see that she shouldn't have allowed peer pressure to dictate her conscience and totally stands behind me in my inactivity. Time and experience totally changes a person.

19

who knew a wife who was in a domestic violence situation while a jw

by looloo in

jw
friends

i knew a girl who got married at 19 despite objections from the elders , they got disfellowshipped and reinstated after 18 months , he chose her clothes and would not allow her any money , he insisted on doing the food shopping with her , he hit her if tea was not on the table when he returned from work , he broke her nose once when she was holding her 2 year old child , when she approached the elders , onesaid to her "what are you complaining about ,he hasnt broke every bone in your body , there are sisters who put up with much worse !

if a jw man is not supposed to be violent why would they not give him a telling off ?.

truthseekeriam

My mom was abused horribly by my father. I don't remember any of my young childhood or any time growing up with my dad and I was 7 or 8 when they divorced. I heard there was some good times as well. kinda sad, I don't remember those but I'm glad I don't remember the bad times. My older siblings said I would just sleep through it. Funny, but to this day when I'm overwhelmed I get real sleepy and nod off at times.

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Is your spouse a die-hard JW? Valentine's Day is coming up...

by JimmyPage in

jw
friends

... a good chance to show them how much fun the holidays can be!

send them some flowers and candy, get 'em a card... it doesn't even have to be the 14th... and if it is- how mad can they be at you?

you're showing how much you care!

truthseekeriam

Good for you

187

Favorite Love Songs?

by Robdar in

jw
friends

until recently, i have never been in love.

oh, i had lots of lust, but i cannot say honestly that i was in love.

silly love songs made me roll my eyes heavenward.

truthseekeriam

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4uKUMHXEZbk

Ribbon In The Sky lyricsOh so long for this night I prayed
That a star would guide you my way
To share with me this special day
Where a ribbon's in the sky for our love

If allowed may I touch your hand
And if pleased may I once again
So that you too will understand
There's a ribbon in the sky for our love

Do...Do...
Do Do Do Do Do...
HMM HMM...

This is not a coincidence
And far more than a lucky chance
But what is that was always meant
Is our ribbon in the sky for our love, love

We can't lose with God on our side
We'll find strength in each tear we cry
From now on it will be you and I
And our ribbon in the sky
Ribbon in the sky
A ribbon in the sky for our love

Do...Do...
Do Do Do Do Do...
HMM HMM...

[Musical Break]

There's a ribbon in the sky for our love

Our wedding song 16 years later we certainly found strength in each tear we cried with God at our side.

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Should the Ten Americans Accused of Kidnapping Stand Trial in Haiti?

by The Berean in

truthseekeriam

It's a tough call for me. I really think they were trying to do the right thing. However, I know things have to be done legally.

I have to be honest, after seeing the aftermath of the earthquake... I wanted to go and grab as many children as could and bring them home with me