Welcome hadit,
Finding out you have been lied to for so long and losing your faith in a Org you basically lived for is heartbreaking for sure. I'm so glad you have some worldly friends that should help with moving forward.
truthseekeriam
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Making the leap - lurker to member - Hello!
by Hadit inive been lurking here for the past couple of months since i started researching the organization.
i dont have many people to talk to and its been a saving grace to read your posts.. i dont really know where to start so here i go.
its been a long journey getting here and it looks as if i still have a long ways to go to get somewhere healthy, stable and strong.
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Pics of tornado damage by our house that hit FRI night
by purplesofa inthree of my kids live within two miles of where this tornado hit friday night.. it was a pretty frightful night.
my daughters apt was three inches from getting flooded.
we moved what we could to upstairs and on shelves.. stayed in half bath with grandbaby with pillows and blankets over the baby.. my son has been working at this site where it hit to help out.. these pics were taken today (sunday) can't imagine what it looked like yesterday, they said there were over 300 (worldly) .
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truthseekeriam
Okay...earthquakes aren't that bad!
Wow!! Pups I'm glad you all are okay. I'm sure a little shaken up though.
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Some thing for woman to think about
by is there help out there inalmost all woman want to get married and have children.
if you are a faithful jw woman there is a good chance this will never happen.
70% of jw are woman and 30% are men.
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truthseekeriam
My SIL opened up to me on our last visit and told me how lonely she was and how tired she was of hearing.."well you get to travel" She has been all over for International conventions and looks to be a happy single sister on the outside. Inside she wants so bad to have those feelings that she sees all around her. She is in her 40's and has never had a boyfriend or kiss and she longs for that connection not to mention she would love to have children:(
She told me it's getting so bad that when she attends weddings she feels jealous..especially because it's always some young beautiful sister. Something that she feels she could never compete with.
She says she gets plenty of attention from worldly men..coworkers but she just feels bad that she would even consider that thought.
I told her I couldn't imagine how she feels and how unfair I think it is for women to sit and wait to be the chosen one...I told her I wouldn't blame her one bit if she made a decision to make some choices that others may shun upon...At least she knows she has some support if she choses to follow her heart sometime..
It's just so sad because I know if she wasn't in the Org she would have been married with kids a long time ago. Now she may never get that chance.
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My awakening and realization that I have been told a lie
by Soldier77 inhi all, new posting, but i've been lurking for a while.
i thought it was time to "come out" as it were and voice my story.... i was born into the jw cult surrounded by all of my jw family.
grandfather was an elder for almost 40 years till he passed, both of my uncles are currently now elders and have been for the last 15 years.
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truthseekeriam
Welcome...
Very sorry for what you have been through, but I'm very happy you found this forum. You will find so many people including myself that can understand what you are going through. Sometimes, just knowing that is comforting.
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I just had my first child
by daniel-p inbaby girl, 6 lbs, 14 oz, 19-3/4in, looks like me they say.... still in awe... there were some complications, but mom and baby are doing good.
baby's down the hall in nicu and it still doesn't feel real.. .
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truthseekeriam
Oh...that new baby smell
So happy for you and your wife...
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If you felt/feel that you had/have good, close "friends" in the org, how did/does it feel to just give them up?
by Crisis of Conscience inthis is my biggest dilema.
although mentally i really feel i could walk away from the org right now, i still have genuine love for the people i have come to know over the years.
i love people!.
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truthseekeriam
My child was molested by a fellow JW.
When we weren't willing to Just Get Over the way we were treated and the lack of love shown to us and get back to meetings We realized how we really didn't have any good, close friends in the Org. The friendships were only conditional on us attending meetings.
Now we all are making new friends that could care less what we do with our time or how we worship. I'm not saying it has been easy, but it's getting there. I could never go back and trust the kind of love that they give after what we went through..never.
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Quality Men who Don't Smoke and Don't Get Drunk...
by White Dove inwhy's it so hard to find them?
it seems like everyone i see around me smokes: my apartments, every job i've ever had, people on the streets.
finding a quality guy that smells good and has a functioning brain not strung out on drugs or alcohol every week is hard to find..
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truthseekeriam
Move to California..they cant even smoke at some beaches anymore..:)
Oh, I forgot about the don't get drunk part!! Nevermind...Good luck with your search.
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Update on Brother In Laws Condition - guarded hope
by WuzLovesDubs inthis was sent out by his son today: way better than i expected to hear today.... meeting with dr. hernandez (doctor taking over his case from today for a week 4/23 12:15pm.
right now were just waiting to see if hes going to wake up.
o the cocktail of medications he was on has been discontinued to see what alert response follows.
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truthseekeriam
I hope he makes a full recovery.
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Something i've never understood, perhaps you could answer for me?
by highdose ini have never understood how adults that have had a life in the normal world could be brainwashed into this cult?
ok i know it dosn't happen very often, about 1 in every 10 years in my experiance.
but it dos happen all the same?.
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truthseekeriam
I think some are attracted to the religion because it's the only place a normal ordinary person could become someone who is praised by others because of things they can control... their speaking ability, hour spent out on service, reaching out, pioneering ect..ect.
Think about the rush the Elders get after they give a talk at the KH and there is a line of people wanting to praise him on his wonderful talk. Where else does this happen in his life? I could see how they could get wrapped up in the praise regardless of the ever changing message.
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Most Annoying Things That Happen At JW Meetings
by LittleSister intoday i was remembering how angry i used to get at the meetings and all the little irritations that in the end would just make my blood boil these included:.
prayers that go on foreverstudy or wt conductors still taking comments when its clear that the point has been covered 20 times alreadymeetings over running by more than 5 minsmy favourite was this one elder who would play guess the point i am thinking of.
he would keep rephrasing the question from the wt until someone would bring up the point he was thinking of.
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truthseekeriam
I would have to say, the brother, you know the one... that would give that long ol comment during the Wtchtower study and cover the whole public talk so he could impress the elder who gave the talk. I would call him brother brown nose (not to his face of course)